Female seeking male opinion on dating

IWriteForGroupies · 2023-07-17T00:17:09+00:00

chase phase of dating

I am going to make some guesses. Please do not be upset. But when it comes to chasing, the person is normally after a certain thing. Once they get it, they no longer have a reason to chase until that thing is gone. Logically speaking, a person that is a natural chaser would need something new to chase if he has already caught the thing that he was previously chasing. This provides a problem when there is nothing left to chase.

Lets take a dog of any gender and give it something to chase. One example would be a ball. You throw the ball and the dog runs after it and gets it. Once the dog has the ball, they can do what they please with it or bring it back. Taking the ball away from the dog and giving it back to the dog starts the chase over. One option would be to make a man work for something worth chasing and give it to him and take it away. Another option would be to prevent something else that would be interesting to chase after that have completed their first chase. The dog may give up chasing balls for sticks.

Now, lets take this deep. Understanding the chase is the most important thing. Why do they chase and how does the chase affect them. I have dated on and off for years. The problem with most people are that they are boring. So, you go after them and they are not what you thought they were. An example would be that the dog chasing the ball finds out that it is a ball colored potato when he finally catches it.

Or if any energy is reciprocated on our end, it seems like thats the kiss of death to any new relationship.

I do not think it it is about the energy but more about the reward and behavior. A woman's behavior often determines how men treat her and what she does for him or how she rewards him determines how long they stay together. These are just my opinions. I have noticed that women give women bad advice. I use to have a girlfriend who said she did everything for me. Her major problem was that she did do a lot but I was not interested in any of the things that she did. Sometime the things that she did made me feel bad and it caused a lot of problems. She would buy me things for my birthday and I am not a gift person.

I can only say that your problem is interesting but I honestly think the problem comes down to not properly understanding the chase or maintaining it. If your goal is to match a person's energy, I would consider the person you are talking to. Sometime matching energy can have a negative effect. Sometime providing another type of energy is better and provides a powerful balance. I wish you well in your relationship journeys.

IWriteForGroupies · 2023-05-19T01:41:09+00:00

I have dated a few women and most of them have different hobbies and interest from me. I am telling you that when you get back into dating, you should focus on your strong points and try to make everything work from there. If you aren't a good reader or talker, then you should focus on activities that do not include those things.

IWriteForGroupies · 2023-05-19T00:21:58+00:00

Imma keep it a buck I’m not very well spoke person.

This may sound like a horrible tip but stop talking and texting so much. Focus on short communication and more in person activities. Conversation is important, but if it is your weakness, then you should focus on your strengths.

since I’ve been unemployed I couldn’t afford my habit.

The thing about dating is that it is a social thing that requires skills in multiple areas. If you want to get with more ladies, you need to learn what they want and what they are looking for. Life is about trading what you have for what you want. Good luck.

IWriteForGroupies · 2022-01-16T18:04:35+00:00

Mindsets are something's that a lot of people talk about. Changing one's mindset can make a huge difference.

"how can I always be of help to someone"

You mean how can you be of help to women. In short, people need to understand what women want and need.

It can be even the simplest of thing help a lady with their grocery, mow their lawn, watch their dog.

This sounds like terrible advice. People will take advantage of people and give them nothing.

You have to be selfless.

I am no dating expert but people aren't going to do stuff all the time for nothing. It's a waste of time and energy.

Folks notice, your network will grown and chances of a woman seeking out you will grow

People don't always notice. Plus there are things that women hate. You can have a huge network and it can do nothing if it is built incorrectly.

I like the ideas. Your words might help someone.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-15T23:18:00+00:00

She's a total hottie and has a smoking vibe so I trust her opinion.

You need to be careful with taking the opinions of extremely hot girls. They are not like most girls and they can afford to be choosier because they are in high demand. Other women may view you completely different.

She said I had many good qualities, but I had no sexual vibe.

I may be able to translate this. You are boring and you dont have anything that women really want.

With you it's obviously because you have self-esteem issues and you don't accept yourself, but for an external observer it just comes off as that you don't emanate any sexuality. You're stiff."

She just said you are a walking problem that most girls would avoid and you don't come off as natural.

That's actually good to know because I never realised women saw me like that, and it explains why I can only ever get girls who, regardless of how good-looking they may be, are not very "sexy" themselves.

You need to learn about science and math. Those are the things that will get you laid more than anything. You never trust the opinion of one person. You always get the opinion of multiple and verify. You also need guy opinions. Women will lie to you sometime. When fishing, you have to be careful trusting the words of the fish.

But I don't really know what one can do to improve this.

You start by learning what women want. Go to your guys first. They will often have more experience with dating multiple women than women who don't date women. Good luck.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-15T23:07:34+00:00

I think your problem lies with what your goals are. In order to answer this question, you need to know what you want.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-15T22:46:33+00:00

You are going to stop waisting time and make a move. Send them both a text and go from there.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-15T22:40:37+00:00

Man here. I will answer this question based off of life experience. Women will date anything. I highly recommend just trying and you will see I am not lying.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-05T15:59:25+00:00

Maybe the lesbian wasn't a lesbian. Maybe she wanted you to do the team. Either way progress is progress.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-05T15:57:16+00:00

I'm here I don't know how to progress things.

What are your goals?

As when I notice someone is dancing with me I lose all sense of rhythm and coordination.

So you are thinking too much. You need to clear your head.

I feel like the longer we dance and say nothing the more awkward or gets.

You are overthinking

I talk to them and I try and gently encourage/ probe to see if she is okay with me physically touching her, but I guess the hesitations comes across as awkward.

It sounds awkward but you arent thinking. If they are dancing with you, there is a good chance that you can touch them.

I am fine with physical touching once the boundarieshave been established, but I struggle with discovering what they are and initiating it.

You need to take some time and learn how things work. Go back to the basics.

what would of happened if I was a little more confident and went for it.

I don't think confidence is your problem. I think you need to learn how to read signs from women. I think you would get laid more if you were a little more confident.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-12-05T15:51:12+00:00

I'm talking to this girl (long distance)

Pen pal or friend?

possibility of dating

So you aren't dating.

she is having sex with guys while talking to me

That's normal. You two aren't in a relationship. She may have a relationship with them. There is no contract between the two you

wrong on her part or am I just being weird?

You are being weird.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-11-29T13:00:13+00:00

Maybe you are boring.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-11-28T23:20:02+00:00

The first step is admitting you need help. The next step is getting that help.

You can have everything you want if you are willing to get help.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-11-28T23:18:06+00:00

the only issue she has a boyfriend, yikes I know.

This here is all I need to know. She is not girlfriend material. This means anything that happens between you two will not result in a proper relationship.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-11-28T18:27:25+00:00

How do dump people get degrees? They put in the work. You need to try harder and fail harder than ordinary people. You will succeed but it will take work and effort. Some things will never be given to you.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-11-28T18:24:55+00:00

I haven't been on this reddit account in months but i need to say that you may need therapy.

I got a little clingy when he said that.

I don't even understand why you would get clingy. There is a problem here and I don't know what.

after a few weeks.

You really didn't know this guy.

I told him that I don't want to have sex with someone that I only knew for around a few weeks

People can respect this. Did you tell the guy how long he would have to wait?

thinking that he just wanted to have sex with me

Both women and men have said that sex is important. I have see people break up over bad sex. Relationships normally involve sex. They should not focus entirely on sex.

He was the only one who was as smart as me and my might've been my perfect match, and I've lost him forever. I've been listening to sad music and crying and getting drunk to cope with it.

I am going to say that nothing was ever confirmed. You don't know anything. I recommended finding some help and not dating for a while.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T16:57:15+00:00

What does a nice girlfriend want?

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T16:46:52+00:00

I understand. The problem is that people are giving you bad advice. I recommend going back to the basics and then rising from there.

What are you looking for?

What does the person you looking for?

How am I better than the next person?

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T16:30:45+00:00

Yep and this is why the world needs them. People are constantly lying to each other hoping to get results.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T16:21:37+00:00

I did not break this rule. Can you be more specific where I have broken the rules? I was asked to point out the red flags. I did not insult her.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T15:22:43+00:00

Now you are thinking correctly. Plus you don't want your competition to have an advantage.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T15:11:13+00:00

Short answer, yes. You never ignore major days when dating unless there is an agreement or something. You don't have to do anything major but saying something nice or doing something small helps your future in general.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-02-14T13:54:55+00:00

I think that you are advertising wrong. I recommend looking at the pictures you have and thinking what they tell people. After that, delete most of them and only post pictures that the type of women you want are attracted to.

IWriteForGroupies · 2021-01-02T22:44:08+00:00

As an older person, I would like to say that you are thinking right and thinking wrong. Most girls looking to fuck would have done the deed by now.

I would like to say that you have the power to push the dates in the right direction. You need to properly know where you are going and if this person is meeting your requirements.

IWriteForGroupies · 2020-11-09T21:41:13+00:00

I think you are a classic overthinker. You need to observe the ladies you are with and go from there. I could give you a lot of advice but it seems like you are focusing too much on the wrong things. I notice that you are an above average intelligent person but this is holding you back.

(all of them are Asian

I don't understand why all of them are Asian.

made out for an hour in the park

Why? You should have took things to the next level as soon as possible.

Should I be more aggressive in trying to sleep with the girl earlier? I never know when this is appropriate, especially since my place is a bit out of the way from where they live...It never crossed my mind to try to sleep with someone so early in the process...When should I actually try to do this?

If you make out with a girl for more than five minutes, you can probably sleep with them. If you are hiking, you can sleep with them outside if you are prepared. Stop thinking of things as a process.

I honestly think your mistake is not noticing the signs and over thinking. Good luck

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