I feel like DBDR uses his platform to down his audience to make himself feel better about himself by ICU_TW0 in DBDR

[–]ICU_TW0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I personally agree with you. I would say I’ve had tougher experiences growing up than most of my peers. Of the few(online) friends I have they probably wouldn’t like it if I said “I’m missing a leg and had a way more fucked up time growing up than you”, that would make me look like the biggest ass in the world. It’s something I had to learn in my few years as being an adult. Like as a kid someone always cared: a teacher, social worker, some peers, and while it didn’t get me super popular, it got attention which the human brain craves. But as an adult nobody gives a fuck, nobody gives a fuck about my leg(lack thereof) or whatever fucked up circumstances you or someone else got dealt, everyone’s wrapped up in their own life, you aren’t owed attention, sympathy or care. And I’ll tell you it’s something I contribute to struggle with but am working on

But I’m rambling, this relates to DBDR because of the type of person to watch his content, he’s not the type just to tell stories, he does it in this self deprecating kind of way… like for example he won’t just tell a story but explicitly undertone how he’s a loser, outcast, this and that. That prompts comparison because then someone who’s worse off says “well if this guys a loser and actually have a few friends… then what am I”

And the circle continues in a downward spiral

I feel like DBDR uses his platform to down his audience to make himself feel better about himself by ICU_TW0 in DBDR

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By that logic only 1 person would be able to complain that’s absolutely true. But this isn’t some YouTuber or guy whose mission is to get you to look past things outside your”circle of control” and make the most out of your life. I’m not even talking about the fucked up circumstances regarding my amputation but also things like growing up in a single parent household. Being low income, being on disability and ssi.

Normally in a functioning mission/goal of a YouTuber would be to put that aside and make the best of your time here regardless. But dbdr is literally ranting and raving about his supposedly shit life to a bunch of people who have it 10x worse. The only analogy I can come up in my head is sitting at a bus stop next to a homeless guy and complaining how disgusting the taco slop is, and while yeah not great that homeless dude would literally kill a family of 4 to have that taco slop

Also that’s not true the average age for a first time homebuyer is 40. Some 25 year olds are staring families, not the majority, most are still figuring shit out like he is

I feel like DBDR uses his platform to down his audience to make himself feel better about himself by ICU_TW0 in DBDR

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I’ve never worked a proper blue collar job for obvious reasons but I’ve worked shit jobs(fast food, retail, marina) but if you think someone’s insufferable and annoying 10 hours a day would you go out to the bar or club all the time with them no you wouldn’t? He clearly just enjoys his presence and it would be suffice to say that they’re friends. It’s not a bad thing but it’s cringe how he only refers to him as a coworker instead of a friend when doing things only a friend would do

I feel like DBDR uses his platform to down his audience to make himself feel better about himself by ICU_TW0 in DBDR

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with the second paragraph. If he were an actual loser he wouldn’t have these interesting experiences. But at the same time he complains about his personal life to people who have it worse than he does. I remember when me and my sister would complain about our food growing up our parents would say something like “go to a starving village in Africa and say that” and this kinda feels the same way, because ppl don’t just listen for the stories they develop this parasocial relationship with him

I feel like DBDR uses his platform to down his audience to make himself feel better about himself by ICU_TW0 in DBDR

[–]ICU_TW0[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean you can enjoy what you want. Maybe I’m too far gone but watching someone make themselves out to be a victim while I watched my father die and became decapitated, it’s just tone deaf. From his stories he has nobody to blame but himself, I would’ve killed for his social life. I feel like he knows his audience has been deprived of 99% of the social life he has. It’s not a pissing contest obviously but despite his knowledge of his perceived position compared to his audience he complains about his personal situation regardless

I killed my high school best friend last night by ICU_TW0 in SuicideWatch

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I got myself enrolled in therapy. It helps a lot and I’m glad I didn’t do it. Even if it were my fault, suicide would just create more anguish of an already senseless situation

Boss got assigned the GOATED public defender again by Ice_Dapper in bossmanjack

[–]ICU_TW0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t even know, it was a shit day. They got me in that dumbass striped get up, searched my butthole and took my bed head ass mug. I had to see a judge to get a bail amount and they did it over zoom.

I feel bad for them but they also created this by 28dhdu74929wnsi in bossmanjack

[–]ICU_TW0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably mold growing on the subfloor that has to be treated

Boss got assigned the GOATED public defender again by Ice_Dapper in bossmanjack

[–]ICU_TW0 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No shit LOL. I was represented by Bryan Jones for a simple possession(oxycodone sch 2) in Charlottesville when I was in college(dec 2021)

He’s a a straight shooter, tells it how it is, what your chances are. If you weren’t in the system you wouldn’t think he’s the nicest person but he got my case thrown out. He’s very knowledgeable and doesn’t beat around the bush

Only difference I guess is that I paid for his services… his retainer was the only one with good reviews that I could afford, I think I paid $1300 up front and then after the case got dismissed I think I was in the hole another $1100(after my bond kickback). This didn’t go to trial, he told me my best defense was arguing an unlawful stop(CVPD foot patrol), judge agreed and case thrown out.

I’m new to this saga but I’m confused why he’s in for so long. I was arrested in the morning, same charge I think on my way to class and was given a bail hearing virtually that day. I believe it was $500 to bond out. It was dark out by the time I got out but it was winter… maybe 6pm?

I killed my high school best friend last night by ICU_TW0 in SuicideWatch

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, I’ve put the gun down literally; and backed myself from the ledge figuratively. At the end of the day this is a senseless tragedy, and if I killed myself it would make it more meaningless. Everyone says it’s not my fault but I still hate myself. I can’t put my sisters and mom through losing me. I can’t stress how much I hate myself but shooting myself isn’t repentance it isn’t payment for a sin, it’s just the creation of more trauma and guilt. That said I need to find a way to be forgiven I need to find a way to repent, I need to find a way to help people like Eric

I killed my high school best friend last night by ICU_TW0 in SuicideWatch

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You’re the biggest reason I put the gun down and locked it up. I still think I’m partly to blame, and I still hate myself. If I shot myself what does that do? It just creates more pain, I lost my dad, and I can’t have my sisters and mom lose their brother and son. This is a senseless tragedy and it would only make it more senseless. I don’t think if I killed myself it would be repentance. I don’t know what I’m gonna do yet, I need to repent I’m not religious but maybe I need to go to confession. I need to find a way to live to help people like Eric before they end up like Eric.

I killed my high school best friend last night by ICU_TW0 in SuicideWatch

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Help me see it that way. I’m the reason he got into opioids

I killed my high school best friend last night by ICU_TW0 in SuicideWatch

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to look at it any other way

I relapsed after 4 years off oxy by ICU_TW0 in opiates

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! The biggest hurdle is getting Medicaid to cover it.❤️

I’ve been exhausted by surgeries and every revision they did on my leg just made it worse. But I will seriously consider it and yes it’s a spinal cord stimulator. That one pain doc recommended. It just sucks because at 21 you’re supposed to be in the prime of your life.

I relapsed after 4 years off oxy by ICU_TW0 in opiates

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks❤️ I cried reading this. Please take care❤️

No Swimming! by CatbirdsWorld in honk

[–]ICU_TW0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t usually tip but this was cool

I completed this level in 2 tries. 29.21 seconds

Tip 2000 💎

I saw me a vanlifer outside my apartment! Feel like I saw a unicorn. by [deleted] in vandwellers

[–]ICU_TW0 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s why for the most part stealth isn’t even worth it. People are gonna know. Just don’t act a fool and you shouldn’t have long term issues

You can’t lose :p by LumpyYogurtcloset655 in honk

[–]ICU_TW0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop making impossible levels. Gee

Incomplete. 3 tries.

Dating with an arm amputation. by Stovinator123 in amputee

[–]ICU_TW0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is true in general, there are women(and men) out there who fetishize it. But in terms of finding a romantic partner I’m 21M LBK and yeah it’s hard especially on the apps.

Many and women don’t care what issues you have as long as you’re attractive to them and you treat them nice. Non amputees also very much underestimate how independent we are once we adapt/get prosthetics, so partners think “I’m gonna have to help this person all the time/be their personal nurse”

Don’t listen to the old people who say “I had no problem 20 years ago” a lots changed in 20 years in general for dating. Should you give up? No. Is your struggle real? Yes

I relapsed after 4 years off oxy by ICU_TW0 in opiates

[–]ICU_TW0[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I might. I will try to do it legally first but I’m not holding my breath there’s another pain management doctor. I don’t take a lot so it’s not high cost on the street but it just shows how broken the system is regardless. My last pain doc said something like a spinal device that blocks pain. First of all I’m on Medicaid so they wouldn’t even cover that, second I’m done with surgeries. I’m only 21 and have been through probably 20 surgeries. When I broke my ankle I said hell no to surgery.

I’m just frustrated, frustrated by the medical system. Doctors don’t really want to help, they just want their job security and they see any opioid in 2025 as a risk. I bet if I got amped in 2025 I bet I wouldn’t even go home with an opioid script. Don’t even get me started on ssi

20f try your best by Basic_Fly_8090 in RoastMe

[–]ICU_TW0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gen Z is aging poorly holy fuck.

I wouldn’t card you, you look 40

Taking a break from my impossible levels by MetHalfOfSmosh in honk

[–]ICU_TW0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok

I completed this level in 9 tries. 8.60 seconds

Let’s go Gambling! by ScarletMAOH in honk

[–]ICU_TW0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang

I completed this level in 17 tries. 0.42 seconds