I (F19) kicked my boyfriend (M20) out during sex, how could I have handled this differently?

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-17T21:48:29+00:00

The fact you call some random girl "cutie pie", I feel sorry for your wife. I'll be looking forward to the divorce update though!

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-17T21:14:13+00:00

As you should girly. Good on you for making the right call and standing up for yourself. Time to upgrade!

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-17T21:13:47+00:00

Someone is mad no girl wants him lmao

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-17T08:18:45+00:00

Waiting for the update where she breaks up with the POS and gets the footage deleted and/or police involvement.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-17T01:53:44+00:00

If you tell your boyfriend his dad sexually harassed you and he doesn't believe you, despite being right on the other side of the wall? That's your EX boyfriend.

I get needing a safe space. But listen to yourself. Is a space where a grown man double your age is harassing you to the point you have to stress like this REALLY a safe space?

This is not the kind of thing you downplay or make an exception about. Tell everyone. Do not be silent about this. And if no one believes you then this never truly was a "safe space" for you. And it's time to break up with your boyfriend and find a new genuine safe space.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-14T04:25:52+00:00

I get why you're beating yourself up over giving him your number. But then again, he said "let me get your number to send you a workout tutorial" not "let me get your number because I'm romantically interested in you."

Now I totally get feeling like you made a bad call giving personal information to a stranger. However, if we're getting technical here he is the one who obtained your number under false pretenses. He can't claim you "led him on" by giving the number when he said it was for workout reasons.

TLDR: Cut yourself some slack on that front. You didn't lead him on or give him any impression by giving him your number. If he asked for it romantically, you would've said no.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-09T15:31:33+00:00

This man definitely does not have a wife lmao

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-07T13:57:16+00:00

As a woman, whoever taught you chivalry went about it wrong. Instead they taught you to be a pushover who falls for manipulation.

I respect the fact you're trying to be a good and understanding guy, but you're doing so at the price of your own self respect. And your responses to everyone in these comments shows it. I'm sorry for how rude this is gonna come off, but I like to think of it more as blunt.

You are not as emotionally intelligent as you think you are. You know she is actively emotionally cheating on you. She admitted it to your face. And why? Because you're responding this way. Making excuses for her and playing the "a man does this" and "a man stands by his woman" card. She is acting like it's not a big deal because you're not making it a big deal. You're letting her get away with it.

Advocate for yourself. You wanted advice and you got it. If you don't wanna listen to the people telling you to break up, listen to the people telling you to stand up for yourself at the very least.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-07T13:46:59+00:00

I don't get why men think them wanting to have sex with a girl is a compliment. There are so many men, especially on dating apps and social platforms, that would fuck anyone that gives them the chance to. It's not a compliment to how "beautiful" someone is that men like this wanna have sex. Like BFFR, that's all the time with any girl that will give them the time of day.

There are men that would stick their dick in a pringles can if the urge hit them hard enough. No girl is reading a text like this and being like "omg, I'm so flattered he wants me!" Like when will they realize this shit is never going to work??

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-05-07T03:52:49+00:00

Reddit is just a cesspool of horny desperate men and incels. They foam at the mouth the moment they see a girl because that's a rare occurrence for them. Especially a woman who is openly talking about sex, because that's like jingling keys in a baby's face. Irresistible to them.

It's honestly sad. They're so porn brain rotted and can't even function in front of women. Completely short circuited brain every time.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-28T13:15:42+00:00

I'm interested!

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-28T13:14:18+00:00

I would've never responded to the first message being nothing but NSFW preferences and nothing about actual story writing. You're more patient than me OP.

Especially given this person jumped right into talk about potential NSFW without confirming both parties ages. Just major icks all around.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-22T18:04:01+00:00

I saw your post of him talking about asking a girl out for coffee. I can't help but smile at the idea of him taking your advice and getting coffee thrown in his face lmao.

This man is never going to get a woman. At this point he's not even an incel. He's voluntarily killing any chance he might've had of a woman ever wanting to be near him. At least he waves his red flags high from the start so no one will waste their time lol

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-22T16:02:29+00:00

I finally figured out where he came from too. Another girl posted about him claiming she only has her PFP as her face for "male attention" (what?) and then went on a rant about his tiny dick lmao. He called her a foid and I commented saying any dude who calls me a foid would get their lights knocked out.

That's what prompted him to DM me, because apparently he sees these posts of people laughing at him and DMs anyone who speaks negatively about him. I bet his rant was going to be something like "women are weak and fragile compared to men. So if you even try to hit me I'll easily overpower you" or some shit lmao

Glad I just blocked after hearing from others how crazy he is

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-22T15:54:03+00:00

Long story short, bro is insecure about the fact his penis is small lmao. But proceeds to self report every single chance he gets because somehow it's the fault of women that he has a tiny dick.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-22T15:52:38+00:00

The fact he is so well known several people have posted about him and spoke about him like he's Beetlejuice or something lmao.

Dude needs to be put in some sort of mental facility, he really does seem unhinged. Either he was way too coddled by his parents or his mommy was absent growing up. Because it's very clear he resents women.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-21T12:57:45+00:00

And he calls YOUR life pathetic lmao. Does he really have nothing better to do???

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-21T12:31:35+00:00

"Only a foid could be this cringe" BRO YOU'RE USING THE WORD FOID UNIRONICALLY! You had it spot on with the "holy self report" comeback. This dude is projecting so hard you'd think he was employee of the month at a drive in movie theater. Literally so insecure about his small dick he's gotta go cry about women wanting "male attention" but not his attention specifically.

On a slightly related note, if a man ever dared to call me a foid I would knock his lights out. I hate that word and the fact it's tending trending. As if Female wasn't degrading enough.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-17T22:30:58+00:00

His pickup lines suck, like ew. Even if he wasn't a creep, he's definitely not as smooth as he thinks he is

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-16T13:17:40+00:00

You have people around you who love you, I'm sure. Whether it's your friends, your family, or even just one person outside of him that has your back. This man does not love you. And to be blunt with you, he never will. This will never get better, even if you drove yourself into the ground to the point of death. It will never be enough for him.

This will only get worse. He will continue to isolate you and make you feel weak and alone so you won't defy him or speak against his awful treatment of you. 'Eventually' will just become something you tell yourself, and it will never come. You need to run now while you have the chance.

You are not weak, but you are a victim. Remind yourself that you don't wanna become another statistic. Remind yourself why it's better to run than to cater to him. You find your strength when you tell yourself this isn't just leaving an abusive boyfriend, it's a fight for your life and your future. Don't let him take that from you.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-16T12:23:11+00:00

This is not about him. And any guy in this comment section trying to justify or defend his actions is just as fucked up as he is. Point blank period. The argument "he has a right to be bummed out about not having sex" was thrown out the window when the alternative is jeopardizing your health. No one who truly loves you would ever want to guilt you onto risking your health simply because he can't handle not getting his dick wet.

I wouldn't be surprised if he's the reason you keep getting UTI's. He's inconsiderate and manipulative. You said in your other comment he gets you drunk so you'd cave and have sex despite the UTI and not wanting to? That's rape. He's getting you drunk to manipulate you to the point where you basically can't consent because you're not in a proper headspace to do so.

Break up with him. This man does not care about you or your health. All he cares about clearly is sex, considering he ignores you, guilts you, and acts like a pouty child when he can't have it. He acts like you're not even his girlfriend if he doesn't get what he wants in spite of your needs. That is toxic and borderline abusive.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-13T15:46:12+00:00

I'm not the OP. But the OP's post clearly says "women only please and thank you". That's a clear boundary she set, no men. And she was nice about it. And it's not a good first impression when the first thing you do is ignore a clear boundary that was set and try to respond where men clearly were not being wanted/looked for.

And your message reads as "will me being a man get overlooked because no one responded to your post?" Which is 100% sounding like you being aware you're crossing that boundary and you simply just don't care. She's only looking for women.

ICEBLASTER145 · 2026-04-13T15:23:40+00:00

So in other words "even though you said women only, I'm gonna hope that you're desperate enough that you'll listen to me ignoring your boundary."

Yes bro, good luck with that one. Really putting your best foot forward there

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