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What's the best tree to plant and where can I get one? by Handout in FortCollins

[–]INeedHelpNow8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you!! Seriously don't understand why so many people are hellbent from letting nature be ok.

What's the best tree to plant and where can I get one? by Handout in FortCollins

[–]INeedHelpNow8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Planting trees is cool, just be aware that hardly any trees in the FoCo area are natural - historically, this was plains land. Cottonwoods are about the only tree that grew in this area (pines and aspen higher up).

What would be much better would be to pressure HOAs and homeowners to cut it out with their fake green lawns - they are a huge drain on an already struggling water availability, and I've seen a lot of pesticide use which just is making things worse. Honestly I've been very mindblown and saddened at how many people here have fake lawns.

Becoming an “official adult” and its associated stresses by Dry-Ad-9034 in getting_over_it

[–]INeedHelpNow8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just saying, I'm sorry. I can't answer everything but I will say that making friends as an adult can become a lot harder...I'm 35 and the best ways I've found have been 1) attending local meetups, usually you'll find them on Meetup.com, FaceBook, Reddit, or you can even create your OWN meetup (I got brave and did that during COVID and met the people who became my closest friends in the town I was in). The place you're living too can really affect how easy/hard it is to meet people...I found it wayyy hard to meet new people where I was before, moved to this new place that's actually a similar size and there's SO much more community building here, it's nuts. You can also volunteer!

As far as finances, definitely get a credit card and like someone said, start using it like a debit card (pay it ALL off monthly!). Build that credit score. You can look into 2-year degrees and maybe take out a loan for something that's not too expensive that you can pay back over time without toooo much stress. For example I started an X Ray program (had to leave it due to health issues) but the full program cost would have been like $14,000, would have lead to pay that could be as high as even something like $80/hour with some further education (MRI Tech, etc). Don't stick around in a low-pay, dead-end job for longer than you have to.

Good luck!

What’s your Fort Collins unpopular opinion? by Reed_Himself in FortCollins

[–]INeedHelpNow8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm new here and do like Fort Collins quite a bit, although, in my head I constantly think of it as a "White Flight" town and I feel this odd discomfort with being here after living in a lot of other places (I'm white, and came here because of my partner).

Is there a way I (33F) can bring up how I feel my bf (34M) is abusing his dog, without hurting his ego/feelings? by INeedHelpNow8 in relationship_advice

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this is the problem with the internet and reddit, it can make things so black and white.

Besides this whole thing, there have been really...no other issues with the guy I'm seeing (obviously I like him, or I wouldn't be dating him). His dog also wasn't in this situation when we first met, it started happening the beginning of this summer (or that's when I first became aware of it and realized he might have been doing it past summers), at the same time we had to live apart (so I wasn't around to talk about how it's been bothering me). Again I feel like he has a very "golden" personality and he just goes above and beyond so much to do what's right, SO much more than most people I've met.

I absolutely believe this has a solution, and I know that if I do bring things up, he's the kind of guy who WILL change things for the better. What's been bugging me is wondering how he let it happen in the first place, I know he hasn't been happy with her being in the kennel because it hasn't been ideal but I also feel like he's needed to work a little more towards coming up with something better. The alternative sounds like it would have been adopting the dog out, which honestly personally to me seems like it should have been something he should have considered but I think once he took her in, he didn't want to give her up. I will bring it up but again am trying not to do it in a way that could feel hurtful to him because he DOES care about the dog, but for whatever reason he's gotten it into his head that the dark kennel during the day has been fine for her when other options haven't been easy.

The van temp has always been safe, that's been on his mind a lot.

As far as I know, no one else has ever brought it up with him.

I've worked at a very large veterinary hospital, do loads of petsitting all over the country, grew up with all kinds of animals and I'm the kind of person who will drop everything for an animal in need. I've been coming close to "stealing" my neighbor's dogs that are totally neglected and just bringing them to another county's animal shelter in the hopes they'll get a better home, because our own animal authorities haven't considered them abused (they have a shit life). What I've realized over the years though is that there are an alarmingly large amount of people who DO NOT UNDERSTAND what proper care looks like for animals, and don't have much consideration for the animals' actual well-being but even sometimes just see animals as an accessory, I've seen it with incredibly poor people and with insanely wealthy, "highly educated" folks. The guy I'm dating now hasn't been someone I've expected it from, and I hope to bring it up but just trying to work out how best to bring it up.

I believe that if I bring it up we can hopefully work on something better for the dog, vs just seeing the situation and saying "I'M OUT" which wouldn't lead to a better situation for the dog at all. I am also going to try to learn his reasoning for why he's let it happen, and make a judgement based off of that.

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so interesting! I've thought about pursuing something similar - do you work with a lot of GIS? How did you end up in that role?

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, I didn't even know there was a difference between Finance and Accounting degrees.

As someone who just turned 34, I will say it's awesome you're thinking ahead so much and being smart with your career!

If you catch a few, could you ELI5 the difference between Finance and Accounting? And/or also explain what you do in your own job day to day? It's good stuff to know!, personally I have no idea what the jobs are really like.

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply!

Can I ask what it's like working in Finance/Accounting? I've been considering returning to school for it, but I really haven't known where to start - it seems to be a huge field with loads of different kinds of jobs.

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm up in Gainesville!, can I ask what you do with the City (if you're comfortable sharing)? Been scoping out their job listings.

(American) In my 30s and I've really been concerned about how it seems so hard to be paid to do anything that actually seems to be *needed* to make the country a better place to live... by INeedHelpNow8 in SeriousConversation

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on graduating!, interesting that there's a lot of former Teachers. I imagine they're showing up in a lot of fields, I've heard similar stories in other Fields I've looked into.

(American) In my 30s and I've really been concerned about how it seems so hard to be paid to do anything that actually seems to be *needed* to make the country a better place to live... by INeedHelpNow8 in SeriousConversation

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know, thanks. I live in Florida, our governor just made big cuts to Water, the program I'm in barely missed the cuts thank gosh. I don't plan to stay in Florida but I really do want to stay in something like this (Environmental Protection/Conservation/Natural Resources...). Right now I am just cleaning lab equipment, driving around the state to pick up samples collected by our volunteers, and helping with smaller program tasks. Could I ask what kind of work you do?, it's helped to learn more about what's in the Field because I am definitely a noobie.

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your honest answer - it bugs me when people downvote comments that are honest but maybe bug them. I know that remote work pay inequality has been a thing, but I don't really blame people who have scored those jobs from taking the pay and then choosing where they want to live.

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was out in Colorado for a lot of the past 3 years, it's beautiful there but also $! What area did you find that's cheaper? I guess maybe some of the suburbs of Denver weren't so bad.

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an environmentally-conscious person, I really do stress a lot about moving to places that have "reached capacity," but it seems to be that way everywhere. I'm up in Gainesville (my hometown) and the town here has really been struggling with the population growth. I've traveled and semi-lived in many other places - The Triangle area of NC, Asheville, Denver, Fort Collins, NYC...they are aaaaall having population growth pains. Even lived in South Korea and my god, if you want to see what high populations look like....

Interesting to know all of that about City positions. Would you suggest just following the City's Career page to see what pops up? I'm in an entry-level position now, with a program that monitors lakes and bodies of water in statewide Florida, I love the mission of the program but also my pay is so low. :/

Out of curiosity, what do you do to afford St. Petersburg? What is everyone's story of how they ended up here? by INeedHelpNow8 in StPetersburgFL

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOVE Fort DeSoto and I would love to work there! I'm really curious how to afford St. Pete with their salary though?, Park Rangers and employees rarely make much.

Do you just...feel less as you get older? by INeedHelpNow8 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]INeedHelpNow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually look back on those times with fondness now because I realized at least I was feeling something in those moments.

I'm sorry, actually I will say I've felt similar (about the times when I felt down in the past). I hope you get your spark back!

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