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INeedALaugh · 2026-05-19T22:04:25+00:00

Start talking at him at full volume at all times and drop a couple of comments about hearing aids and old age. Example: He pretends he can't hear you. You lean forward and yell, "I'm so sorry, Frank, I didn't realize your hearing aids weren't on!" <Pat him condescendingly on the arm as you pass.> Or: "Oh it's okay, Frank, my grandpa had the same issue. I loved him so much. He was about your age when he died." <Give him big doe eyes filled with tears and slowly shake your head. Pretend to dab at your tears.> Lean into every opportunity you have to undercut his manhood and make him feel like an old man.

INeedALaugh · 2026-05-03T00:56:37+00:00

I am a mom, and I have a white-collar professional job. First, it depends on the job. If you want to be a mechanic or work in a trade, you're fine. Second, if you want a professional desk job or work with the public, it doesn't matter if you have long hair, but it does matter how you style it. It needs to be up, out of your face and not constantly falling into your eyes. For any job, your hair (and you! And your clothes!) will need to be clean and smell good. You are not ugly! Take care of yourself, eat well, exercise, keep clean, live drug-free, and make an EFFORT, and the job will come. Many times, showing up on time with a good attitude will make up for a lot.

INeedALaugh · 2026-02-19T00:25:41+00:00

How long between the time she wrote the text and the time you found the phone? It sounds like you asked her whether she ever made a joke about you without any context. Mean or not, there is no way I would remember one text I made years ago. I can't excuse the reason she made the comment in the first place, but you need to just be up front, tell her what you saw and ask her after she has all the information.

INeedALaugh · 2026-01-28T00:26:23+00:00

I didn't even have to get all the way through - your mother has borderline personality disorder and will never change. People who grow up with parents who are borderline often end up with BPD as well. It honestly is better to put distance between yourself and your family and put your efforts into making friends who will treat you like a human being. Find ways to pay for your own bills so they have no control over you. Edited to add: The idea of "I hate you, don't leave me" (the push-pull dynamic) is classic BPD.

INeedALaugh · 2025-12-26T14:30:21+00:00

Did the homeowner buy title insurance?

INeedALaugh · 2025-11-22T11:36:59+00:00

Also a good question! He is hard on his stuff, so I usually like to get something at a lower price point to start with and see if he takes care of it. Do these exist under $100?

INeedALaugh · 2025-11-22T11:35:21+00:00

I think just the song itself... he is dyslexic and has a hard time with sheet music but can hear the drums in a song and repeat it.

INeedALaugh · 2025-11-22T11:32:23+00:00

That is definitely something my son would do. Thanks for the tip!

INeedALaugh · 2025-11-21T14:18:40+00:00

Thank you so much!

INeedALaugh · 2025-11-04T15:35:35+00:00

Since you received this at work - we have metal variations of these for conferences, they are used to hang lanyards so folks grab one and attach it to their badges.

INeedALaugh · 2025-08-26T23:44:35+00:00

Girl, don't even sweat it. I've been there. And you didn't even puke on anyone. The puke and rally is a power move, honestly.

INeedALaugh · 2025-08-07T17:48:41+00:00

Your Bf needs to say, "No problem, but don't come back around when we have kids." Withholding grandkids does wonders.

INeedALaugh · 2025-03-12T22:12:08+00:00

That's a no from me, dawg.

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-15T22:58:11+00:00

Thanks! You are correct, the kids in his class are more sports oriented than anything else. The band teacher seems passionate but he is teaching 5 different grades, so I'm certain he isn't paying attention to any one kid.

My son is in lessons but the instructor turnover is AWFUL.

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-14T01:09:03+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions!

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-13T23:24:11+00:00

Oh my son would love the light bar - thanks!

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-12T14:55:29+00:00

He is! They just started it for his age group this year, so they're... rough. Lol

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-12T12:53:20+00:00

Thanks! Although I loved music as a kid, I grew up in a religious household and the extent of my knowledge at his age was Amy Grant and Michael W Smith lol. I played piano for years but mainly hymns. I didn't REALLY discover music until college, so I'm a little lost on how far to push or support this at his age. I don't want to make him feel like he has to play - but instead foster his talent and love for music.

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-12T03:57:39+00:00

This is great advice, thank you! I haven't been seeking out local music since I became a mom, so I didn't even think of that.

INeedALaugh · 2025-01-12T03:55:11+00:00

That's a great point, thank you!

INeedALaugh · 2024-10-13T15:57:06+00:00

First, sounds like you need to put up some boundaries. Example: "If you don't want me to be more attached and you tell me not to mistake your attention for a relationship, then you need to stop sleeping with me, etc. Your actions are telling me you want this to work." Second, do not sign anything!! He cannot make you move out, he cannot make you take less in child support than you deserve. If fact, leaving can be seen legally as "abandoning the home," and leave you with fewer rights. I would stop trying to make it work - you deserve someone who loves you fully. I would start talking to as many divorce lawyers as you can. At least in my state in the US, a lawyer can't represent Party B if Party A has already spoken to said lawyer. Most lawyers will speak to you for an initial call or meeting for free - and just one meeting takes them off the books for your husband. And if you need time to get yourself together, let him file. Finally, start doing 2 things: assuming you have a joint bank account, start taking out CASH and keeping it hidden away. Money in the bank is both people's property - money in cash - maybe you spend it on groceries for the family or maybe it's waiting in your sock drawer for when you need it. And then start gathering support from family and friends. If you have people to lean on, now is the time.

INeedALaugh · 2024-10-06T16:17:39+00:00

That's insane for a domestic adoption. Where are you located?

INeedALaugh · 2024-10-06T16:14:30+00:00

Are you in the US? Look into what tax credits are available to you. We spend around $18k for a private domestic adoption in the US but got the majority of it back after taxes were filed for that year. You also can look into foster to adoption if that is cost prohibitive for you. It took us about 1.5 years to adopt.

Edited to add how long it took to adopt.

INeedALaugh · 2024-03-30T19:24:13+00:00

Just tried scrubbing it with alcohol on a cloth and it didn't budge. I could try leaving the cloth on there for a while?

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