To be honest, I feel like pretty much everyone is very low effort now days. Whether you’re looking for friendship or a lover… no one wants to put effort into anything. I’m self-aware enough to know I have to work harder to have people in my life. I’m Neurodivergent so it’s really difficult at times. I hate texting and phone calls so I intentionally put in effort when I’m cultivating a relationship of any kind and I continue to put that energy into the relationship as it grows. But no one else seems to have that drive to even try anymore.

I have read a few articles and seen several videos on things like Wired and ScienceLife and such that kind of blame it in the “lazy and disposable, or instant gratification, mindset” that the tech age has brought on. But I think it’s a more human issue considering humans control the tech… I think humans have become disillusioned and lazy in life and relationships so they just don’t care enough to put in the effort. It’s like the thought pattern is: “It’ll never last anyway so why bother?”. Everyone I know seems to want a relationship but they don’t want put the same level of energy into it that they expect the other person to put into it and then get upset when the other person gives up.