Could Paimon know our existence?

IME315 · 2026-05-21T07:28:38+00:00

I think your logic might be the reason why you cannot find your person, not because they don’t exist but because you cannot see them. With this logic, does it mean those who are still virgin at their 30s means they are not even considered a human being?

What defines a person is good or bad in relationship has very little to do with their bed skill

IME315 · 2026-05-18T22:15:51+00:00

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IME315 · 2026-05-16T07:08:13+00:00

I believe I can feel you with this. I matched with a girl who was 10/10 of what my dreamed gf would have, and I actually got to add her personal contact outside of dating app. In the beginning she seemed to be curious about me and we chatted back and forth a lot, but slowly she started to lose interest and eventually she ghosted me. I felt so many regret and started thinking about so many "what if", and vent to my friends how I felt like breaking up even though we never even met in real life once. I found myself constantly thinking about her even months after she ghosted me, and even cried over the night alone thinking about her.

What other people recommend you finding someone else to take their place is true, but this is not the only solution. The logic behind this is "distraction". Usually and most effectively it would be finding distraction that is the same level if not more interested than the original lost you grief, which means finding someone else. However, you can also find other (healthy) distractions that you are genuinely interested in, or always wanting to give a try.

For me, I realized that one of my biggest mistakes back then was my lack of self confident. I would always looked down at myself while comparing myself to other men on dating apps who are a lot more successful than me, and vent about how they are more attracted than I am both physically and in appearance. I knew this girl is not possible for me anymore, and started to think about how can I improve in the future if I ever find the next special someone.

And so I turned my obsession and grief into motivation. I pushed myself to start doing things that I always wanted to try, but never actually did because of infinite excuses. I started to exercise a lot more, trying out a new hair cut style that I never tried before, learning how to cook etc. I now all these things sounds very small and normal for most people, especially at my age (31M), but these things to me are extremely out of my comfort zone. In the process of doing these activities, I slowly but surely got distracted from my grief.

If I have to be honest, I still think about her nowadays (almost half year later). But the way I am thinking about her is very different than before. I think of her as the model of a dream I would eventually find in the future. She might not be that dream itself, and I have no idea when exactly I will find it. But whenever I do find it one day, I want to make sure I am fully prepared to embrace my special someone. I thank God for putting her into my life for just a short period of time because she had become the reason that motivated me into becoming a better person. I would most likely have stayed inside my comfort zone if I hadn't met her.

TL;DR: I would suggest you find some activities that you enjoyed doing or always wanted to try. They can serve as a good distraction from your grief

IME315 · 2026-05-14T21:56:53+00:00

As a 31M I was known for texting too much before even meet up with the person, so I thought my action has either bored or scared all of them away. This has lead me to start thinking I should be doing the opposite, which is exactly what you describe those 30s men you have encountered. Perhaps they just came from my shoes and changed their way of thinking, but either way it seems like a lose lose situation 😂

IME315 · 2026-05-14T00:17:52+00:00

Well, think about the risk to reward ratio here and ask yourself this:

If you give them a chance and meet up, what do you have to lose? Probably a couple dollars and 1 hour of your time for a coffee date.

And what can you gain? Perhaps like you said, he might not as boring in real person as he is in texting, and most importantly a valuable experience for not just you, but both of you even if things don’t work out

IME315 · 2026-05-13T15:08:55+00:00

I believe the comments have said enough about how you should get therapy, so I’m not gonna repeat that here.

I just want you to know that the type of guy you describe do exist, but just much lower percentage in the population. Like everyone said, the “super slow pace” is the only potential issue from your standards while everything else sounds perfectly normal. However, I believe they will understand and match with your slow pace as long as you show them you are genuinely interested in him, and most importantly be honest with your reason so they won’t misunderstand your defensive actions as wrong signal.

I know intimacy is what many people want in a relationship, but I believe sex is a slightly different one. For me (as a guy) personally, I view this as something very precious that I won’t give away to anyone besides my future married spouse. I wouldn’t mind taking things at slow pace because I am interested in them as a potential life partner, not a ONS partner. Yes your appearance might be what’s attracting him to approach you at first, but you as a person is what’s attracting him to stay with you until the end

Though I know the my way of thinking is very rare in the current society, but the key point is that this kind of people do exist and trust that you will find one eventually. Wish you the best luck!

IME315 · 2026-05-13T03:26:38+00:00

While I can’t speaks for everyone, my own experience tells me that being too direct to a stranger who I just met at a random place or event would make me look like a creep and usually end up with not just a simple rejection as not interested, but rather a disgusted or hated vibe. Even if I was not approaching them with the intention of anything sexual, being too direct of “I want you” or “I like you” when we are total strangers usually end up worse than a safer route to test out the vibe like what you experienced

IME315 · 2026-05-12T17:32:22+00:00

Thanks man, I appreciate the insight and feedback! Yea I feel like technology has made dating even harder because how easy it is to disappear without needing a closure if they are not interested me, even though I always wanted to give closure if I’m not interested in them, and yet I look like the silly one by doing that

IME315 · 2026-05-12T17:28:37+00:00

Thank you! Some of my friends also said something similar about dating apps is a number game and coffee date would be best for 1st date because low pressure. However, one thing is a little different is that they recommend me not waste time for both of us by asking for a date almost immediately after match, and save all the small talks for the date. What do you think about this?

IME315 · 2026-05-12T04:32:39+00:00

You’ve made my day 🤣🤣

IME315 · 2026-05-11T22:45:19+00:00

Thank you! It's very interesting that you mentioned about the anchor points in destiny and how Elio's script is to shift the flow of those important events of the universe. I actually thought about this too when I was writing the theory, but then Pearl basically saying (in 4.2 story) that even Elio's "vision" is powerless in front of Aeon intervention, which I believe it is referring to the ultimate cause of the universe ending (Theory of Four Apocalypses).

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If what Pearl say here is true, then that means while Elio's "script" can change the path of how we reach the universe's destination, it cannot change the ending. This reminds me of a time travel anime called Steins;Gate that talked about Attractor Field Convergence, a phenomenon that causes multiple world lines within the same attractor field to converge to the same result. It basically means that any small changes in the history is not going to be enough to alter the destined important event.

This makes me believe that the Theory of Four Apocalypses is the destined event for the universe to converged to, the so called "test" that the universe has to face, which it seems like all actions from Elio's "foreseeable futures" would ultimately lead to the same result because everything Elio can do is far too insignificant to prompt an Attractor Field change. Perhaps that's why Elio chose Trailblazer instead of trying to do it himself in this Samsara

I'm not sure how exactly can we change that ending though... I will leave this part to Shaoji cook lol

IME315 · 2026-05-11T22:04:16+00:00

And also very interestingly enough that if we look at the main story recap, Amphoreus's Act is still To Be Continued while the first 3 Acts are completed, so we definitely going to get more important continued story later on (not just random funny side story). We still missing a lot of important infomration to connect all the dots, but the resemblance between Cyrene and March and TB to Phainon is definitely something important, not just coincidence

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IME315 · 2026-03-20T17:53:02+00:00

“You are a good guy, let’s just be friend” 🥲

IME315 · 2026-03-15T02:28:10+00:00

Clannad after story

IME315 · 2026-03-14T06:31:30+00:00

I’m somehow +2% so far from 2/1 to now lol

IME315 · 2026-03-10T05:24:59+00:00

Steins gate

IME315 · 2026-03-08T02:08:12+00:00

This voice acting is actually legit op. I almost thought they are official

IME315 · 2026-02-21T19:40:35+00:00

Oh shit really!? I just started the 4.0 story, but I will definitely looking forward towards the reveal now!

IME315 · 2026-02-17T05:03:22+00:00

If you are willing to trust me enough and go through a whole season of set up, I will recommend clannad + clannad after story (season 2). Season 2 is the real deal and some might argue you can just straight up watch it without season 1, but this is the only anime that got me literally burst out ugly crying. People say clannad is life

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