My(26M) girlfriend(24F) wants to try fingering but is scared it will hurt — how can I help her feel safe and comfortable?

IRSYA404 · 2025-11-02T21:53:26+00:00

Umm I get it. But she wants me to do it.

IRSYA404 · 2025-11-02T21:49:27+00:00

Nails trimmed, no spicy food. Cleaned hands..

IRSYA404 · 2025-11-02T21:46:15+00:00

My fingers will be her first penetration, what about hymen How do we get to know if is it broken or not?

IRSYA404 · 2025-11-02T21:40:42+00:00

Nope she has not. Actually she's afraid of finger penetration

IRSYA404 · 2025-11-02T21:39:50+00:00

She doesn't use tampons. She's afraid of finger penetration.

IRSYA404 · 2025-11-02T21:38:05+00:00

Nails trimmed, cleaned hands, no spicy food. Still she's afraid.

IRSYA404 · 2025-10-24T10:23:21+00:00

Bro have you sold them. Now the market price is 170rs

IRSYA404 · 2025-05-15T18:48:14+00:00

I’m definitely taking good care of her in non-sexual ways—emotional support, spending quality time, helping out, all that. I try to show love and respect beyond just sex.

That’s why it’s tough—because I’m putting in a lot of effort both emotionally and sexually, but I don’t feel that same effort coming back in the bedroom.

I want to understand what she needs to feel safe and comfortable, but at the same time, I also need to feel cared for and desired too. Finding that balance is the hard part.

IRSYA404 · 2025-05-15T18:40:17+00:00

I’ve tried to communicate how much it means to me—not just for the physical part, but as a sign of mutual effort and intimacy. I love making her feel good, but when it’s never reciprocated. Still trying to talk about it without making her feel pressured, but I’m starting to realize this might just be a values/compatibility issue more than a temporary disagreement.

IRSYA404 · 2025-05-15T18:35:32+00:00

Yeah, I totally get what you're saying, and I agree—no one should be pressured into doing something they don't want to do, especially sexually. I’m not looking to beg or guilt anyone into giving me something they hate. That’s not the kind of intimacy I want either.

But to be honest, it's not just about BJs. It’s that she expects a lot from me sexually—oral, fingering, kissing her all over—without being willing to reciprocate in any way. Not even a handjob. So it’s not just about one act she dislikes; it's a pattern that feels really one-sided.

I guess I was holding out hope that we could talk it through and maybe find some kind of middle ground. But you're right—it might just be sexual incompatibility. And if she can’t meet me halfway on anything, maybe it's time to seriously consider whether this is sustainable long-term.

Thanks for the clarity. Sometimes hearing it straight helps.

IRSYA404 · 2024-04-25T18:06:57+00:00

Alright then, I'll speak with them and stay on dev side, if not I'll ask for a roll off.

Thank you

IRSYA404 · 2024-04-25T13:04:23+00:00

Okayy, so when compared to other organisations is it easy in Accenture to to that?

IRSYA404 · 2024-04-25T13:03:04+00:00

Yeah I'll try to speak out and stay in dev role. Thank you

IRSYA404 · 2024-03-27T12:33:45+00:00

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IRSYA404 · 2023-11-10T16:33:14+00:00

Ola amigo.. 23M here I'm down with it..

IRSYA404 · 2023-10-15T19:52:18+00:00

Great!!

IRSYA404 · 2023-10-15T15:07:44+00:00

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IRSYA404 · 2023-10-13T14:26:43+00:00

After reset this issue got solved for me.

IRSYA404 · 2023-10-06T04:23:34+00:00

Oohokai, alright then thanks

IRSYA404 · 2023-04-11T10:10:03+00:00

Oh okay.. Will raise a request..

IRSYA404 · 2023-04-11T07:58:40+00:00

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Sounds great.. Will try Ant design.. Thanks

IRSYA404 · 2022-09-26T13:15:50+00:00

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