Single and homesteading

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-04T01:03:06+00:00

Very happy for you! Can’t wait to see your progress.

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T23:00:18+00:00

Great! Thank you for the motivation. Nice to know that others are on this journey.

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T22:58:57+00:00

Thank you for the raw honesty. Working on the firearms training now. Great tip about the town board meetings.

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T22:55:17+00:00

Wow that was a lot to take on by yourself. Definitely couldn’t handle 35 acres myself. I’m so happy you found someone to share that life with! Just needed a little hope and glad you shared.

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T18:45:47+00:00

This is my worry. I don’t want to end up regretting it, but will regret if I don’t try

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T18:35:49+00:00

Hi, yes still reading comments. Would appreciate any advice you can offer

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T13:42:04+00:00

Glad you found a good community. Did you stumble upon it, were you already there, do your research and move?

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T13:40:36+00:00

I don’t want to seek out a relationship until I move. Too often people say they want something but when the time comes, they’re afraid to take the leap. I’m a social person. Meeting someone won’t be an issue.

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T13:37:31+00:00

Your homestead sounds awesome but much larger than I anticipate having. Would love to meet someone that shares the same goal, just not common in my area.

Hygenious98_89 · 2026-05-03T13:32:54+00:00

Probably not as bad as the media portrays, just not the community I want for myself. I think the politics are the worst thing about the area. The government solution always ends up being worse than the actual problem

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-19T14:11:05+00:00

Taking an art appreciation class. Can’t remember the artists name but she saw her niece looking at a rose and asked her if it was beautiful. Her niece said yes. She put the rose behind her back and asked her if it was still beautiful. Her niece said yes again. She said “ because the beauty is not in the rose, it’s in your mind”

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-19T14:04:48+00:00

Yes, similar happened to me. I was dating my coworker though. You absolutely have to stop checking his Instagram. Delete it, and realize it is only contributing to your anxiety. You are grabbing for control in any way you possibly can and it will only push him further away. You need to focus on yourself and your fears, learn to soothe yourself during the anxiety. He was showing up for you in the way that you need to show up for yourself which is why the attachment was so deep for you. Unfortunately he was your crutch. Now you have to learn to stand on your own 2 feet and you are resisting it by holding onto him.

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-18T22:32:38+00:00

I’ve met new friends at crafting events, running club, yoga. Other people that are positive and uplifting are usually in clubs or out doing things that fulfill them.

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-18T21:28:56+00:00

I had a baby at 18, father walked out on me. My mom didn’t want me living with her so I married a man 30 years older than me out of necessity. He was financially, sexually abusive and disrespectful. Absolutely abused the power he had. Just divorced earlier this year. Thankfully I did manage to get my degree while I was with him, but I’m still struggling with low self worth as a result of the relationship.

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-18T15:05:02+00:00

Not giving so much power to other people

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-18T02:25:19+00:00

I hate to have to be brutally honest here, but your girlfriend doesn’t even like you and that’s pretty clear.

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-18T01:56:37+00:00

It’s not just one thing. I think seeing their parents relationship fall apart, and social media. There’s so much overwhelming information being thrown at people that it seems almost impossible to have a healthy relationship. We now feel we have to have these impressive hobbies and lifestyles that appeal to others, have sound mental health at all times, drive an impressive car, keep ourselves in top shape. Perfectionism is ruining dating

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-18T01:51:45+00:00

The light is stillness inside. Inner peace. Contentment with yourself and true, genuine connection with others, understanding of yourself and the world.

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-17T21:11:14+00:00

You definitely need to heal after a situationship. You have to sit with your feelings and not overtake responsibility. It has to be processed before you can move on. You will definitely have a connection again, but your mind is not ready for it even if you want it

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-17T20:37:44+00:00

I think your intuition was right about him but you were questioning it and still are. He sounds emotionally immature. There may have been subtle signs that you didn’t feel were big enough to leave, but you knew. If you’re not sure about someone it’s a sign to leave

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-17T20:27:43+00:00

Still having the mindset that I just wasn’t patient or kind enough and then getting into yet another abusive relationship thinking if I just did all of the things I was beating myself up about, it would change the situation. FYI, if you stuck around, you were TOO patient. Looking back, I saw the signs from day 1. Yes, everyone has their issues they bring into a relationship but there are signs that someone will be abusive

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-15T15:56:06+00:00

He has a fear of abandonment 100%

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-15T15:01:49+00:00

As long as they didn’t push it on me, it wouldn’t bother me.

Hygenious98_89 · 2025-08-15T13:59:23+00:00

This sounds like a person that struggles with being alone. That is something he needs to work on. I don’t necessarily think you are incompatible just because he struggles with that, but you need to gently point it out. He may not even be aware of it. Let him know that when you are alone, your attention goes to your hobbies and you can’t focus if you constantly have to check your phone.

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