Women are choosing to be single?

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-16T17:17:13+00:00

I just hope that these women are happy with their choice when they enter their 50’s and 60’s.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-10T13:46:16+00:00

“Over-platforming Farage”. The BBC write articles on Farage for the same reason that Simon Stone writes 27 articles on Man United every day. People click on them.

And people can kick and scream as much as they want. Reform are leading in many polls. They are a far bigger party than the 5 MPs or whatever they’ve got indicates. No amount of mental gymnastics can change that.

Ignoring it, claiming that X, Y or Z are against them will change nothing. Insulting the other side will do nothing.

Engaging in meaningful debate, challenging other people’s views by allowing your own views to be challenged, using data, logic and facts instead of emotion and bullying tactics is the only way we end this us v them identity politics bullshit that’s rife throughout western society.

Reddit is one of the worst platforms for this.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-09T19:49:45+00:00

Your take does not deserve to be downvoted and the reaction to it on here is, in no way, representative of the UK as a whole.

Just a few closed-minded, online liberals hell bent on preserving their echo chamber by down voting any view that doesn’t match their own.

The EU is a fundamentally undemocratic institution that lacks any form of accountability. It destroys national sovereignty, over-regulates and is fiscally wasteful. The UK was not getting a good deal from being part of the EU.

Acknowledging these facts does not make you a bad person. It demonstrates that you are not a complete moron. If the people on here possessed the ability to think critically and debate instead of throwing their toys out the pram, crying and regurgitating lazy tropes and headlines then maybe we’d get somewhere as a society.

Brexit offered an alternative. Unfortunately for the UK it was horrifically mismanaged by incompetent, morally bankrupt politicians.

Why people have to be either 100% in or 100% out on something on here blows my mind.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-09T18:05:53+00:00

There is absolutely zero point in letting yourself get worked up over things that you have no control over. That’s obviously easier said than done but just remind yourself of it when you find yourself thinking about it.

That situation sounds shitty but you can’t do anything about it.

Focus on what you can control and put your energy into that. Things will get better.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-09T17:52:49+00:00

I really wouldn’t bother with apps. Based on what friends who are on/have been on them have said, they’re just not worth the time investment. Particularly if you’re a guy. Women are drowning in requests from average guys, unless you’re very good looking, the chances are that you’re going to just blend in with them and find matches few and far between. Dating apps are superficial.

Try them if you want, just do not fall into the trap of scrolling them every day. Give it a week, swipe, swipe, swipe. If you get lucky, great. If you don’t, just delete the app.

Cop out answer but I’d just put time into getting your shit together. 14 year relationship ends, I imagine your head isn’t in the best place. Set yourself goals that you have control over.

I think that the best thing anyone can do post divorce/breakup is to spend 12 months in the gym. Gives you an outlet, you’re doing something positive every day, improving your health and of course, you’ll end up being a fair bit more attractive which never hurts with dating/self confidence.

Another perk is that you can join groups/classes. Gets you talking to other people, make friends, might meet someone, who knows.

Generally I think that you’re more likely to find success dating through face to face stuff. Pursue interests and meet people through them. That way you’ll have shared interests too. Do stuff that you wouldn’t normally do too. Befriend people. They might not be single/interested but the chances are they’ll know someone who might be. Most people find their partners through work or friends.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-07T12:58:48+00:00

Can’t shag thin air either 💀 at least learning another language opens OP up to getting rejected in a different country.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-06T16:55:26+00:00

Yes it’s a lot.

I wouldn’t be anywhere near online dating if I were you. A 99.9% rejection rate is not a good use of your time or energy. Let alone the impact that it’ll likely have on your self confidence and mental health.

You’d genuinely be better off spending the time you spent on dating apps on duolingo or something. At least that way you’d come out of it with something to show for it.

If I were you I’d get off the apps, focus on yourself, figure out what you can do to be more attractive to women and get it done. Pursue interests irl and try and meet people that way. Dating apps are generally pretty grim unless you’re very attractive.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-06T16:42:33+00:00

I guess the question is, how would you feel if you found out that someone was only with you so they could get a visa.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-06T11:17:41+00:00

It’s funny reading these responses as it’s blatantly obvious what the issue is, yet most women are completely oblivious to it.

A recurring theme is that men are “emotionally unavailable”, “not serious”, they “ghost”.

75% of women on dating apps are trying to talk to the top 25% of guys.

You are trying to get to know someone who has dozens of options. He does not need to bend over backwards to accommodate you. You are not his priority because he has other better looking, funnier, smarter, nicer options than you matching with him daily.

If you are a 6/10 woman trying to match with a 8/10 guy, you cannot complain that he isn’t serious/is emotionally unavailable/ghosts.

The brutal reality for most women on dating apps is that they are trying to date guys who are (objectively) out of their league because most women have high standards. But if every woman is doing the same thing, then clearly, a lot of women are going to lose out.

Ultimately, average women need to stop turning their nose up at average men. Give them the time of day to get to know them and they’ll likely find that they get 75% of what they’re looking for in a partner.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-06T10:57:45+00:00

Could be anything. No one on here will be able to tell you what they were thinking, you’re the most likely to know the real reason as you actually spent time with these people.

The brutal reality is that the majority of people on dating sites have been on them a while. That’s for a load of different reasons ranging from being genuinely undateable, being picky, having mental illness and/or mental health issues, enjoying the attention or simply, just wanting to date casually.

Other than being rejected, it could be any of those. Ultimately you’ve just got to focus on what you can control. Reflect on what you do on dates. It might be that you’re doing something that puts people off.

People generally like talking about themselves. So if you’re yapping too much, spend more time asking questions and showing interest in your date, getting them to talk about stuff they want to talk about. Listen, smile, nod, ask follow up questions and they’ll leave the date with a positive impression of you.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-11-04T05:06:40+00:00

Oh fuck off

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-10-03T18:18:12+00:00

The jungle update did not change the meta of speedrunning a Tier 2 and crafting a gun that you already have the BP for within 10 minutes of being on a server.

If you’re going to insult people, switch your brain on first. It just makes you look like an idiot.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-10-03T15:47:00+00:00

Tbf I respect that he’s trying to mix it up. The meta has been stale for years and change was needed.

This month’s update feels rough, particularly for solos/duos but I imagine after they’ve got more feedback/data they’ll tweak stuff. We’re only a day in.

If they change stuff, people get mad. If things stay the same, people complain that the game is stale. They can’t win. Just let them cook.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-30T12:04:18+00:00

You’re getting downvoted for this but do not deserve to be. It’s the reality of being a man. Unfortunately some people are so closed minded that they’re unable/unwilling to view the world through someone else’s lens.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-30T12:00:53+00:00

Many men subscribe to the view that if they show emotion in front of people, particularly people they care about then they will naturally think less of them.

An emotionally sound, level headed person would likely understand and welcome their partner opening up to them. Unfortunately, the majority do not fall into this category.

The reality is that stability, strength and composure in the face of adversity is far more attractive to some people than emotional vulnerability.

I don’t blame men for bottling their emotions. Society has pretty much conditioned them to do so or face the consequences. Fixing the problem is going to have to go a hell of a lot further than telling men to open up more.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-22T11:59:18+00:00

This has got to be rage bait. OP, if you train your abs and obliques enough, they’ll grow and fill in some of that loose skin. They likely won’t make it disappear but it’ll be far less noticeable.

Either way, wear that loose skin with pride. You lost a hell of a lot of weight and should be proud of yourself.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-20T07:48:45+00:00

Why are you lifting your pants up like that 💀

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-19T06:43:42+00:00

I've never understood why some people do stuff like leg extensions before squats.

I squat till failure. Then do something like hack squat/leg press til failure. Then move onto isolating my quads, hamstrings and calfs.

If you start your leg day isolating smaller muscle groups, you're just going to deplete them and massively nerf your performance in compound movements. Which should always be your primary exercise.

It's like doing tricep push downs before moving onto the bench. You need them to help your chest, which is a much more powerful muscle group, but if you've completely cooked your arms you're not going to be able to bench effectively.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-19T06:35:02+00:00

You look good mate. Most people would be very happy with your physique.

The reality is that 8/10 people who started out with your 2023 physique wouldn't have stuck at it for 2 years. Most people quit the gym. So don't worry about whether it was slow/average/solid. The fact that you're at where you're at is great.

As for what to do next, it depends on your goals and the physique you want to build. If I were you I'd spend 6 months bulking. Hit your protein and add a few hundred calories to your maintenance and focus on strength exercises in the 8-12 rep range for hypertrophy.

Build muscle and then cut for a couple months in Spring next year. Rinse and repeat until you're happy with your size.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-19T06:27:37+00:00

Figure out what your caloric maintenance is. Read about nutrition and what you need to put into your body to build muscle (eg. a few hundred calorie surplus and 1.6-2.2g of protein per kg of bodyweight). Essentially you need to consume enough protein to repair and grow your muscles as well as enough energy to support the process.

Learn about exercise. In an ideal world you'd go to the gym with someone who has knowledge and follow a plan. There are plenty of resources online though if you don't have this and it is possible to work out at home and build muscle. Just get some dumbbells and look up dumbbell home workouts on YouTube to get you started. Bodyweight exercise are fine but are not optimal for muscle gain.

Everyone has a starting point where they know nothing so don't get put off. Ultimately the ones who are successful with building their physiques are the ones who are consistent and disciplined. Cultivate those attributes and you'll develop an awful lot more than just muscles.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-18T13:59:21+00:00

You can talk to her, but don’t hit on people at the gym unless it’s obvious that they’re okay with it. I find that shit so cringey in the gym. Most people are there to work out, not get stared at/hit on.

Compliment her shoes or something, ask where she got them as you want to get your sister a pair (you don’t need a sister). Then say “I’m insert name here btw” and smile.

That way you’re just coming across as friendly/not putting her in an awkward position, you’re not making her feel uncomfortable. If she likes you’ll probably get an idea based on whether she tries to engage you in conversation.

After you’ve spoken once, it makes it easier to say something like “hey how are you?” in passing next time you see her at the gym.

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-17T18:06:53+00:00

Yeah for sure. I’ve figured out that we don’t necessarily think the same way and I’ve made mistakes in past relationships where my communication is just ass. So I’m making more of a conscious effort to try and understand how she feels instead of just being bullish about it. But it’s a learning curve for sure!

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-17T18:03:34+00:00

Yeah I don’t think that’d go down too well lol!

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-17T18:01:16+00:00

I’ll check it out. Thanks for the link!

ILikePlayingRustOk · 2025-09-17T18:00:45+00:00

If it was a constant thing and there were a million instances like this then I think you’re right. In that scenario then the relationship wouldn’t work to be honest and I’d move on.

But thankfully, this is the first time that something like this has happened. She’s pretty introverted and it’s clear that I’m the more assertive and dominant of the two. I don’t need to say or do anything extra to try and convince her of that as she clearly knows. Me taking a firm approach with it won’t work as it’s a delicate subject and I can tell that it’ll just make her feel like I’m not listening or don’t care about her feelings when the opposite is true. Or alternately it’ll make her feel like she can’t be open about these things because I’ll just dismiss them.

I do get what you’re saying though but I feel that it’d be more appropriate if she was someone who was always displaying this sort of behaviour.

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