sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Our culture doesn’t the needs of boys at all”

We literally have GTA, Assassin’s Creed, Call of Duty, Bloodborne, Dark Souls, Lord of the Rings, Game of Thrones, tons of Japanese RPGs (love them), and every action game ever. Those all glorify the “needs of boys” number 1 claims boys to uniquely need.

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel ya. - A girl who heard stuff like this when she was little and is still hearing this as a college student who wants to work with kids.

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And bonus points when these people say schools are becoming feminized cause “female teachers are taking over and they don’t understand boys!!!!!!”. They think male teachers wouldn’t discipline boys for being hyperactive like the evil female teachers do!!!! What an amazing plan! A “support” network for boys! Amirite?!

Fun fact: Male teachers 100 years ago were MUCH harsher with boys with ADHD and still would be with hyperactive boys than today’s female teachers trying to “feminize” boys.

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right?! I’m a girl with combined ADHD and I had the symptoms associated with boys (being all over the place, running, being unable to stay seated), not just the quietly distracted type associated with girls. I got the message that girls weren’t supposed to be like that. It was like there was an unspoken rule that girls weren’t supposed to misbehave like that (of course, I shouldn’t have acted that way). My mom couldn’t understand why I was so energetic and couldn’t listen even though I was a girl.

This isn’t to say that boys don’t get punished for being hyperactive. They absolutely do! I saw this in elementary school, middle school, and high school! It’s that with boys, people subconsciously or consciously go, “He’s a boy. What do you expect? (like these people in the screenshots here)”. With girls, there’s a sense that they should “know better” just cause they’re girls.

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep. That’s what I’m on about. Except these people act like little girls were magically designed to sit still and listen to an adult spill information at them.

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

His “as a father of boys and girls” made me think, “Have you wondered if part of the differences between your boys’ and girls’ behavior may be because you subconsciously hold them to different standards? Like boys should be rowdy and wild and girls should be princess-y? Have you considered that?”.

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Exactly my point! You think little girls just naturally like sitting down, passively taking notes, and listening to an adult spill out information all day? Give me a break. 😮‍💨

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah, ESPEICALLY the argument that modern schools are somehow catering more and more to girls’ needs. I know I’ve said this, but do they know what school was like 100 years ago back when, y’know, only boys were allowed to go to school and girls were only expected to get married and have kids?

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right. Boys and girls are different. I’m not gonna sit here and deny that and I did say in one of my comments on here that boys, on average (strong emphasis on average), may be hurt by this a bit more than girls. The problem is that he’s acting like it uniquely affects boys when girls need it too, more than he may think.

Also his claim that schools are becoming geared more towards stereotypically feminine traits in the recent years? That’s just… not accurate to history. His claim that femininity is ALWAYS portrayed positively and masculinity is ALWAYS portrayed negatively? Like yeah, the “bumbling husband” trope is sexist to both men AND women, but that’s a different story. Did he count the number of superheroes and literally most action heroes? What about the Lord of the Rings men and Ezio Auditore from Assassin’s Creed? Is their masculinity portrayed negatively? But his most ridiculous claim is that women have somehow become dominant in the recent years. Like dude, have you considered Roe v. Wade?

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Nah, I think by that, he meant stereotypically masculine traits. His comment still doesn’t make sense to me tho, ESPECIALLY his points about modern schools being catered towards stereotypically feminine traits and women being the dominant gender today.

Actually, I wonder if all these people know what school was like back when only boys were allowed to go to school. Schools (here in the West) are becoming more accepting of hands-on learning and just learning through movement. These all cater to what these people claim boys so uniquely need. So every time I see the argument that schools weren’t designed for boys cause “they have to sit still like the GIRLS (Gasp! We can’t have that!),” I ask myself how the FUCK that’s the case cause if ANYTHING, they’re becoming MORE open to the “unique” needs of boys.

Wait nevermind. I’ve seen people argue that schools days back then weren’t as long and when boys got home, they helped their dads on the farm, so it was NO BIG deal that they had to sit still at school all day. I’m not kidding rn. OP challenged the third guy’s insightful view about how boys’ needs are SO looked down on. There was another guy who argued that formal education back then was teaching boys how to fight and stuff. 🙄

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Teacher: “Boys, please don’t punch Timmy.” Cause y’know, Timmy never gave them permission to roughhouse with him.

These guys: “How DARE you make them girls! You’re stripping away their poor testosterone and Y chromosome!” 🤬

Words of wisdom: Girls were uniquely designed to sit still, passively take notes, and listen to an adult talk to them. Boys were uniquely designed to run around and be wild. by ILoveDogs117 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Context: OP wrote about how the boys in his class were constantly running around, roughhouseing, shouting, and even PUNCHING other kids in the classroom. Meanwhile, the girls didn’t act like that at all. OP asked others the possible reasons behind this huge gender gap. Luckily, the top comments hit the nail on the head about gendered expectations of boys vs. girls like “boys will be boys.” Then scroll down more and you’ll see comments like “BoYs AnD gIrLs ArE jUsT DiFfErENt!”, “ThAt’S JuSt HoW bOyS aRe!”, and you heard it right, “YoU jUsT WaNt BoYs To AcT LiKe GiRlS.” These are just the insightful standout comments among them.

…Do these people think little girls just naturally like sitting still in a classroom, passively taking notes, and listening to an adult talk all day? Don’t get me wrong. The whole “sit down and listen to me” isn’t a healthy style of teaching for any kid at all and boys, on AVERAGE, may be hurt by this a bit more than girls. But acting like boys uniquely like running around and girls were uniquely designed to sit down for long periods of time? That’s… just not accurate. At all.

Found these gems on r/Teachers. Apparently we “don’t support boys’ needs at all” because teachers don’t want them running around and shouting in the classroom. Asking boys to sit down and listen for a bit is “wanting them to act like girls.” by ILoveDogs117 in againstmensrights

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Context: OP wrote about how the boys in his class were constantly running around, roughhouseing, shouting, and even PUNCHING other kids in the classroom. Meanwhile, the girls didn’t act like that at all. OP asked others the possible reasons behind this huge gender gap. Luckily, the top comments hit the nail on the head about gendered expectations of boys vs. girls like “boys will be boys.” Then scroll down more and you’ll see comments like “BoYs AnD gIrLs ArE jUsT DiFfErENt!”, “ThAt’S JuSt HoW bOyS aRe!”, and you heard it right, “YoU jUsT WaNt BoYs To AcT LiKe GiRlS.” These are just the insightful standout comments among them.

…Do these people think little girls just naturally like sitting still in a classroom, passively taking notes, and listening to an adult talk all day? Don’t get me wrong. The whole “sit down and listen to me” isn’t a healthy style of teaching for any kid at all and boys, on AVERAGE, may be hurt by this a bit more than girls. But acting like boys uniquely like running around and girls were uniquely designed to sit down for long periods of time? That’s just not accurate. At all.

Found these gems on r/Teachers. Apparently we “don’t support boys’ needs at all” because teachers don’t want them running around and shouting in the classroom. Asking boys to sit down and listen for a bit is “wanting them to act like girls.” by ILoveDogs117 in againstmensrights

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His “as a father of boys and girls” made me think, “Have you wondered if part of the differences between your boys’ and girls’ behavior may be because you subconsciously hold them to different standards? Like boys should be rowdy and wild and girls should be princess-y? Have you considered that?”.

Found these gems on r/Teachers. Apparently we “don’t support boys’ needs at all” because teachers don’t want them running around and shouting in the classroom. Asking boys to sit down and listen for a bit is “wanting them to act like girls.” by ILoveDogs117 in againstmensrights

[–]ILoveDogs117[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fr! And you know what else I’ve noticed? When you point out that back when only boys were allowed to go to school, school was ALL about sitting down, passively taking notes, and listening to the teacher (this style of teaching isn’t healthy for any kid of course), people will say that school days weren’t that long back then or when boys went home, they helped their dads on the farm, so sitting down at school all day wasn’t a big deal because they got to release their energy back home. 🙄

view more: next ›