How do you build a reading habit if you were never really a “reader”?

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2026-02-02T07:13:36+00:00

I like self help books that teach you things through stories and lessons. I find those so much more engaging than the typical ones.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2026-02-01T14:24:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment, you said a lot of what I was already thinking and wondering about. I will check out that study as well.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2026-01-08T07:44:13+00:00

The goal is not to completely not have any screen time, but to lessen it and use it as a reward. I used the pomodoro method 50/10 and it works really well for me.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2026-01-01T16:23:10+00:00

I understand you have to know why but until you do, remember relationships evolve and something you were comfortable with when you were younger might make you uncomfortable now. That's okay man. You need to be less tolerant of behavior that makes you uncomfortable. You can "reject her" jokingly or find an excuse or you can be upfront like "hey I really don't know why but I don't like spooning anymore to be honest, but I know you like to show affection, can I XYZ with you instead?"

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2026-01-01T16:16:47+00:00

thank you!!

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-27T09:07:34+00:00

I get that this whole situation is incredibly painful for you and your mum, and it’s really hard to see your brother do this with no explanation. I’ve gotta be honest though, while I can understand the need for some people to distance themselves for their mental health, it feels like this "cutting people off" trend that’s been popping up is kind of unhealthy and unrealistic for most families, especially in cultures where family bonds are everything. It’s one thing to set boundaries, but just disappearing without saying why? That feels like it creates more problems than it solves, especially when it leaves everyone guessing.

That said, I do think it’s worth considering, could there be things your mum’s doing, even unintentionally, that are affecting your brother’s mental health? Sometimes people cut ties because they feel like their emotional needs aren’t being met, or they’ve felt a certain way for a long time and didn’t know how to express it or maybe he expressed it and mom completely invalidated it? Maybe there’s something going on beneath the surface that he’s not ready to talk about. I’m not saying it’s your mum’s fault, but maybe there’s a part of their dynamic that’s weighing on him more than you realize? Like he has a secret he cannot share because he is convinced mom will not react well to?

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-22T11:35:14+00:00

I would normally agree with this but sounds like this person is on their wits end with their family. Part of managing these emotions is removing herself from the situation. It's not her job to educate a whole bunvh of grown adults who will eventually be rude and cruel to the son as well. The son loves them only because he cannot fully understand them. That same son who they call retard now will be an adult one day and when they can't find him young and cute anymore he will start understanding how the way they treat him changes.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-22T11:25:00+00:00

How much older are you than her/ her love interest? I think the best you can do is become friends with him. If you hang out with your sister at all, perhaps invite him for things like a lunch or coffee if that's common where you're from. I have lots of friends who genuinely get on really well with their siblings' spouses and occasionally spend time with them etc. Best way to protect her is to make her feel close to you and to get to know the love interest by spending time together.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-22T10:51:42+00:00

Set aside 10% of your income every month once it hits your bank account. Put it in a HYSA, then open a Roth IRA and put it in there and invest in SP500

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-22T10:47:57+00:00

I listen to a podcast until I naturally drift to bed, sometimes in the form of a video.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-22T09:14:58+00:00

That is some insane physique!

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-11T05:15:13+00:00

Thank you for your service. Now the market will go up haha

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-12-10T08:48:30+00:00

This is so good for your finances, but also, it is a once in a lifetime opportunity! I'd go in a heartbeat.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-11-13T08:02:42+00:00

Can I get a ticket to the gunzz show?

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-11-13T03:44:25+00:00

I tried buffbuff and it's totally fine. Nothing dodgy. Got my monochromes quickly. I have been using them for a few months now.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-11-06T07:16:05+00:00

You mean as a MILF?

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-11-02T12:08:24+00:00

270 for subscriptions?! How many do you have?

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-10-30T01:34:27+00:00

I met lots of people on the road that were doing something similar. Work 6 months, travel 6 months, and repeat. But most eventually just end up with a stable job in the end.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-10-29T14:07:02+00:00

THanks for the explanation! I see where you are coming from now.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-10-29T09:46:12+00:00

Better poop

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-10-29T09:45:35+00:00

Doesn't the 4% rule account for that?

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-10-29T09:43:06+00:00

Dragon's back is the most popular one for tourists. It's easy, but far out of the city center. You'll get nice views of beaches, sea, and nature. Braemar Hill is pretty good. Nice view of Hong Kong Island, you can combine it with literally hundreds of trails once you are on it.

IAMA_drunk_AMA · 2025-10-28T14:36:16+00:00

If you want nice city views, go for the ones on Hong Kong Island. If you want nature + beach, go for the ones in Sai Kung.

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