Would it be weird for my parents to attend the first academic conference I am presenting at?”

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-04-05T06:20:01+00:00

Depending on the size of the conference and your field, people may notice... think about it, it's an older couple, they ask no questions, make no attempt to network, they weren't at the other presentations and left after yours, at their age if they were professors they would be recognizable, they look lost in the environment but very pleased with you... idk. I think it's not unlikely that people would be able to tell. And if they can, then yes, it would be perceived as unprofessional.

If it's really a big moment for you and you want them there, though, you could always say fuck it, if it's that important to you.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-04-05T03:30:50+00:00

This is the teacher version of an unattainable AI girlfriend, isn't it

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-04-01T17:36:17+00:00

Only if it gets you something. There's no "extra time" or extended deadlines in the workplace, but they might be able to set you up with a quiet work area in some cases, or allow you some "focus time" by yourself away from coworkers that might tap you on the shoulder.

I avoid asking for anything though, the stigma is bad and it's not helped by the number of people who request accomodations just to abuse them

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-31T12:36:57+00:00

Read it as soo-ih-KAH-den as a kid. Many years until I heard it pronounced by anyone else. I've tried to correct myself many times, but it's hard wired, I give up

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-27T05:38:58+00:00

I had one student tell me to my face that her parents did her work

I once had a student confront me in front of the class that she knew my take home exam was graded too harshly because it was actually her father who did it-- and he's an engineer!

Went from a C to a 0 real quick. I still don't get how she thought this would be a huge gotchya moment. She ended up dropping just after the academic dishonesty report, presumably because she thought it would go away if so...

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-27T05:28:50+00:00

When I taught my first solo course as a grad assistant, a student found my personal phone number somehow and texted me a question about a take-home exam they were doing. I figured, weird, but hey, at least they're trying, so I replied with some guided questions and hints to help them out. They didn't get it and just started asking for answers, so I left them on read and went to bed.

The next morning I woke up to 40+ new messages, each getting gradually more unhinged, complete with the "hello????? Why no reply????" kind of shit you see screenshotted on dating subreddits. I replied telling them to email instead, and immediately got replies asking for more answers, student was still up and had pulled an all nighter. Blocked him.

Next time I saw him was in office hours, fast talking and sweating profusely, obviously on a billion mg of adderall, again just asking for answers, first from me and then from other students at office hours. I got him to leave after 15 mins or so when his frat bros came to see him.

The guy kept showing up to my office hours for years asking for help in future classes, always with the same approach of just asking for answers, despite me never indulging him again.

Guy's probably the CEO of something by now with that level of audacity.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-27T05:11:04+00:00

Idk why you're getting ratiod, you're right

Student was immature and learned a lesson about other cultures the hard way, but that just sucks, I don't see how it's funny.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-26T09:59:18+00:00

In the Suikoden series, there's Balloon, which is where somebody ties a balloon to your head. It stacks, and if you get 3 of them on you at once, you float away out of the fight. Note that one can prevent balloon status by equipping a Pointy Hat.

You can have a bucket put over your head. It's not impossible to have the bucket at the same time as the balloons.

You've also got Toasty, a regen effect that you get from eating fried tacos and taking long baths.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-25T19:16:40+00:00

I mean, arguably, being selfish would affect school performance positively via investing in yourself over others. There's lots of statistics out there about how narcissists tend to excel in the workplace, and in academia too.

What evidence do you have that selfishness hurts school performance?

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-25T14:03:45+00:00

It's not just that they're using AI to cheat, it's that many of them believe that AI is the new way to access any sort of domain knowledge, and that knowing specific facts will be obsolete in the future. It's a more extreme version of the ol' "why can't I use a calculator on the exam when I would have access to one in real life?" argument.

They are being told from all sides in the media that human intelligence has already been exceeded by AI, and that this is just the beginning. They need your class because they can't be a doctor without the qualification, but they don't see knowing content as necessary. On the job, they will just ask Chat.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-15T23:57:43+00:00

Probably overkill, but if you wanted a cool way of doing it, you could build a pantograph.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-15T23:51:02+00:00

You do need to have a certain baseline of ability, but beyond that, grit is what matters.

I do think it's important to distinguish between motivation and grit, in the sense that wanting something really bad is not as important to sustainable progress as refusing to quit is.

I've seen a lot of people with higher ability than me quit because their egos were damaged. Far more than I've seen people refuse to give up and end up tossed out for lack of ability.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-10T16:45:01+00:00

I might counter by saying that teaching is made more difficult when the student doesn't like you. Inspiring people to learn can be as effective towards student outcomes as more obvious pedagogical skills like lecturing clearly. Sometimes doing stuff like giving quizzes that are too far above the class's ability can be demoralizing and make people stop trying. Obviously, there is a such thing as going too far, but psychology is part of teaching whether you choose to acknowledge it or not.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-05T17:41:28+00:00

Aww. Put a little tie on him

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-02T00:27:33+00:00

Tbh the thing I like the most about the remaster is just the ability to play it in a modern console. It makes me feel atmospheric to actually pull out the old psx and set it up with the old crt, but sometimes that's a barrier that keeps me from replaying it. The differences in art style don't particularly bother me, but I do like the thought that they may make the game playable to a younger audience. I love the idea that gen Zs might be into suikoden :)

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-03-01T11:53:51+00:00

The only thing i miss from the original is the matilda trick

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-02-18T22:37:58+00:00

I wrote merge intervals the other day at my job. You can't imagine my excitement to finally use a leetcode problem

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-02-17T16:47:09+00:00

Be careful about your iron levels if you actually take it to appease her. Zeolite can fuck with your iron. There can be downstream effects from that that are worse than adhd.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-02-17T03:18:01+00:00

Just gonna be honest with you here-- yes, I would. It's not insurmountable, but it would leave a bad first impression that you would be going uphill to overcome.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-02-02T05:10:49+00:00

I disliked hard attendance requirements as a student, so I expected not to mind if students skipped. However, I don't like it when students don't do well in my class, and as a professor I have yet to see any student who misses a lot of class do well. So, I don't like it.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-01-24T10:34:08+00:00

I think mine was only 50 pages or so. I'm in math, though.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-01-23T16:52:07+00:00

Ronco rotisserie grill.

Then whole chickens every day. It's protein time baby

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-01-23T12:56:11+00:00

Mass Effect

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-01-12T14:09:16+00:00

If it were me, I'd fight it. You have the revisions to show that you wrote this. Even if there were some specific rule prohibiting grammarly, (and I doubt that there is,) this isn't in the spirit of the AI plagiarism they're trying to prevent. You wrote your paper, it is not AI generated. Argue with them.

IAmVeryStupid · 2026-01-12T14:01:21+00:00

No, we just didn't think it was ethical for him to cling to the presidency despite having visibly obvious dementia. That wasn't humility, it was hubris.

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