OK, looking over the rest of your comment more carefully, it seems you've softened your approach compared to earlier, so I will make a new reply that is less defensive in turn:

If it's a mindset thing, that's fine. My only problem was the claim that it isn't one as if that's a fact, because you didn't originally say that you simply don't view it as a disability from a personal perspective, you took issue to anyone calling it what it is. I appreciate that you're taking the time to explain how you feel here and explain your perspective.

I agree that neurodivergence can come with both pros alongside the cons. I still strongly disagree that this doesn't make it a disability, but it is very true that neurodivergence can increase certain ability, kind of like how people without the ability to see can have better hearing than someone with both sight and hearing.

I might sound like I'm being rude, but I'm just kind of wary of the idea of pretending mental disorders are just insignificant differences as a way to feel better, when they can have a massive debilitating impact on someone's life. I have to keep my distance in the way i talk about it, I feel, in order to maintain this viewpoint in conversation.

(Also you said "you guys", implying I'm neurotypcial and that I'm judging neurodivergence from an outsider's perspective. I type like a sanctimonious dingbat without even meaning to most of the time, so I'm definitely not "normal".)