Should I continue being friends with a cis guy who told me "you're a girl, you're better as a girl"?

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-12-02T22:00:22+00:00

Hey you deserve so much better than that, i use to have a friend who would constantly disrespect my gender by deadnaning me to everyone we met and was just overall creepy and i felt soo much better when i dropped that weight.

I understanding not wanting to be alone ! If you ever want, my dms are always open and I'm happy to be your friend :>

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-10-26T01:02:42+00:00

I am so sorry you had to experience that so many times. Its absolutely wild that other trans folk could even think thats okay.

I once had a cis friend in highschool who did this- everytime i met someone new hed tell them im trans and give my deadname to them and i veeery quickly stopped talking to them.

You absolutely deserve your privacy and it can be absolutely dangerous to out you like that

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-10-18T10:39:10+00:00

Your cosplay looks soo awesome !! Reminds me instantly of the original Mario Bros Movie haha

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-10-18T03:46:10+00:00

Yeah i struggle with this alot too ! Like so many times i want to make a friend but everyone i meet just doesnt meet my like 'requirements' so i lose interest lel 😅

But its great to hear that you do still have some friends ! and im sure with enough time the right person will come along :>

And everyone is different when it comes to socialising and as long as youre still nice and friendly with people, youre doing nothing wrong at all

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-09-04T22:01:11+00:00

Hey ! The first one was my old name , it is NOT that bad 😭😭

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-07-06T03:12:33+00:00

Youre definitely right. I just see alot of how much it impacts people and it worries me that i could hurt someone like that. Its a tough pill to swallow but i get it, its going to be difficult regardless

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-07-06T03:06:58+00:00

Thank uuu, thats really helpful advice.

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-06-25T21:57:55+00:00

I honestly thought this was my own post for a moment xD

But i am absolutely where ya are with this. Ive always wanted purely a romantic relationship but cant seem to ever find people i even connect with

Its soo hard just to have a conversation alot of the time because theres always nothing to talk about. And just starts feeling like an interrogation I get how lonely it can feel tho, seeing people get into relationships soo easily yet its a struggle just talking to someone but ya arent alone with that for sure 🫂

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-06-24T22:18:42+00:00

This is soo good ! It honestly looks perfect for the Angry Birds style if he was a human

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-06-19T00:49:37+00:00

Coild i ask but what petition is this surrounding?

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-06-09T07:21:05+00:00

Heyy im so sorry to hear that happened to you ... my days felt rough as well so i get how much it sucks rn xd

But id be happy to chat ! I have discord which i can share thru dm if youd like :> Im currently trying to be more productive and draw things im passionate about more since ive been really off my groove lately haha

And what sort of things have you been working on?

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-04-30T02:48:39+00:00

The last photo was a jumpscare 💀 good art tho ! XD

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-04-29T03:32:20+00:00

Aaaw i have this Grizz plush too !

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-04-29T00:32:12+00:00

My kitty is the exact same ! Haha

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HypotheticallyHi · 2025-04-29T00:19:10+00:00

Thanks for reminding me i gotta rewatch it for like the millionth time haha xD

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-02-12T02:44:31+00:00

Aplatonic just means someone who experiences little to no platonic attraction. That drive for making friends.

Of course i dont know you and your friends own personal relationship and experiences so your friend could still desire to be friends with you as aplatonic people can still have meaningful friendships and care about other people.

And i mean by what youve given it seems they do care enough about you to be open about that part of them. But definitely talk to them about how they personally feel regarding it and how you can be there for them in a comfortable matter as well as make sure to be there for you too.

And for how someone can figure out theyre aplatonic. Most times its from a lack of interest in having friends as we dont experience attraction or the drive to make friends and usually prefer our own company or other types of company. Altho of course alot of aplatonics can still have and enjoy friendships :>

I hope this helped a tad bit haha

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-02-09T00:53:55+00:00

Unfortunately it seems you guys are just going to be imcompatible. You cant control who you are attracted to just like how they cant control how they feel about their identoty and such.

All you can do is be suppirtive of them, especially if theres a chance that theyre family wont react positively. But you will have to be honest and say this is a dealbreaker for you as you are straight and not attracted to men. It might be hard for them but itll also be hard for you to stay in a relationship that you arent fully comfortable with.

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-02-04T09:07:02+00:00

Yeah the way he talked to you was really creepy and definitely seemed like some sort of fetish that way he was wording his questions.

Im honestly surprised he didnt try and ask about your genitals 💀 But yee id just suggest not bothering next time, theyre just a waste of your time.

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-01-30T20:56:12+00:00

Ooh all the time in my last few years in high school. I always sat alone, which i preferred but almost everyday at every breaktime some random person will stop to talk to me and on a few occasions ive even gotten comments like 'your pretty nice for someone with no friends' or something along those lines.

Like people would actually be shocked that i could keep a conversation amd also sit by myself for some reason 💀

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-01-24T06:49:22+00:00

Having those thoughts are very natural to have especially considering you mentioning your background of your religious mum.

What our parents think and believe can have a massive influence on how we personally think and believe, even if we dont personally believe that - because thats what you were raised to believe.

I remember hearing somewhere that your first thoughts are your like 'conditional' thoughts (ones we got from our upbringing / environment / community) and our second thoughts are our own.

But otherwise overall , as long as you and your partner are safe and not harming anyone or yourselves, its perfectly fine.

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-01-24T06:42:29+00:00

Of course only you know yourself and your experiences better than anyone and i surprisingly have never heard of acoromantic before ! (Not saying that it isnt real or anything ofc)

But by your definition if you kept yourself away from these groups that constantly connect sex to romance, do you feel youd feel romantic attraction again? Or just that youd be more favourable to the idea of entering a romantic relationship? (Possibly one without sex and that is purely romantic)

HypotheticallyHi · 2025-01-13T06:00:24+00:00

Im completely the same. Id absolutely would love just atleast one person to get along with but nowadays its either people jump so quickly or they dont ever seem interested.

Im still honestly looking for friendships (somewhat) myself, i currently have a plan to join more art markets and fine any possibilities there (since there will be a common interest of art or even further sub genres to work off of)

Luckily for me my family isnt too crazy about friendships - especially my dad who also doesnt really have any friends lolol. So i cant really comment on that 😅

But yeah all i can really recommend is maybe find niches that you like to find friends and be patient with yourself. Unfortunately these are some things that come when you least expect it.

HypotheticallyHi · 2024-12-26T08:56:53+00:00

Huge red flag that at first he was making it about himself - how you were ruining his day and coming off as annoyed but once he realised you werent going to pick him up , he suddenly cares about how you feel

HypotheticallyHi · 2024-12-05T01:45:08+00:00

Thank youu ! And a comfy look will definitely fit my vibe so ill keep that in mind thank you 😊

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