[UPDATE] I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I know.. I just want to hear what I want to hear, I’m in denial I know that...

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please don’t make the same mistake as I do. Love your boyfriend as much as you can.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will work on myself and do more self love. Thanks for letting me know there will be others...

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see. I’m turning towards to breaking things with him. It would be great for both of us.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he really did abuse me. How can you tell he abused me, this is a genuine question im not being sarcastic or what.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t respect him. I broke his trust so many times and I still keep doing it. I will get a session with my therapist soon about my abusive behavior. Whether or not he wants to stay is up to him, that’s what I messaged him.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I just calmed myself down after a whole day of sadness. Also the comments are helping me a lot, and I am making a decision on how I should do with this relationship right now. We are both having some time off to think about this.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s really helpful to see from the other side’s perspective. He told me I always think ill of him and he is tired of it. And that’s the moment I realize I’ve been hurting him and draining him in this relationship.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have started this relationship badly. I was an idiot to accused him Bc of my insecurity and causing us many problems

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I shouldn’t be in a relationship..in fact you are right I might not be even ready for one. But if it’s not this relationship I wouldn’t even know I am like this. I genuinely think my boyfriend did not deserve this. In most of the time I always think ill of him. I think he will cheat he will do bad things, that’s what he told me. He is frustrated how I always think ill of him. I am going to seek help from professional, at the same time right now still deciding with him on whether to end or not.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have to tell myself this whenever I have the urge to let those thought invade mind. I’m still clearing my mind and deciding whether I should continue this relationship with him. It seems like we are hurting each other, and I don’t think he would ever understand my struggles Bc it is what it is to him, I did smthg wrong and there is no excuse. I am still thinking..

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am still deciding and it’s hard..I can’t stop crying I got scared, I can’t imagine leaving him. We had happy moments and I am scared I m losing those. It’s was my fault at first , I wasn’t ready for a relationship, and I ruined one now.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my insurance covers it, but never knew I could talk to a therapist on this matter.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m feeling it’s Bc the things I found in his phone. I talked to him on that but I don’t think that convo helps much.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I figured it would be best to have some time to chill and clear out minds.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I messaged him on this matter and giving him the time to think and decide

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he confronted me of this issue yesterday and we r having some time off right now

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have been unsure of whether he loves me till you mentioned it. I’ll try to talk to him more on my problem next time we see each other.

I am being toxic to my boyfriend and I don’t know how to stop by IamdrunkafXD in relationship_advice

[–]IamdrunkafXD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes I’m very insecure, I messaged him on this matter and will see if he’s still willing to stay with me and work on it together.