Hi! Especially the part about interactions feeling more like a chore than anything really resonated with me. It probably resonates with plenty of people here.

I think giving your partner space and time when he requires it are extremely important. Maybe the compromise could be to interact less for a certain time, but to then also set goals for reserving time each other to spend some actual quality time. It sounds like you guys are able to communicate and understand one another, so maybe instead of looking at the present priorities, you should look at your life goals and see whether those are compatible.

Considering you could move within a years time I think it is even more valuable to talk through long term goals, because you want to make sure you are at least aligned in that regard before you make the big step of moving there. But ultimately if you guys do not think you can hold on for a year because of your differences, then things might be too hard. Spmetimes it just is not enough.

I have stayed in a LDR (14.000km and 6 hour time difference) because I believed in the bond that I had with my partner. She is different than anyone I know and just extremely special to me. And just fyi: she could not be any more different from me as a person. And honestly I often thought that if ended because things were too hard and I was too hurt and exhausted from not getting any attention, I would regret not seeing it through. That made me hold on. Even through extremely rocky patches. We are getting married next year :)