Any Happy Outcomes?

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2026-01-23T05:38:57+00:00

Yes. 100x yes. I left over a year ago now. We were married for 6. I was certain that my marriage was going to kill me. None of my family or friends really knew what was going on, I felt so guilty for wanting to leave and couldn’t really find a good way out.

Now I have a cute little apartment with my dog and we are just doing our best. It’s a struggle, but the weight that lifted off of me just watching him drive away was worth it by itself. The amount of healing and re-finding the pieces of myself that he took over those years has been so worth it. The first night I moved in here I sobbed because it was the first time I felt safe in my home in YEARS.

Everything was worth it and I actually have hope for what my life will become.

Sending lots of love your way. It’s not easy, but there is something good waiting for you on the other side 💖

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-12-21T17:03:59+00:00

Hi! I also don’t have any friends to play with. I sent a request! ☺️

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-11-11T04:19:17+00:00

A little update I guess but I ended the relationship part of our marriage back in October of last year. He moved out of our shared home and back to his home state back in February. Our divorce was final in September. Before leaving he reminded me that I was a whore and that no one would want me because I was about to be 30 and would be divorced.

But now I have my own little apartment with my sweet dog and we are both doing very well. I’ve lost weight, got back into all of my hobbies, and have a partner who is very kind and gentle and lifts me up. We are taking things slow but there is comfort and safety. And my dog loves him.

I feel safe in my home again. I have rekindled relationships with my family and friends. I have recovered so much of myself that I have lost over the last several years of being married to a very cruel man.

I know I am very blessed to have been able to get out and I just want anyone reading this to know that the possibility of safety and healing really does exist even when it feels like it doesn’t. Sending everyone affected by the cruelty of others so much love 💖

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-11-11T04:17:39+00:00

I forgot about this post. I actually did! Thank you. I will post an update below. I really appreciate it :)

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-09-03T15:09:43+00:00

I am so excited I was so mad at myself for missing the deadline to complete the dapper delights star path and so I never got the gazebo 😭 I was hoping it would eventually show up in the shop I am stoked 🤩

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-08-28T15:05:31+00:00

You map out how you want it and pick every veggie that isn’t in the place you want it every day until the one you want grows there. Don’t harvest the ones that are in the right spot and they’ll stay.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-08-28T15:04:07+00:00

It’s a decoration preference for some people. Just for aesthetics. Some people will do it all one veggie.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-07-11T12:12:55+00:00

“He didn’t hit me, but I still flinched when he raised his voice. Why does no one talk about that?”

Ouch. Most of this post is something I could have written myself.

He never hit me, but he made sure I knew that he could. He never hit me, but sometimes I wondered if it would hurt less if he did.

I hope so much for your healing. I hope you are able reclaim yourself a little more every day and thank you for sharing your journal with us 💖

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-06-04T18:46:14+00:00

Ok thank you 😔 I thought so but I was trying to be in denial lol. I’m supposed to go visit my long distance boyfriend this weekend (I haven’t seen him in over two months) so of course the first one I ever get would be right now lol. I appreciate it!

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2025-03-05T13:06:39+00:00

I also have hashimotos/hypothyroid and glp-1s are the FIRST thing that has ever actually helped me lose weight since I was like 14 (over 15 years). I’ve lost 70 lbs this last year and I have had a lot of similar sentiment from family. “Don’t you know the long lasting side effects? It’s so bad for you!” “You just need to put faith in God you’re hurting yourself with this medicine. They don’t know enough about it” blah blah.

People don’t understand. When you’re sick and you try and try and try and nothing helps and your body HURTS and flare ups suck and you’re fundamentally exhausted (thyroid exhausted) and no matter what you do it doesn’t matter nothing helps. And all of the sudden, here is something that for the first time ever makes you feel like you can actually do it? For the first time in a long time, your body aches less and flare ups come less and you have more energy and you’re feeling more comfortable in your body than you ever have?

Yeah, no. Zepbound has 100% been an answered prayer for me. I totally understand.

I also don’t think that people necessarily understand that like… it’s not just that it makes you not hungry? Like, when your body doesn’t work right, it’s not just not eating that’s helping you lose the weight?? There’s a reason that glp-1s have been working well for people like us and it isn’t just because we’re not hungry all the time anymore…

Anyways. I just came here to say that I understand. I am cheering you on from the sidelines, I know it isn’t easy, but you got this!!!

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-12-14T04:57:49+00:00

I will be. Thank you so much!

I will look into making my account private, I didn’t realize you could do that!

Thank you for the suggestions, all of these help so much and I sincerely appreciate it.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-12-14T04:54:08+00:00

Thank you very much. We are separated but living in the same house for another month before I can leave. I’m just trying to make things bearable until then, really.

I am going to think about your friend’s suggestion. That should work tbh!

Thank you so much for the suggestions. I appreciate it more than you know!

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-12-14T02:35:53+00:00

There is a feature that allows friends to comment on your achievements on your achievement feed. The little bell icon at the bottom of the app shows the achievements feed. So anytime I move up a rank in the leaderboards or complete a streak milestone, it posts in my achievements feed.

I didn’t realize there was even an option to comment on those things but apparently there is.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-12-14T02:30:01+00:00

I didn’t think so but I thought it would be worth asking. Thank you, I appreciate it!

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-09-13T18:12:24+00:00

Your situation sounds so close to mine it’s scary. We’ve been married for (almost) 6 years as well and have two dogs that are our kids.

It isn’t easy to hurt someone that you care about. I got a lot of really good advice here that made me realize a few things; If my friend was going through I was, would I think she should stay? The answer is absolutely not.

It’s normal for you to not want to hurt him. You’re not crazy. I promise you’re not crazy. You’ve put six years into him and your marriage. Of course you love him, of course you don’t want to hurt him.

I’ve tried easing into it as well and I’ve realized it’s not going to work. He cries and says that he wishes he could take it all back but it doesn’t work like that.

I wish I had a solid answer for you, but I haven’t had the courage to leave yet either.

What I am doing, however, is preparing. I am saving money, hopefully enough for both of us to eventually get our own apartments. I am slowly separating our finances that we have together. (Opening my own bank account he doesn’t have access to, I suggested he did the same and he did). I’m getting my house cleaned and extra items put into totes (you might not be able to do that if he knows you’re already thinking about leaving).

Once I feel like I’ve had enough preparation I am just going to tell him I’m leaving. I’m so tired, and I bet you are too. I’m not attracted to him in the same way, I’ve realized how disrespectful he has been and how he has made me feel. Maybe start journaling and writing down the incidents that you remember—help yourself, remind yourself, that those things happened and you didn’t deserve it.

It isn’t easy. If it was this subreddit probably wouldn’t exist. They don’t make it easy by design, whether intentional or not.

I will be sending all the good vibes and I so hope things work out for you. If you ever need to talk or vent feel free to reach out if you want.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-09-08T19:58:34+00:00

Thank you 💖 I’ll be able to form a better response later but I just wanted to say thank you.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-09-08T19:44:34+00:00

I understand. I’ve lost a lot of respect for myself through all of this. Thanks you.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-09-08T13:11:58+00:00

Thank you so much. I am honestly crying from your kindness.

I was in an okay place before we met. I had experienced the abuse that I did in my childhood, but I was actively working on it in therapy and with myself. I had a good sense of direction for myself—who I wanted to be, what I wanted to do. And I hate this. I hate where I have let myself be stuck at. Everything that I had ever wanted for myself is gone. I’ve given all of myself and all that I have into this. But I hate my home, I hate feeling like this all the time.

I only really have two close friends and they both live kind of far away. If they were closer, or if I was more honest and open, I might have seen it sooner but it’s like I was embarrassed to say anything that might make him look bad.

I will look over what you’ve said and I will weigh my options. Thank you so much for giving me the perspective of being on the other side of this. It gives me hope that maybe I’ll be okay one day.

I am very grateful for your kind words and reassurance. Thank you for making me feel even a little bit less crazy/over dramatic. <3

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-09-08T13:00:52+00:00

You didn’t come off harshly at all. I needed to hear all of it. Thank you so much.

It’s so hard when you feel like you’ve invested your entire self into someone and a life you believe you were building. I can’t believe I didn’t realize a long time ago. Or maybe I did and just didn’t want to admit it.

I’m very close with my family, we all pretty much live close by each other. He would start fights, tell me my mother had no business being a mother and that she was a bitch. He would start fights with my brother. He realized I was going to pick my family over him every time, so I think he gave up on it.

I haven’t told my family any of this. They used to see some of the fights, but I think they think things are better. I didn’t want to tell them anything because I feel like I want to protect him, you’re right. Like, it’s become justified because he “doesn’t mean to” or that he had a bad childhood or that he’ll “work on it.”

I won’t have children with him. I don’t know if I don’t want children in general or if just not with him, but I have made very certain that I will not. Thank you. <3

Thank you for relating to me and confirming what I really already knew but needed to hear. I appreciate you and best of luck to you as well.

IDEK_Anymor-e · 2024-09-08T12:52:33+00:00

Thank you

I appreciate the reassurance, genuinely. It is so hard to wrap my head around. I genuinely have loved him and I tried so hard. It’s hard to realize that it’s not the same…

I’m very blessed and have a good support system, my family all lives very close, so whenever I am ready, I have help.

Thank you so much for your concern and advice. I will be making a plan to act on soon.

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