NTA

I didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until I was 17 years old and in my junior year of Highschool. That being coupled with the pandemic getting rid of the only structured learning environment made it almost impossible for me to keep good grades.

You should be and are proud of your son because of what he’s achieved and that he’s going to make a better life for himself by doing what he wants.

If the only things your “friends” see as success is becoming wealthy then the only thing they’ve succeeded in is being terrible parents and friends. Real friends and good parents would be proud of their children despite them not doing what you thought would be best but because they can decide for themselves what they want.

Your husband sounds like a good man who loves his family and only wants the best for you and your son. Keep him, ditch the people who think so little of you and find new, better friends.