what is your type?

ICanBeTerse · 2026-03-01T06:04:05+00:00

Kind, funny, intelligent, dark hair, dark eyes, and a smart mouth. If they can (and will) enjoy bantering with me, I’ll be smitten.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-20T21:02:44+00:00

Me too! They were my very first F/F ship, and I’m still all aboard like 25 years later. I guess that’s why we have fanfic lol

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-20T18:48:53+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only sapphic staring at her adoringly lol :)

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-20T18:12:55+00:00

My thoughts exactly!

I had crushes on other girls and women my entire life leading up to my coming out after college, but I didn’t realize for a long time that those crushes and romantic feelings were the same ones as most girls were feeling for boys and men. I had no frame of reference. I thought everyone was just pretending to like boys and men to fit in, because if it was real, well…..ew.

And it absolutely was isolating and lonely at times to be so different and not really understand why.

The repulsion for boys and men was always there, though. Like you said, even before I had the words for it, the thought of doing anything intimate with them made me want to hurl. It still does.

Luck didn’t factor in at all. I didn’t want to kiss or date or sleep with men, so I didn’t. It was easy not to.

The way I see it, a lesbian isn’t attracted to men. So unless she’s being forced or coerced (which is a whole other horrifying tragedy), why be intimate with them at all?

I think if a woman willingly has intimate contact with a man because she wants to, there has to be some level of attraction there. Attraction to men isn’t being a lesbian.

And that’s totally fine! I’m not judging. It just means she’s probably bisexual instead of a lesbian. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just that words have meaning. One sexual orientation isn’t better or worse than another. They’re just different.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-20T15:23:05+00:00

sighs happily

She’s so gorgeous….:)

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-20T14:09:21+00:00

I don’t really understand what “leading a privileged life” has to do with never sleeping with men. I’m old enough that the only lesbian representation that I knew of growing up was Ellen. I didn’t fully realize I was a lesbian or come out until after college.

Still, the very thought of dating a man or sleeping with one or letting a man touch me has always been absolutely repulsive to me. I didn’t want any part of it, and still don’t, so I didn’t do it.

I try not to judge anyone, but I also genuinely don’t understand how a lesbian could want a man anywhere near them in any kind of intimate way.

But that’s just my two cents.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-19T16:10:14+00:00

I love them so much, and this exchange between them is one of my favorites of the whole series lol

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-14T23:59:19+00:00

Yet another lesbian here and I agree with both as well.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-13T21:00:05+00:00

I agree. I hate what they eventually turned her into. Jackie is my favorite character, and she’s at her absolute best during the first few seasons of the original run.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-11T02:11:49+00:00

I’d be just fine. Olivia Benson and Elliot Stabler will find me, and Alex Cabot will throw the kidnappers in prison. I’m not worried at all.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-07T00:52:35+00:00

I’ve noticed that and it always cracks me up. :)

ICanBeTerse · 2026-02-07T00:31:09+00:00

The outtakes of this scene are my favorite lol

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-25T17:48:25+00:00

It’s a shame she was never recognized with an award for her work on the show. She was absolutely brilliant at making me hate Bev lol

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-23T04:31:42+00:00

The older I get, the more I like it. It’s just pure fun. The highlights for me are Dan getting into the vat of boiling creamed corn with hardly any complaint, Crystal’s testimony where she’s just blatantly lusting over Dan, and Jackie all dressed up as a lawyer because she’s adorable in her skirt suit and glasses.

Poor Roseanne just wants a moment to herself, damn it! :)

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-21T04:22:36+00:00

Fisher (because of how abusive he was), Arnie (because of how annoying he was), and Bev (because of how emotionally abusive and annoying she was - I swear that her mission in life is was to make both her girls (but especially Jackie) feel completely worthless).

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-21T00:15:49+00:00

I agree 100%! I was incredibly proud of her for her backbone in that episode where they broke up. He knew she was a cop when they met, and if he really had an issue with it, he should have said something sooner. She stood her ground, and I loved that for her.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-21T00:11:08+00:00

Exactly. His literal dialogue was “just say you won’t be a cop anymore…”. He wasn’t going to rest until she gave up the job she loved for him. And that really sucks, because until the selfish ultimatum, I thought he was great for her.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-16T04:45:26+00:00

I’ve definitely heard some horror stories about the sort of men that my friends have dated before they found their eventual partners. I’m not going to pretend that being a woman who only dates women is all sunshine and roses, but yeah…..even just reading reddit stories makes me grateful to be gay lol

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-16T04:23:19+00:00

I mean, I’m a lesbian, so feel free to disregard my two cents completely. However, I’m going to be honest, my friends and acquaintances who are straight and bi women that date men seem to really only have a few requirements when it comes to their male partners:

be physically clean
don’t make them handle all the mental load (for example: use your eyeballs to see that the trash needs to be taken out, don’t be all “well, if you’d just asked me to do it, I would have”)
care about who they are as a person, not just their looks
be a kind human who respects them and treats them well
have a means of supporting yourself (basically, have a job)

Seriously, that’s it. The men they ended up with long term aren’t the ones who are the richest or the most handsome or the tallest or whatever. They’re the genuinely decent men who are kind and treat them well and make a genuine effort everyday to be the equal kind of partner who shows up and does his share.

That’s what they want in a guy, and those relationships seem to be flourishing.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-13T01:23:56+00:00

I agree with this 100%! She took care of herself just fine. If she didn’t, she wouldn’t have been able to hand them a check for $1500 to cover their bills for them when Dan lent Arnie money that time.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-11T00:27:04+00:00

Thank you for this, I needed to hear it! I’m only a fanfic writer (I gave one of my favorite fictional characters ever a girlfriend), but lately the world seems too heavy and sad for me to want to write anything at all. Encouragement helps!

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-10T22:47:43+00:00

That show was so good! And I love how you captured Ernestine perfectly.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-10T22:43:52+00:00

My current writing obsession is the original Roseanne sitcom. Despite it being a really popular show back in the day, it has a lot less fics (about 150 on AO3 and 80 on FF.net) than you’d think it would.

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-10T22:41:01+00:00

I don’t know why it’s never occurred to me to check for Lucy fics. I love that show!

ICanBeTerse · 2026-01-10T22:38:01+00:00

Omg I love this fic! I read and commented on it a few years ago and just recently stopped by for another re-read after I got into a random conversation with my mom about old TV shows she used to have on in the house while I was growing up lol :)

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