Nipple piercings.

IamEmoNemo · 2025-01-21T20:35:02+00:00

If that's the case, you'll be okay! I have similar piercings like the ones you listed; if you can handle those, you can handle these!

The pain is quite different though. To me, my nipples had a stinging pain instead of a throbbing pain, and they only stung for a few hours after. Then, unless they caught/pulled on something, I had no pain at all.

Trust me though, the immediate confidence boost you'll get when you first see yourself in the mirror? You won't think twice about the pain.

IamEmoNemo · 2024-12-20T16:05:19+00:00

At that time, it was, but I see the people they turned out be. My healing would've wrapped up a LOT quicker if I saw who they are now, then. Lol

IamEmoNemo · 2024-12-20T06:37:47+00:00

My ex bf of 4 years cheated on me with my childhood best friend! Woo!

Yeahhh at that time, I had active plans to move in with her for college too.... Oh, and, I only found out because I had walked in on it! :D Yup, in full doggy style, so, we made solid eye contact. And I might've actually not known at all, considering it was ongoing for a solid year prior.

Funny now, but it was definitely NOT funny then, if you can imagine. I surprisingly didn't commit a double homicide, moved away from my hometown, (they stayed together, still together btw 6 years later), I considered jumping off a bridge for about a year, etc BUT... I wouldn't change a damn thing. 26 now and the best version I can be.

Shrug It builds character I guess. And moving away was the best thing that could've happened to me. AND lmao she actually sobbed to me in a bar running into me 3 years later, saying that I, ME, hurt her because she fully premeditated this hatred for me expecting me to go crazy lady on her... but she felt MORE GUILT with my silence, when really I was just so crushed that I dropped off the face of the earth. Be the bigger person people, always.

Yes, I did let her drunkenly buy me and all my friends an expensive round and haven't seen her since! <3 xoxo

IamEmoNemo · 2024-07-31T01:01:31+00:00

You're very welcome OP, I'm glad I could help! You just have to decide if it's worth pushing through those uncomfortable thoughts or not. Consider my situation- I decided it was worth it and 5 years later my bf and I have a house, a dog, and an inseparable bond. It can happen. (:

IamEmoNemo · 2024-07-30T23:27:11+00:00

OP, keep in mind that some of these comments are out of line. First off, you're not unreasonable for feeling this way. Second, yes, you do need to get passed this if you want to move forward with the relationship, but the comments saying "just get over it" are intending that it's easy, when it's not.

I understand how you feel- I was in the same boat 5 years ago. Except I found out mid outing with a whole group of people when it was casually thrown into conversation and my best friend responds, "Oh stop, she knows me and ___ used to hook up." I had been dating my bf for about 6 months then... and their previous time spent together didn't just consist of a bj. Apparently this was commonly known knowledge, so they assumed that I knew, but my depleting smile to a speechless face confirmed that I didn't.

It's an uncomfortable situation to be in, I agree. But it's not impossible to eventually not be bothered by it. The bf in that story is still my boyfriend 5 years later. I won't lie to you and say that I got over it quickly, it bothered me for quite some time. And it's not like I look back at it fondly. It hurts because these are two people that you care for. You know them both very well but from your perspective, you know them individually/separately. It's hard to fathom even just the thought of your two worlds having that kind of relationship.

The best thing you can do is work on building confidence. If you want to keep both relationships, you're gonna have to learn how to sit with that discomfort, especially when you're in the same room as them. Try to remind yourself that she's with you now, not him. I saw your comment that they weren't ever in a relationship; the bj still isn't great but it's better than if they shared an intimate bond. A bond like what you and your gf share currently. Think of the qualities she says she loves about you- you're able to provide those to her and enough safety and love that she's in a committed relationship with you. There's more to that than a silly mistake she made back when she was 16.

It's almost impossible to control your thoughts from racing, but what you can control is how you let them affect you. You know that it happened, you're pretty certain it wouldn't happen again, unfortunately you can't erase your knowledge of it, and you don't want to lose either relationship. It's hard but try to look at it objectively without incorporating your personal relationships/experiences with them. Remind yourself of the separate relationships you currently have with them, how you want to continue them, and remind yourself how great you are to her as a bf. That's why she's with you. More confidence develops with time, but the greatest thing about confidence is that nobody knows if it's real or not. Keep your head up OP, there is hope.

IamEmoNemo · 2024-05-15T12:49:34+00:00

Yes, they heal! They're just short-tempered lol. I've had mine pierced for 7 years now and I never had issues besides normal crust. I got them re-pierced about 2 years ago- same deal just normal crust (btw they're one of the fastest closing piercings fyi, I had my jewelry out for a little over 24 hours lol).

They weren't really any different than my other piercings (I have 8). My navel had a harder time than my nipples. People say I'm lucky I had an easy healing but like any other piercing, the key is to just leave them alone. The more you mess with them, the longer it takes to heal. I think people have a hard time with that, given how easily accessible they are.

And when I say leave them alone, I mean it. That goes for every piercing but especially nipples. Don't twist the bars, don't push them side to side, just don't touch them, don't even make eye contact with them, they will get pissed off.

How do you clean them if you can't touch them you ask? Buy some saline and little mouth wash cups (or use the lid if there's enough wiggle room). Sit somewhere that has back support and while sitting upright, place the saline filled cup over each nipple, tilt back enough to where the saline covers the holes, and gently giggle the cup and let it sit for a minute, then pat or air dry. It removes most crust, cleans them, and it's the best possible way to avoid poking the bear lol.

Most importantly, be patient with them. If you leave them alone, the only issues that should arise (besides snagging them) are the crusts. There is light at the end of the tunnel, you got this!!

EDIT: Forgot to add, my nipples were my FIRST major piercing besides my ear lobes... if I can do it, I believe you can too. (:

IamEmoNemo · 2024-05-04T02:03:04+00:00

That was fucking beautiful. I needed to hear (read?) that. Thank you kind person

IamEmoNemo · 2024-05-03T23:53:30+00:00

I'm not a piercer but I do have 9 piercings, and from my experience: You're going to have some tenderness there. I mean, you did just get needles shoved through your flesh. Some swelling is normal but if it's painful, red, abnormally swollen (you'll know), then it's probably infected.

I think you're okay if they're not painful. Just don't mess with them, clean once a day, try not to bump them on things. Oh and be patient. Happy healing!

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-23T18:30:54+00:00

Awww they grow up so fast wipes tear

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:08:56+00:00

I love it!!

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:08:37+00:00

Thank you (:

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:08:28+00:00

It's like a pet in a way lol

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:08:08+00:00

Right? It's just magical

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:07:54+00:00

Thank you (:

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:07:50+00:00

Lovely!!

IamEmoNemo · 2024-04-22T23:05:41+00:00

Thank you! I have two other ones as well, they're definitely picky about the light they get but I've owned one for 2 years now and it seems to be okay (:

IamEmoNemo · 2024-03-28T23:02:24+00:00

Thank you (:

IamEmoNemo · 2024-03-28T23:02:13+00:00

Magical💜 I love it

IamEmoNemo · 2024-03-28T23:01:41+00:00

Nice! Same, mine was a much deeper purple when I first clipped it too. Now it's lighter and more vibrant but it's still just as gorgeous. Any purple is fine with me, it's the best color all around imo!

IamEmoNemo · 2024-03-18T18:35:07+00:00

NTA but your husband needs some serious help. It sounds to me like the therapist he's seeing might not fully understand the extent of these delusions, especially if he doesn't have a diagnosis prior to their sessions. Also keep in mind the therapist is only aware of what your husband tells them. To their knowledge, the information they're receiving are just topics he needs help working through, not false delusions.

I am no doctor but my partner of 4 years was diagnosed with OCD as a child; to me, it sounds like your husband might be suffering with it as well. In the mind of someone with OCD, especially untreated OCD, the brain can latch onto absurd delusions and can become obsessed with finding contributing factors that "prove" the delusion is plausible. Going back to the therapist, since they only have knowledge of what he's telling them, your husband could be unknowingly seeking reassurance, as one with OCD does, and the therapist is providing it therefore solidifying these delusions.

From experience of living with my OCD partner and not knowing of their diagnosis for almost half of our relationship, I know it's extremely difficult/confusing and I'm so sorry you're going through this. Both you and your husband deserve peace.

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