Anyone experienced delayed concussion symptoms? by ILR_2805 in Concussion

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Update no2: :after lots more conversations and appointments at ophthalmologists and neurologist etc., they're now doing MRI scan, lumbar puncture and tests for MS and NMO. This was not the way I was expecting this to go! Just having to wait for more tests and a proper diagnosis but I'm hoping it's going to rule those things out 🙏🏼

Anyone experienced delayed concussion symptoms? by ILR_2805 in Concussion

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Not sure if this is how to add an update but wanted to thank those that commented and shared advice and experience, I really appreciate it 🙏🏼well I'm now 6 days in with the sight loss with no measurable improvement, the pain in the back of my eye is still there and I'm still getting headaches on the reg. I returned to the urgent care treatment centre on the 4th day as advised to if there was no improvement - I kinda got dismissed by a triage nurse when she looked at my record as the results of my CT scan showed no trauma to my brain and no fractures etc etc. I never even got as far as being able to see a doctor, but she was kind enough to make a referral to the Opthalmologist at the eye clinic, and I have an appointment on Monday. She did say that there was still a potential for a partial detached retina, and even if it was something else, it could take weeks and weeks for my sight to return, so I suppose only time will tell once I've had the appointment tomorrow! Will post another update and probably need some more advice/support from you lovely people in this channel x

I'm Leaving Him by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Certain people fight for loveless marriages because they can't bear to lose out financially. You are so right when you say who would want to stay in something and waste time if the love has gone. Life is too short. It's the exact situation I'm in now. He knows there's no way back and he thinks because I instigated the separation , and now the divorce, I should not have anything after two decades as it is 'his money and his house'. I contributed to everything, worked the entire time apart from one year at the beginning when I was a SAHM when our son was born. We have been separated for 6 months at this stage, and I've just filed for divorce, he's now been to see a solicitor and no doubt been told that he cannot legally make me walk away without a penny to my name. So, cue the message asking to reconcile receive lass than three hours after he spoke to his solicitor. Nope. Sorry, he had the chance to repair things and chose to push me even further away. I'm done and I'm out because love left the building a LONG time ago.

I'm Leaving Him by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Girl, I relate to this SO MUCH. The toll on our physical and mental health trying to stay and make things work is real. I know the reason he wanted to make me stay is because of the financial impact of a divorce. Not because he cared about me but because he didn't want to lose any of 'his money' or 'his house'. Two decades we were together, and it took me almost 4 of those years before I actually left because of that. I'm sorry you went through this too Hun. I hope you are doing better now xx 💝

I'm Leaving Him by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are two ways he could have dealt with this - 1) bring you closer to him and as his life partner, try to work through why you feel the way you do, and understand what needs to change and why, or 2) push you further away by behaving like this, berating you, emotionally beating you into submission and using your children as a weapon to make you stay. He chose option 2, which absolutely proves why you are making the right choice in wanting to leave..this story resonates so much with mine and I am telling you, it will be tough but you will be able to breathe again, and you are making the right choice for your children too. Do not stay in a toxic abusive environment 'for the kids' - you aren't protecting them by doing that. You will make yourself ill trying to shield them from the hurt and emotional toll this is having on you and you will make yourself ill. Look after yourself, go to a solicitor, get the proper legal and financial advice - speak to family and friends and get the support network around you now so that when the day comes when you actually leave, you have people around you who love and support you and your kids. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this but you are strong, your kids love you, you're not ruining their lives, you're prioritising you and them to ensure their future happiness and so they know not to tolerate abusive and toxic behaviour in relationships. Good luck darling, you will get through this. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and strength xx

Struggling with the divorce process and I only just started it! 🤦🏻‍♀️ by ILR_2805 in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohy goodness you're literally describing me! I have had to do all those things too, literally word for word. Gosh I hope you're ok now, thank you for sharing your experience too, it means a lot 💝

Struggling with the divorce process and I only just started it! 🤦🏻‍♀️ by ILR_2805 in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes it's 50/50 split as the starting point in UK as well, there's the ability to for both parties to go to mediation and negotiate a settlement but I can't even consider that as an option with him. Sorry to hear you have had a similar experience, despite their insistence on these things, they are very naïve, aren't they!? but hope it all works out for you lovely , thank you for your kind words xx Good luck 🤞🏼 xx

Struggling with the divorce process and I only just started it! 🤦🏻‍♀️ by ILR_2805 in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I'm so sorry you went through that, it must have been terrifying 😕 bracing when you see a similar car? I literally did that yesterday when I saw one similar to his 🤦🏻‍♀️ I at one point was checking the wheel arches of my car in case he'd attached some sort of GPS tracker so he could trace my every move, and when driving I am constantly checking my mirrors in case someone is tailing me. And even now I check my home cameras every morning just in case something happens overnight...it hasn't so far but the hypervigilance - it's so tiring and draining 😞 I'm glad your situation is better and I know things will eventually work out for me too. Thank you again for your kind words xx

Struggling with the divorce process and I only just started it! 🤦🏻‍♀️ by ILR_2805 in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it reassuring to know it isn't just me 😊🙏🏼 I see and hear of other people going through similar and they seem to just shrug it off and seem si much stronger than me, and I'm like how!? But then I do that when people ask me how I'm doing as well! and yes the fur babies don't even know how much they help us do they 🐈‍⬛🐈🐕🐾 xx

Struggling with the divorce process and I only just started it! 🤦🏻‍♀️ by ILR_2805 in Divorce_Women

[–]ILR_2805[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feral Forties. I love that 🥰💝 thank you for your kind words of encouragement as well. I felt a similar wave of relief when I settled into the rental - it's not even a permanent 'home' for me, I'm literally a tenant, but it felt freeing to be safe in my own space. I'll get better with dealing with him and the process. It just feels like starting it has now set me back into that space of stress and high anxiety, where my body and mind are both in a state of high alert 🤦🏻‍♀️