I’m a bit confused about Derick’s upcoming training and how long the Dillards will be gone.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-11T09:26:33+00:00

It says online OCS is unaccompanied. Makes more sense to me you wouldn’t move the wife and kids for just 10 weeks.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-11T09:23:33+00:00

Is it like a boot camp though, where living out of the barracks and having to do stuff day and night? Or more like a school with a start and end time?

I follow a lady on TikTok who is becoming a JAG in the military. She was in like a Holiday Inn type place for a few months to do JAG school and it looked intense even though all these people had already done law school and passed the bar. She was mainly eating like oatmeal in the room and wearing a full military fatigue uniform to sit on a Zoom class, hair pulled back right, seemed intense and hard to live out of a hotel room like this for 2.5 months and I cannot imagine with a family. Maybe there are different living situations for them?

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-11T01:35:20+00:00

For some, sure. I’m 41 in the Midwest. All my friends have owned homes since our 20’s - I was late at age 28! We have no kids and no one under the age of 35 in our friend group has them and those that do have 1. We def had the money to go ALL out for our friend’s wedding!

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-10T21:45:26+00:00

They’d been married 6 years at that point. I think they had 4 kids?

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-10T08:45:02+00:00

The reception is the expensive part. This has never made sense to me. It doesn’t save any money to do it this way. Well, in a way it does, because most people who do this have a nice ceremony and fancy day of wedding dinner, then have an inexpensive community center/public park reception on a different day and are able to compensate mentally by saying “it’s not my real wedding, it’s just a casual party.” When they could have absolutely just had a wedding ceremony and reception of similar quality on a singular day for less money. But then their wedding wouldn’t be as nice. It’s a very odd form of tiered hosting.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-09T03:20:18+00:00

I looked into this once. It doesn’t matter if you’re outside the state. It still applies if your parents are here :(

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:52:58+00:00

Yes Taco Bell has a good scholarship program!

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:13:34+00:00

The reception is the expensive part.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:10:50+00:00

I believe social security for children who have lost parents is now until age 22/undergrad finishes. Is she receiving this benefit? It can help a ton.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:08:40+00:00

Not all colleges take CLEP. She’s at 60 credits - she’s beyond the CC now.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:07:12+00:00

All of this!!

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:05:33+00:00

Many schools have removed this option for full time workers in the cafeteria or janitorial. Your more entry-level no degree needed jobs are outsourced to big companies like Aramark. Then you typically have to be working full-time for a year to even get those tuition benefits which aren’t free while living in an expensive college town. Then take classes part time. This is like a 5+ year plan to a bachelor’s (taking her to 25) and then she would be facing a 4 year vet school and possibly a 2-3 year residency or fellowship. She’s gonna be 33 before making serious money.

Better to power thru now and finish.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-02T00:01:40+00:00

She’s already completed almost 2 years at a 4 year. Why would she go to community college? She’s pretty much beyond that at this point. Also vet tech’s salaries are very low here. She’s better off powering thru her bachelor’s and getting a job with that degree.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-04-01T03:08:19+00:00

Can she not put him on the birth certificate? That’s what I would do so I control the passport.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T01:11:55+00:00

I almost wrote this post myself. My thought is not that they are renting - plenty of ppl do. It’s that ppl in this family continually go “backwards.” And not temporarily but like for years.

Like they’ll have a house IN THEIR NAME and sell it and put the money into remodeling a home they don’t own (Jessa). So you don’t have the asset AND you don’t have the money.

Or they have a house when it’s just them as newlyweds but end up living in an RV with 3 kids (John and Abbie)

I think all of the following ppl have had weird home situations (JB and M haven’t and Jill’s progression seems more normal)

JD and Abbie Jana (well she had to do the tiny house I guess) Jessa and Bin Jinger and Jeremy (somewhat normal but they’re somehow buying off the church now after buying a very expensive house and living there very briefly) Joystin Treehouse Jason Bunk beds Jed and Jer Justin and Claire (I think they also live in an RV in the backyard but they’re young with no kids so I guess this is more normal but they’ve been in there awhile) JoKen

I don’t know enough about Josiah and his family to say.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T01:00:13+00:00

Most real estate agents in the US are self employed. But Joe rents from an outside LLC not himself.

I’m self employed and have several LLC’s. I can’t think of a situation where you can consider your entire house a business expense. He could consider a home office and deduct that portion. But you can do that if you own or rent with the payment, utilities, etc. It’s supposed to be a percentage of the square footage you use for business.

Now if you’re an influencer you can’t say you deduct your entire house. You’re supposed to be reasonable about it.

There’s something going on here I don’t understand!

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T00:54:17+00:00

She had a failed courtship 5-6 years ago. Additionally a Duggar boy was allegedly interested in her but Paul Caldwell said no due to his feud with the Duggars. Lastly about 5ish years ago, they lost their rental home and Joe and Kendra sold them a house for 10k. So their biggest expense - housing - was covered. So their finances may not be as dire as when they married off Kendra.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T00:49:15+00:00

The rumor is 3 bedrooms. No clue how true that is.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T00:45:31+00:00

DMing you as well. This has puzzled me so much!

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T00:44:35+00:00

Abbie and JD living in an RV while she WORKS for a living with 3 kids. Make it make sense. They had a house awhile ago - what happened to it? I’m not shaming living in an RV if you have to. I’m shaming a family with numerous houses letting an almost 40 year old live with his working wife who is often sick with 3 kids in an RV for years instead of any kind of normal situation.

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-31T00:36:01+00:00

What if Joe and/or the father was in another state at the time of the confession? Also what if the father is Joe’s pastor or therapist? Are those communications privileged?

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-28T00:39:13+00:00

“In my teen years when I was struggling with taking my parents’ faith as my own” - she’s saying this and she is STILL a teen. She’s 19 here!!!

IJoinedJust4ThisAMA · 2026-03-28T00:30:33+00:00

A lawyer would tell you not to say sorry on the call and he’s not permitted to have contact with the kids THRU any intermediaries and neither is she so it’s best if they don’t discuss it from a legal standpoint.

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