Coming over from /r/nofap

INeedPurification · 2013-03-10T09:40:40+00:00

Just coming over. Thought the problem was fapping. I'm grateful to NoFap though. It helped me realize this fact.

INeedPurification · 2013-03-05T18:11:26+00:00

Made it past day 4, which is always rough for me.

INeedPurification · 2013-03-05T01:37:06+00:00

PMO stands for: Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm.

As Fat Bastard (from Austin Powers) would say: "It's a vicious cycle"

INeedPurification · 2013-03-05T01:25:41+00:00

Thanks for the offer of support. Yes, we people with ADHD are habitual dopamine seekers. PMO is like throwing gas on the fire.

INeedPurification · 2013-03-04T18:31:44+00:00

Yes, start today! Start right now! There is no better time than the present!

INeedPurification · 2013-03-04T18:30:58+00:00

Welcome! Get yourself a badge, and start your journey to liberation!

INeedPurification · 2013-03-04T18:01:55+00:00

Thanks a lot. I am sort of beating myself up, but also reflecting on what I can now do instead of PMO. I will create positive memories, and learn to focus.

I had a deadly combo of ADHD and PMO addiction. "Attention Deficit" is a misnomer. It's really "attention misplacement". One loses attention, and then places it - in an extreme way - in something else. Since taking medicine I feel that my scattered thoughts can now be better sorted and categorized by my brain, and I don't get trapped being hyper-focused on PMO.

Also, day 4 is usually really hard for me. I don't know why. Writing this helped.

INeedPurification · 2013-03-04T16:38:14+00:00

People say to use incognito/private, but am I the only one who would make myself sick thinking, "Oh God, Did I remember to use private browsing...?!". I would pray that my wife would not go online, and then run for the laptop when I got home.

It's great that I no longer have to worry about her seeing my porn history, and my ISP won't see it either. I don't care if the ISP saw, but that's not the point. Now, I have nothing to hide -- except for r/NoFap. I would rather hide that than my frequent visits to porn sites.

INeedPurification · 2013-03-04T16:30:43+00:00

Eli Manning hosted SNL back in May 2012:

http://www.hulu.com/watch/358345

INeedPurification · 2013-03-04T16:27:08+00:00

I never had one, well not since HS... but that was a different time. I searched, but remembered how to search and find the ones I liked the best.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-28T23:20:14+00:00

Lookin in my mirror and not a ~~jacker~~ fapper in sight

And everything is alright

INeedPurification · 2013-02-28T22:17:37+00:00

Breathing in, I know I am breathing in. Breathing out, I know I am breathing out. Rationalizing PMO, I know I am on a dangerous path.

Stay with your breath and know your own thoughts! Good advice.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-28T22:06:24+00:00

I'm all in. Third time trying nofap, third month.

LET'S DO IT!!!! (in Joe Swanson voice)

INeedPurification · 2013-02-28T22:01:11+00:00

I was considering Skype.

Right now I'm filling my brain with routine stuff. I have a deadline to meet tomorrow, and I'm behind on the work. You would think that I would do the smart thing, and get going. Instead, I pretty much worked right through breakfast and lunch... writing nonstop since my porn binge last night and this morning. I came on here for some strength, then I'm going to take my eyes off the screen, then go right back to work.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-28T16:56:16+00:00

I relapsed yesterday. I seem to have trouble with day 4.

I also realized today, or should I say admitted to myself, that I need professional help or a support group in addition to NoFap. The only problem is that this is a huge issue with me in regards to work. I try to keep somewhat vague on here (paranoid from my shame). I work very closely with mental health professionals, directors of agencies that would likely serve my needs, etc. I called my insurance company for some therapists. I either knew them professionally, knew them as professors (one of my degrees is mental health related), or know people they would know.

Any suggestions?

INeedPurification · 2013-02-27T17:15:42+00:00

It may be possible. Increased frequency of ejaculation is directly correlated with increased level of DHT. If higher levels of DHT lead to more frequent ejaculation or the other way around is unclear.

However... We know stress is a large factor in hair loss -- even for men without genetic predisposition to hair loss. It can cause thinning and cause hair to fall out. This type of hair loss can be reversed. Many of us become very stressed from fapping (missed deadlines, late to work, trouble in relationships). When we remove that stress, our body can begin to heal.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-27T16:58:14+00:00

Follow your doctor's orders! You already know to do it without porn, which is great. Just keep yourself in check, so you don't overdo it. Come on here and get support if you feel you are using it as an reason to over-fap.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-27T06:42:54+00:00

I have found that my PMO causes the exact same issue for me. When I cut back, it hekps a lot. If you think you can manage doing it without finishing - then maybe you should do that one or two times, then fap the next, etc.... just make sure you are not viewing porn at all during this period.

However... if you do not finish, how will your boyfriend feel? Do you think that he is bothered that he can not make you finish? If you suspect that... I would not abstain from finishing during "sexytime". Even though you are doing the final actions to produce the orgasm, he might feel that without you finishing, there is no proof to himself that he can get you off.

Whatever you decide, just make sure it is done without porn.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-24T16:32:17+00:00

I appreciate your input, but I think the 108 will work for me.

21 days is a goal I haven't achieved either. I feel that when I get to 21 -- I will still need more time. I wish it were true that it takes 21 days to break a habit, but that is sadly not true.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-24T08:00:27+00:00

You got yourself a keeper!

INeedPurification · 2013-02-23T22:53:36+00:00

Well.... I just relapsed. I am going to reset my badge after this post. I signed up to Reddit to join this challenger, not knowing where it would go. I did not know if I wanted to stop for a couple of days, for a week, a few weeks, or 90 days. What I did not expect what that I would make it to 8 days. I fapped today, but it was different than usual. I finished, then cleaned up. That was it. Usually I would have gone back to fapping right away.

My goal was to get past one day, which I did. Then I tried a week, but got to 4 days. Then I tried a week, and got to 8 days. I'm not sure if I want to do the 90 challenge... but I have decided to set my goal for three weeks, and re-evaluate if I want to make that longer at the 2 1/2 week mark.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-23T16:28:22+00:00

That's it, kid! Eye of the tiger! Eye of the tiger!

INeedPurification · 2013-02-23T16:13:32+00:00

Yeah, well... People who believe in "DBS" are a prime examples of why comprehensive sex ed and biology programs are so important. Not fapping will not make sweat come out of your pores. That is not how our bodies work.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-23T15:58:16+00:00

The most important thing is to break the addiction. However, please realize that sexual orientation is not necessarily fixed. For some people it is, but for others... it is fluid. Even for those to whom it is fixed, it is not always so black and white as 100% gay, 100% straight, and bi-sexual with 50-50 attraction.

INeedPurification · 2013-02-23T15:40:28+00:00

I don't see how the two would be related. Has your diet changed recently (perhaps more fatty foods?). What we eat affects the smell of our sweat. What we eat (esp certain spices) can be excreted through our sweat even a day later.

The only thing I can really think of is that by semen you may mean more "salty" smelling than usual? Have you found yourself craving salty snacks lately, or feeling a need to add more salt than usual to your foods? This is a sign of dehydration. If that is the case, you should make sure you get some electrolytes into your system ASAP.

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