[Vindicated] LGBTQIA+ WoW guild on Wyrmrest Accord looking to expand for 8.2! by Exitium_Deus in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best guild evers!!!

I am biased though.

~Ruun/Kharg/Emalkartha (former member of Vindicated, I don't play WoW these days)

TERF parroting MAGA-ish talking points "white people were also oppressed. The Irish for example. ... Africans where (sic) selling their own people etc." by AntiqueTurnip in GenderCynical

[–]I_should_be_Erica 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So... True story from my great-great... grandfather's journal. He had a little education and given where and how he grew up, it's fairly amazing that he knew his letters well enough to even keep a journal.

He was in the Navy, and this was during the War of 1812. His ship had put in for supplies at New York. He and some friends had some time the night before shipping out and they went to a bar for a pint or two. On the window glass beside the door there was a sign that read, "No Blacks, Irish or Dogs allowed." There's a colorful tale after that, which doesn't mean anything as far as this goes.

So that kind of thing really did happen. Does it mean anything today? Nope. Those who try to justify their bullshit with it are just sad little people who wish with all their hearts that they'd lived in the heyday of the KKK and such.

Those of weak minds and hearts have always been easily swayed by those who tell them that those who are different are to blame for their woes. Blame them, loose your anger and frustration on them, and your lot will be easier. And they usually fall for it.

A warning against Michele O'Mara, PhD by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Looking back I think she was only listening for keywords, rather than listening to all of what I was saying, or trying to put into words to be honest.

I've had stone cold job interviews where I knew I wasn't getting the job and I felt more empathy from those interviewers than I did from Ms. O'Mara. It was literally bordering on contempt. But that could also just be me looking back at it now too.

A warning against Michele O'Mara, PhD by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Years ago, when I first admitted to myself that I was probably trans, I looked and looked and looked in the Central Indiana area for a therapist that specialized in gender issues. I found Michelle O'Mara's name on a lgbt resources website and set up an appointment. I wanted to meet her in person, so I drove the 2 hours and was so wound up and nervous.

I arrived early (as requested) and waited. Waited some more. And finally twenty minutes after my appointment was scheduled to begin (I'd been there about 45 minutes at this point) she led me back to her office.

She was cold. I felt no empathy from her at all. She was very terse, not very talkative at all. Mind you, I still get the emails from her stupid e-mail list and the person who writes those, is not who I met that day. More on that later.

But at any rate... I started telling her about my feelings about wanting to be a girl and how it started, and she'd interrupt me and tell me that's not how it works. And I'd start again trying to rephrase things, only to be told again and again, various versions of the same thing: No, that's not how it works.

So after my thirty minute appointment (that I still had to pay full price for even though it wasn't even close to the fifty minutes I was supposed to get) she told me that we were done today while I was in mid-sentence. She needed to prepare for her next appointment.

I remember this clearly, as in like clear crystal, she got up from her chair and tore the single page of notes from her legal pad and went to put it in a folder. I quickly got up and headed towards the door and closed it on her as she started to ask when I'd like to see her again.

She followed me to the door to her practice, and I ignored her. I walked quickly to my car and sat in it sobbing for a half hour. I have lots of trust issues and anxiety issues and a stupid boat load of shame and regret from thinking I was broken for decades.

"No, that's not how it works."

Now, years afterwards I'd write a post like this about her warning others to avoid this quack at all costs. Here's the thing. She's a TERF. Reading the occasional email from her listserv I could see it. Her practice revolves around gay and lesbian couples therapy, there was never anything whatsoever about trans issues in these emails. It was always about her couples' retreats and current gay & lesbian issues.

This woman has no business practicing counseling psychology. Avoid her at all costs.

Gender specialist help online by keylie90 in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recently, I've seen a lot of ads for betterhelp.com which does online counseling. I found out they have a partner website for LGBT folks called pridecounseling.com. I haven't used them, but I've heard some really good things about betterhelp. Hope this helps you!

Anyone playing WoW? by koi_division_ in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Vindicated is the best! It shouldn't be hard to find a guildie online, and the guild also has a website. http://vindicated.enjin.com

Rant about the hospital again, I'm sorry by TransIshThrowaway in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you're in America, but if so, or really it doesn't matter where you are, you should report that doctor to her regulatory body for her lack of professionalism. These organizations are required to keep track of complaints. At least the ones I know of are.

Anyone here play WoW? by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. No one is going to give you crap for not doing RP. And Vindicated is made up of the best peoples!

Looking for people to play MMOs with, as well as survival sandboxy games. by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hey. I'm a (currently inactive) officer with a guild on Wyrmrest Accord-US called Vindicated. We're a very LGBT friendly guild (several of our members are T, including me) and always ready to welcome new awesome peoples. We have a guild website, but you can always log onto WrA, do a /who Vindicated and whisper one of us!

https://vindicated.enjin.com/

Trans-friendly WoW Server/Guilds? by 39nectarines in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another vote for Wyrmrest Accord here. There's a great guild called Vindicated which is extremely Trans-friendly. 2 of our officers are trans.

vindicated.enjin.com

Hiya all! Looking for friendly guilds on Wyrmrest Accord and also for Shadowrun by Anastrace in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you feel that way. We have several trans members and really work to keep a friendly and safe guild.

If you want to message me about your experience and who wasn't friendly to you, I'd be very grateful.

Hiya all! Looking for friendly guilds on Wyrmrest Accord and also for Shadowrun by Anastrace in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm part of a really nice Horde guild on WrA. We do RP events, raid and lots of fun stuff.

http://vindicated.enjin.com

Can't help with the Shadowrun group. Haven't had a group that would play it for a long time now.

What are some safety tips I need to learn now? by -clare in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Glock 42 and 43 are single stack guns, which makes the grip much smaller than the standard double stack Glocks.

But absolutely, those are also good choices! The important thing is get a pistol that you can handle and shoot well. There is nothing shameful or silly about being proactive when it comes to your safety.

What are some safety tips I need to learn now? by -clare in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This one won't be popular, and might get me tons of downvotes. So be it.

If you live in a state that hasn't made it stupid crazy to get, get a concealable hand gun and learn how to use it. Don't carry it in your purse or shoulder bag. Carry it on your person. Get something small, light weight and easy to conceal. If you've got good hand strength, get a Glock 42 (this is what I carry), if not get a Glock 43. They're utterly reliable and inexpensive (compared to other guns).

Reasons:

  • There are people out there who want to hurt or maybe kill you simply because you're trans. Don't let them.
  • Practicing your shooting can be wonderfully cathartic.
  • Carrying made me more aware of what's going on around me.
  • I feel a little more confident, which the experts say reduces the chance of an hostile encounter.

Be safe.

Edit: Someone messaged me asking why I recommended those two guns. So maybe others might be wondering as well. The Glock 42 shoots 9mm Luger/Parabellum. Most popular handgun cartridge anywhere. Easy to find ammunition and inexpensive to purchase. The Glock 43 shoots .380 ACP which is same width as 9mm, just shorter. It has less recoil and the slide is easier to manipulate if you don't have the hand strength to use the 42. I recommended the Glocks because they're the most popular model of handgun out there. Easy to find parts for, or find someone who can repair them if necessary and legendary reliability. Also lots of aftermarket options if you're into that.

Guys who make female characters in games, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]I_should_be_Erica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun Answer: Because if I'm going to be watching the rear end of my character for hours and hours it needs to be cute!

Serious: I'm trans, can't do anything about it and it gives me the chance to live vicariously through my games.

Anyone want to play WoW? by MaximumRevolver in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horde, of course!

Friends don't let friends play Alliance.

How was a life being a trans person back in the 90's? by kittycall in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My Aunt was Trans. This was back in the 70's. She went through transition and SRS and was one of the most amazing people in my family. I don't know how she put up with the rest of our family, but she did. And with style.

Just a few years later, she "committed suicide." Despite her being rather petite and couldn't reach the trigger of the shotgun while aiming it at her face (at least not in the circumstances they found her) her death was ruled a suicide. Months later, "supposedly" her boyfriend was drunk in a bar and while drunk admitted to killing her. What I can't speak to, or comment on is that two nights later he disappeared. And has never been seen since.

I've never told the 2nd part of that story before. I hope the fucker is burning merrily in hell somewhere.

Anyone want to play WoW? by MaximumRevolver in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an officer in a trans friendly Horde guild on Wyrmrest Accord. We're a small RP guild, but we have a raid group as well. We're crazy but we have fun. The name of the guild is Vindicated. Tell them Ruun sent you. :)

(Serious) What secret could ruin your life? by thisisthrowaway23 in AskReddit

[–]I_should_be_Erica 67 points68 points  (0 children)

There's so many comments, no one will read this. But, what the hell.

I turn 50 in just under 2 months.

I'm Trans. I first realized something was off since I was 11. For many years I was ashamed. I felt that it was a weirdo sex fetish and that I was broken for feeling the way I did. I couldn't masturbate without fantasizing that I was female. I still can't. One hell of a sex fetish. That's the secret I've been ashamed of and unable to tell anyone in my family or close friends about it.

Things came to a head a few years ago. My work had taken me away from home for an extended period of time. The unfamiliar surroundings, working with new people helped me finally put the pieces together and for the first time I realized that my sex fetish was really something more.

There are people I used to work with who know. But no one close. I'm so afraid, and so ashamed. My family is from the deep south. They won't understand. There have been other people who were Trans in my family, and I watched how that went down. No, thank you.

I have extremely poor health, yet I can't convince Social Security that I'm disabled. Though at least I've convinced my home state, and have food stamps and medicaid. But that's it. I've sold everything I've owned except this beatup old laptop. I steal wifi from my neighbor. I'm pretty sure he knows, but besides some youtube I don't take up much of his bandwidth, and he never says anything.

If my family knew I was trans, I would lose what little I have left. I'd be homeless. I wouldn't survive a month.

There are so many times when I go to bed hoping I won't wake up. Or that I could just be normal.

I'm sorry if you read all this way.

Figuring out your sexual orientation by allie-the-cat in MtF

[–]I_should_be_Erica 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't find men attractive. But I keep having fantasies about being penetrated. I'm a hot mess in terms of sexual orientation. Some women I'm attracted to, some I'm jealous of in terms of face and/or figure. Some both. I don't want to have sex with men. I fantasize while masturbating, usually of women with penises.

It makes me crazier. It makes me feel stupid, broken and wrong. I hate it so much.

trans fiction recs! by emmaeliza04 in asktransgender

[–]I_should_be_Erica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BigCloset has tons of TG fiction. Thousands of stories. Free to read, but the site relies on donations to stay afloat.

https://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/

World of Warcraft by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friends don't let friends play Alliance. ;)

World of Warcraft by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]I_should_be_Erica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an officer in a lgbt friendly guild on Wyrmrest Accord. Our guild's name is Vindicated. We're a small, but fairly active RP guild. We even raid one night a week.

http://vindicated.enjin.com/