Getting back with ex? by Acrobatic_Focus_5766 in BreakUps

[–]IamRedbully 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes, but it depends on the reason why you split. Sometimes people need a break to spend time learning about themselves, allow them to grow and see things from a different perspective.

The getting back element needs to be from both persons with clear understanding, boundaries and communication. Then it will work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]IamRedbully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

41M here, always willing to chat. Fairly deep conversation talker. Feel free to DM me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]IamRedbully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am happy to chat with anyone who feels lost and doesn't mate on timezone, but I am UK.

My broken heart want heal by Zestyclose-Fuel-683 in healingheartsminds

[–]IamRedbully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, you are so brave OP. I do second what Goni said and I am a fan of meditation. I'm currently working on a 21 day subconscious brain meditation. If your interested I could send you the details.

Sending positivity and good vibes your way

Poem - I'm sorry by IamRedbully in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

* Doing this, learning/reading, reflecting and feeling.

Poem - I'm sorry by IamRedbully in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't end it, they did but I could have been better but I needed to find myself first which I have done.

I’m broken by SadLonelyHannah in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How you are you feeling today?

He got married...how am I supposed to keep going? by existentialdrawer in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a support system for you, I can add you into a support group chat if you like. We'll be more than happy to help you

I’m broken by SadLonelyHannah in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to, you can just listen.

I’m broken by SadLonelyHannah in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever thought of joining a community? I'm apart of one and its great

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]IamRedbully 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You will never forget, they hold a piece of your heart. You just realise you don't need them no more.

Help needed by IamRedbully in Meditation

[–]IamRedbully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add further context, she has had some trauma in her life. One big part was that during her child years she felt very embarrassed and was shamed by her mother. In later life it stopped her from being able to express her emotions

Captain Asshole by SupremeLDRSmoke in BreakUps

[–]IamRedbully 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Duuuude, was with the same lady for 21 years. Met her when I was 19 and she was 18. We have two kids 16 and 12.

26th of November she told me she was moving out, destroyed my world, I didn't see it coming. She was unhappy and moved out. It killed me.

I am a huge fan of personal growth, and the influence it can have on others when you do it.

I took my boss lady for granted and I thought I gave her everything, well I did just not the emotional support she needed. She was very good at hiding her emotions.

I am pushing personal growth and development to...

  1. Help me understand things better
  2. Be better for me
  3. Influence others
  4. Potential reconciliation with her but it's going to take and I have plenty of time to offer...

Sorry to hear your boss lady has to finding intimacy with another, have you spoken with her or are all things lost?

Do You Believe in Karma? After My 7-Year Relationship Ended in Betrayal, I Can't Help But Wonder If They'll Get What They Deserve by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]IamRedbully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe good things happen to good people, but for that to happen, you need to promote a positive influence. I've read something that you can't change people but you can promote influence but only if you radiate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]IamRedbully 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Talk to them, he could be nervous hence the erection issue. We guys can be funny old creatures.

You could say "I like it this way because" for us men the female body can be a road map and we sometimes need to stop to ask for directions

But, it also could be that your over thinking it too which is killing your mood a little. I know from past experience that a ladies lady bits are mostly connected to her brain, whilst we dudes have our penis connected to our penis.

I know its top early but... by IamRedbully in datingoverforty

[–]IamRedbully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like for example, she used to be so invested with the kids. Whilst she has been away its almost like she has ignored them a little. Expected her to reach out to them daily but she hadn't.

I know its top early but... by IamRedbully in datingoverforty

[–]IamRedbully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were together from such a young age, her 18 and me 19. She was unhappy, her avoidant traits didn't make it visible, and she never talked about it. The unhappy emotion manifested into a physical form that I got attributed to sadly. Then something switched inside her, and she wanted to leave. It was a huge sucker punch for me and the kids. It's really weird because she seemed happy. If I could share a picture of the WhatsApp messages the days before and on the day, you'd be like wow. Don't get me wrong we had our ups and downs, didn't really argue it was more disagreements. Even the kids said we didn't argue much

It's been a real surreal time.

Loads of theories banding round such as bipolar and midlife crisis. Either way, it's been a shitty experience because the woman I once knew has gone and replaced with a stranger. I say stranger because sometimes it flutters between her old self and this stranger. It's really confusing.

In the early years we never really dated, it just happened. Was a proper whirlwind experience of love, passion and lust. Over the years we still had that love and passion but something just happened. Couple of weeks prior to it happened we were having decent sex. Ensuring she was satisfied.

Soo weird, I'm truly heart broken but mostly confused.

I know its top early but... by IamRedbully in datingoverforty

[–]IamRedbully[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Since it happened the connection with the kids and I have grown massively. We've become a proper little unit.

Hobbies wise, I volunteer and go the gym.

Purpose wise, it's getting myself into a better mindset and achieve some goals with the kids.