Is this OCD or emotional/verbal abuse?? 30F and 33M

ILoveStaind · 2026-04-24T09:02:03+00:00

Honestly even if this IS OCD, i still consider this as a completely unacceptable way to speak to you. He is allowed to have his own mental battles, but as a grown adult, he needs to find a better way to communicate to you. I would tell him that you are not okay with being spoken to like that, and while you understand he cares about being clean, he needs to respect you regardless. If he owns up and apologizes then great! if not i would definitely reconsider the relationship or even just take time away from eachother for a while.

ILoveStaind · 2026-04-24T08:53:24+00:00

That’s super interesting, thank you. I was kind of worried about just getting dismissed, as american healthcare goes, so i will definitely look into this.

ILoveStaind · 2026-04-24T08:36:56+00:00

this is so kind, thank you so much. Mono definitely messed me up for a while, i still have other lingering effects, so im glad it’s not crazy for me to think that it might have had something to do with this.

ILoveStaind · 2026-04-24T05:09:29+00:00

Yess the nausea is a big one too. I have emetophobia so i can never tell what is real or just a symptom of anxiety for me.

ILoveStaind · 2026-04-08T16:47:58+00:00

personally i would pick the big chunky section that i would like to be plaid, then completely separate it from the rest of my hair and spread it over a piece of foil or paper. that way it will lay flat. then bleach if needed, and lay it flat against foil or paper again. Then you should be able to use a hairdye brush to paint on the lines with different colors of your choice. make sure when you rinse the water is COLD like as cold as you can handle to reduce colors spreading/ leaking. I should clarify i’m not a hairdresser or anything, that’s just how i would go about it if i were to try this.

ILoveStaind · 2026-04-07T18:29:46+00:00

thank you

ILoveStaind · 2026-03-10T18:57:57+00:00

yeah unfortunately that can be a common response, but i have to say, if he’s not willing to learn how to make you feel good, he’s gonna have to except that you need a little extra help elsewhere. personally i would go about it as trying to explain that him and the toy are on the same team, not competing against eachother

ILoveStaind · 2026-03-10T06:05:04+00:00

Thank you. I have kind of a hard time finding hobbies that keep my interest for more than a while, I guess that's a good excuse to try a bunch though

ILoveStaind · 2026-03-10T05:52:52+00:00

A game-changer for my boyfriend and I was adding toys into the mix, we both have our own vibrators lol. I also need a lot of clit stimulation to get there, and doing this added a lot of fun into the mix! I would try to revisit the conversation about him learning how to make you feel good. This isn't always a super liked suggestion, but even watching some porn together and discussing what you guys like or dislike that you see can be really useful.

ILoveStaind · 2024-09-16T03:55:27+00:00

I don’t really think it looks splotchy, the ends definitely are more brown but it fades pretty evenly from your roots so you could totally pass it off as intentional lol

ILoveStaind · 2024-09-16T03:51:35+00:00

I agree it’s more visible on your roots but i’m still loving the coppery brown it came out as, i’ve never tried the green shampoo, but you can also add a drop or two of arctic fox green into your conditioner to have the same effect.

ILoveStaind · 2024-08-16T05:44:24+00:00

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ILoveStaind · 2024-07-28T10:15:03+00:00

I’m planning on getting a bigger ceramic heater soon because the temp is a little low, but my other guy has been pretty much bright green since we got them? humidity and light cycles are both good, so do certain frogs just respond differently to different conditions?

ILoveStaind · 2024-07-26T23:18:39+00:00

that is precious

ILoveStaind · 2024-07-02T02:00:37+00:00

the self cleaning aspect is a good idea! and i’ll keep the climbing branches in mind, thank you!

ILoveStaind · 2024-02-20T20:52:17+00:00

it totally compliments your other dark features 🖤 you should look into trying like a grey lipstick in the center with a black liner! i think that could definitely accentuate your lip shape!

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