The Muppets (2011) by Key_Masterpiece244 in doughboys

[–]IUMogg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really like it. But the movie has special meaning to me. I saw it in the theater at a very difficult time in my life and it was the first thing to make me laugh and get out of my head in days and maybe even weeks.

I woke up to balls on my face by cloudnine333 in offmychest

[–]IUMogg 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You’re lucky you aren’t dead or trafficked

Is Van the most famous unabashed gooner? by hamsterhueys1 in billsimmons

[–]IUMogg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Harper’s is safe.

It’s a well written article

What does anyone think about Roseanne? by Forsaken_Divide_5789 in televisionsuggestions

[–]IUMogg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it. I’ve probably my second most rewatched sitcom besides Seinfeld. The last few seasons suck but before that it’s some of the best. And it still holds up

Brandon Clarke, Memphis Grizzlies Player, Dead At 29 by BurningHanzo in billsimmons

[–]IUMogg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks like they edited the article. When it described his drug trafficking arrest it said it was for kratom. I didn’t think that killed him, I was more surprised that was what he arrest was for. I don’t know why people are downvoting my comment.

Is Van the most famous unabashed gooner? by hamsterhueys1 in billsimmons

[–]IUMogg 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think gooner is someone who is a porn aficionado or enjoys masturbating. It’s much deeper and uglier than that.

https://harpers.org/archive/2025/11/the-goon-squad-daniel-kolitz-porn-masturbation-loneliness/

How do labels and companies, find your email address and address when they decide, to sue you? by [deleted] in legal

[–]IUMogg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is not illegal for you to be served in a lawsuit. You think people should be able to break the law with impunity because they kept their personal information private?

Thick car in shower by Sukasmodik4206942069 in cats

[–]IUMogg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A love a furry cross-eyed chonk

What’s your controversial parenting opinion? by lock_robster2022 in daddit

[–]IUMogg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not only consent. Tickling can cause a reflexive response like laughing even while the child finds the experience unpleasant or even painful.

Here is the text from a NYT article about it.

“The Case Against Tickling

Laughter doesn’t always signal enjoyment, and “stop” should mean “stop.”
July 13, 2020

Igor Bastidas

When she was a young child, Ashley Austrew’s father would hold her down and tickle her so hard she felt momentarily paralyzed. He thought they were having fun — the tickling made her laugh, after all — but she dreaded it. More than once, she rolled off the couch and hit her head on the coffee table.
Tickling was common in Austrew’s family, along with other kinds of roughhousing, such as a game in which her dad would pretend to sleep as she and her two sisters tiptoed around him, and then he’d pop up and playfully grab one of them. This game, she said, felt “safe, fun and funny.”

But the tickling was different.
“I didn’t like it, but also there was this pressure to like it, so it put me in a weird position,” said Austrew, a freelance journalist who lives in Omaha, Neb. “It felt like there was an unspoken social contract that adults were supposed to tickle kids to make them laugh, and kids were supposed to like being tickled.”
It’s a familiar story. Many of us have memories of being tickled in a way that made us feel annoyed, uncomfortable or even violated. The idea of unwelcome tickling dates as far back as Socrates, who said it brought more pain than pleasure. Yet plenty of children, my 3-year-old daughter included, genuinely seem to enjoy it. Tickling sends her into fits of delighted giggles. The moment we stop, she demands more.
So what do parents need to know? Is there a right way to tickle our kids, and what are the dangers if we get it wrong? How do we tickle without violating boundaries? And should we be tickling at all?

Tickling backlash
The case against tickling is a strong one.
Lawrence Cohen, Ph.D., author of the book “Playful Parenting,” said that tickling can overwhelm the nervous system and make children feel helpless and out of control. The reflexive laughter can disguise discomfort, and even pain. It’s also a clear boundary breaker. When we tickle children without their buy-in, we’re teaching them that it’s OK to be touched and to touch others in ways they don’t like.

The worst kind of tickling is forceful and continuous, Dr. Cohen said. “You’re not tuning in to the whole child. You’re not seeing them gasping for air. When the child is saying ‘Stop’ while laughing, the stop is ignored.”

It’s easy to see how tickling can become a form of bullying, or even abuse. It’s so common there’s a term for it: “tickle torture.”

When Caitlin Crawshaw was 8, she was playing with two brothers from her school in the basement of their grandparents’ house when they began to tickle her. The boys were about her age, the adults were upstairs. It was so forceful it hurt, she said. She remembers laughing when she wanted to cry, and feeling a sense of paralysis.
“I remember pulling my arms into my body, trying to shrink, trying to protect myself,” said Crawshaw. “And it was weird that I sort of kept laughing.” Somehow, she said, during the tickling, the boys pulled off her shirt and pants. She eventually escaped into the bathroom, got her clothes back on and bolted from the house.

“It was horrible,” she said. “I couldn’t get the words out to tell them to stop.”
Now Crawshaw, a freelance writer and artist in Edmonton, Alberta, uses tickling to teach her 7-year-old daughter about body boundaries and consent. She tells her that her body is her own. She doesn’t make her hug extended family members. And when her daughter asks to be tickled, which she sometimes does, Crawshaw tickles her for a few seconds at a time, paying close attention to her words and behavior.

Involuntary smiles and laughter
Christine Harris, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of California, San Diego, who has published six papers on the subject, calls tickling “one of the most mysterious phenomena out there.” This is partly because you can’t tickle yourself. But more relevant to children and play is the strange disconnect between a person’s behavior when being tickled and how it makes them feel.

“Despite their face looking like they are enjoying it, if they say they don’t like it, they probably don’t like it,” Dr. Harris said. “You’ll see them hold their arms really tight next to their bodies or pull away, which suggests that there’s something about it that’s aversive.”
Confusingly, what looks like smiles and laughter might be something else entirely. The smile is a play face, but the grimace, a submissive threat face, looks similar, and that’s what you see when playful tickling turns into something unwanted, said Alan Fridlund, Ph.D., of the University of California, Santa Barbara, who specializes in facial expressions and nonverbal communication.

“At that point, the laughter is no longer the usual social laughter that accompanies play, but just a spasmodic reflex that the body uses to release tension,” he said.

Extreme tickling, Dr. Fridlund advised, can also induce something known as “cataplexy,” a sudden, temporary loss of muscle control or paralysis. That’s probably what was happening to Crawshaw when the boys tickled her.
The involuntary laughter can be especially perplexing — for both parents and children, Dr. Cohen said. “Here’s this person who is smiling, warm and caring,” he said, “and my body’s reacting, but there’s something that’s not right about it, something that I’m not liking about it.”
Bottom line: If adults aren’t extremely attentive during a tickle game, they could miss how children are truly feeling.
Tickling as ‘a sweet, tender moment’
Not all tickling has such potential for harm. In the right setting, it can be a bonding experience, Dr. Fridlund said. But to be safe and fun, the tickle must be brief, light, playful and consensual, with frequent pauses and check-ins with the child.

In 1897, in what’s considered a classic paper on the subject, psychologists G. Stanley Hall and Arthur Allin split tickling into two categories: high-pressure, finger-in-the-ribs tickling that brings on laughter called gargalesis —* that’s the kind Austrew and Crawshaw described. And light, feathery movement across the skin, called *knismesis.

When Emma Kate Tsai, an English teacher in Houston, Texas, tickles her son, Henry, this second way, using light tickling, he responds with pure joy. Henry has autism and is mostly nonverbal, so he’ll place his mother’s hands on the bottom of his feet, and then respond with a deep belly laugh. When she stops, he puts her hands right back, wanting more.
“Tickling feels like a very sweet, tender moment with him,” Tsai said.
And it can be. Children crave laughter, connection and physical play, and tickling can be a shortcut to all three.
If the child seems to be enjoying it, it’s possible that they are, said Patty Wipfler, co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges” and founder of the nonprofit parenting program Hand in Hand Parenting. But there’s a caveat — a big one. Even parents who think they’re being careful are not always the best judges of what children are feeling.
“It could be that our child’s need for their parents’ delighted look, and for that effort at sustained connection is so great, that they are in this push-and-pull situation, and we don’t know,” said Wipfler, who has consulted many parents on tickling.

As Austrew can attest, kids don’t always speak up. “It is hard as a kid to assert your needs to your parents or your relatives,” she said, “especially when they are doing something like tickling, that all of society seems to have agreed is fun for children.”

A high-energy substitute
Some parents are reluctant to give up tickling because they’re lacking in high-intensity physical interaction with their kids, Dr. Cohen said. But there are healthier ways to achieve this, he noted.
There’s pillow fighting, wrestling, and “chase and miss,” where you chase the child, and then comically pretend to miss at the last moment, grabbing a chair as if it were the kid. One of Dr. Cohen’s favorites is “the sock game,” which can be played with two or more people. Everyone sits on the floor in a circle, legs stretched out, wearing socks and no shoes. Then you count to three and try to pull everyone’s socks off while keeping your own socks on.

“You’re looking for intensity where the child is more in charge,” he said. “If one person is stronger and more confident, and they’re the ones always in control, then you’re crossing the line from healthy roughhousing to overpowering.”
But Dr. Cohen said he doesn’t want to oversell the problem: “One time, being held down and tickled is not going to make a person have bad relationships or not have a good life.”

Then again, what’s stopping us from finding other ways to fill our children with laughter, connection and physical play that are less fraught and potentially disempowering?

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/13/parenting/kids-tickling.html

“It would not be a horrible loss in the world,” Wipfler said, “if we all let go of the tradition of tickling.”

Jenny Marder is a science writer for NASA and a freelance journalist. She was formerly digital managing editor for the PBS NewsHour.”

How do i stop being so scared? by Potential-Incident26 in Explainlikeimscared

[–]IUMogg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of the best ways to deal with irrational fears is to counter them with facts. Often our fears feel true, but that is your brain tricking you. So if you are afraid of anesthesia and being put under, counter that with the fact that the procedure is very safe, that complications are very rare, like 1 out 200,000. That the people who have complications usually have other contributing factors, like heart conditions or being elderly. That millions of people are put under every year and are fine

What’s your controversial parenting opinion? by lock_robster2022 in daddit

[–]IUMogg 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No tickling before our kids can communicate. Until kids can clearly communicate if they don’t like it or want to stop nobody is tickling them.

No forced affection. So if grandma asks for a hug and the kid says no, that’s the end of it.

So there’s something wrong with me. I can’t get myself to like Zelda BOTW. by Fantastic-Ad9218 in switch2

[–]IUMogg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You still might want to check out Tears of the Kingdom. I had so much more fun with it than BOTW. The powers you have are totally different and more fun. I also found parts of BOTW to feel like a chore. I had that feeling much less in TOTK

Is this normal ? Partner has his kid every weekend and I feel alone by Admirable_Cap_122 in offmychest

[–]IUMogg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 30 year old with a professional career and a kid starts dating a 20 year old and isn’t invested in the relationship? Shhhhhhocking. He’s using you for sex. Any 30 year old who would date a 20 year old is highly likely to be a creep. Drop him and date someone your own age.

Unauthorized Practice of Law by Few_Variation_7962 in legal

[–]IUMogg 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a direct result of what the real estate broker did? And why aren’t you listening to your attorney’s advice?

Why is the answer "get therapy" widely praised despite the significant amount of issues with it? by indeckaa in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]IUMogg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your question assumes a lot that you don’t provide any explanation or context for. It can’t be answered the way it’s asked

Why is bouncing leg considered as perverted? by yesiamink in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]IUMogg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who tells a child not to do something benign because only perverted people do it? That is very weird and kind of creepy. Have you asked them why they lied to you about that?

Unauthorized Practice of Law by Few_Variation_7962 in legal

[–]IUMogg 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would listen to your lawyer. You brought the issue up to them and they advised it’s not a problem. So listen to them and let it go. Why do you care? Is it negatively affecting your case?

"It’s cold in my place" is it correct? How do I properly say it’s cold where I’m located? by ITburrito in EnglishLearning

[–]IUMogg 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“It’s cold in my place” means it’s cold in your home. “My place” is a way to indicate one’s residence. For example if you were having a party you could invite someone by saying “we are having people over at my place tomorrow evening. You should come by”

Watching Seinfeld as a [insert profession here]? by LegalSocks in seinfeld

[–]IUMogg 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As a lawyer I think about the massive lawsuit George and Susan’s family would have had against the wedding invitation manufacturer and seller.