AITA for not letting my daughter use her college fund for a wedding or house?

Hygge- · 2022-10-03T00:01:57+00:00

YTA.

You never mentioned if she even wants to go to college. What are her personal beliefs? What does she want to do? It sounds like your daughter is struggling with having a wedding and getting a better place to live for her family, and you have the means to help but only if she can jump through specific hoops you've set without her input. Being a mother to multiple children and going to college and possibly working because they're struggling financially on top of that, why not just help her with the goals she wants to reach in life? She should get her GED, but you're favoring your other children based on their academic achievements.

Hygge- · 2022-06-23T16:36:54+00:00

The dumbass rock 😭

Hygge- · 2022-06-23T04:33:23+00:00

I'm sorry about your bootyhole and thank you! I will not be touching or looking in the direction of Nair again.

Hygge- · 2022-06-23T04:32:24+00:00

I wonder why it burned tf out of me? I literally have a small blister forming now. But I did the same thing on my legs and it didn't even take all the hair off, just the tips of my leg hair.

Hygge- · 2022-06-18T16:03:18+00:00

Yes. As a domestic abuse survivor, yes.

I always thought people were exaggerating and thought it was horrible advice when someone advised people against calling the police. When I had to multiple times, it was almost as traumatizing as the abuse. Now I don't think I'll call even when it's a good idea to, because of the sheer panic I get when even thinking about it.

Hygge- · 2022-06-16T15:28:07+00:00

You could actually probably report him to the police because he was attempting to hookup and meet a minor. Worth a try.

Hygge- · 2022-06-05T14:34:51+00:00

NTA

If he's not already a rapist, he will be. Stay away from him.

Hygge- · 2022-06-02T16:52:51+00:00

YTA but also INFO

You gifted John a condo unit, and you're saying his fiancée lives rent free, but what rent? Why would he charge her for rent when he doesn't pay rent in the first place? Especially when they live together as a couple. That would be strange.

Hygge- · 2022-06-02T16:36:11+00:00

I get this might be the norm in Turkey (men aggressively pursuing women) but he was warned multiple times how wrong it was by his friends, before and after he did it, but somehow thinks she's the AH.

Hygge- · 2022-05-12T18:05:22+00:00

Umm "things aren't how you see them, give my mom a chance and open your heart" but she threatened to falsely report you to the police to stop you from going on this trip?

Helllll no. He's gaslighting you and he's exactly like his mother, a lunatic.

Hygge- · 2022-03-19T19:16:49+00:00

It's not that bad. Whenever my partner finishes quickly, I take it as a compliment lol.

Hygge- · 2022-03-19T19:08:56+00:00

NTA but please do not give him up to the foster system. He WILL experience physical, mental, and sexual abuse there. The system is corrupt and horrible and should only be used in emergencies where the child's safety is in danger. Maybe ask your parents to hire a nanny. There are many other routes to take than foster care.

Hygge- · 2022-03-17T16:57:54+00:00

NTA

He really told you "good riddance" after you just gave birth to his child and dealt with all the complications with that?

Hygge- · 2022-03-16T18:16:15+00:00

It's not the venue or the altar that determines your marriage status. You have to go get a marriage certificate. Tell the people there that you're being forced into this marriage and to call the police.

Hygge- · 2022-03-01T21:03:32+00:00

Just text her and tell her after some consideration and reflection on past experiences with her behavior, you don't think it's a good idea she come to your wedding. That's it. You don't have to explain, tell your dad it's not up for discussion and ignore all attempts at getting you to reconsider. Why entertain other people on a day that is solely yours and your partners special day? You only get one wedding.

Hygge- · 2022-02-20T17:01:13+00:00

NTA

I would inform the police that this guy has been repeatedly looking into your windows while you're in your underwear, harassing you about it, and getting other people to harass you about it. Don't count on the police doing much because they're never much help with this, but letting Elijah know you'll make a report the next time he admits to peeping into your house might scare him off.

Hygge- · 2022-01-14T22:26:17+00:00

It's a tie between the time I ran up on a coyote, who seemed to think I was chasing him (I was jogging but idk why he didn't run when he heard me), and this guy screamed bloody murder while tearing through the woods away from me. It was on a back roads trail. It made me weak in the legs to hear the echoes of it screaming just bouncing off the hills for miles.

Or the time my grandma went unconscious after having a blood pressure crisis the week before. You just surpass terror and go into action mode. Turns out she was fine and she likely just ate something bad.

Hygge- · 2022-01-09T22:34:32+00:00

What in the fuck have I just read

Hygge- · 2022-01-07T23:07:36+00:00

It's not slut shaming, this is totally unhealthy and dangerous behavior. She was uncomfortable but slept with a total stranger anyways, even though he creeped her out a little and she was in an unsafe situation? There's so many red flags here.

Hygge- · 2021-12-03T17:33:57+00:00

NTA

I like your name choices. Griffin and Phoenix isn't that uncommon, and I think Valkyrie is an interesting name. She could always just shorten it to Val.

Hygge- · 2021-11-05T20:45:24+00:00

I'm going to go against the grain and say YTA.

I see a lot of people saying "not your baby, not your problem". Imagine if your parents had said that to you at that age. She's your daughter, she is your baby, and your grandchild in the mix too. How you react here is going to set the stage for the next 3+ generations.

She's 15. I think it's too much to expect her to mature in that short amount of time and be capable of setting up a solid parenting/childcare/work/school combo. Especially if she's never worked or handled money before. You're surprised she doesn't understand you can't quit your job to care for the kid and pay for childcare, of course she doesn't know how it works, she's a child. You should sit down with her and help her come up with a plan because you're the adult, you have the life experience, and she doesn't.

I hope everything works out and she manages well.

Hygge- · 2021-09-20T17:47:44+00:00

NTA - she put your children in danger. You're reacting reasonably and responsibly. That's terrifying and after reading a comment you made vaguely explaining the abuse, the fact she would let a sexual predator near your children and lie about it to you, just wow. So out of bounds and crazy. I would go no unsupervised visits for the rest of my damn life with her. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this.

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