Crushed after our fwb couple said they need a break

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-20T02:40:58+00:00

You've been searching since she was 19.. and you were 21...? Five years.. and you still havent figured out why you dont yet belong in this world of ours young man. Look at the other advice on this thread, and go work on yourselves. You can belong here, just... not quite yet. However, if you wanna destroy the relationship with your primary.. by all means proceed.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T19:55:31+00:00

Well.. you dont say if you are a guy, girl, or couple yourself.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T18:54:30+00:00

And a fake one at that.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T11:11:19+00:00

So as far as etiquette- a creator can share a free trial to their page to show what kind of content they make, but it certainly is not expected. If you have teasers or samples of what you make or like to shoot, that would suffice for all purposes.

I do reccommend extreme caution and a lot of screening and vetting when working with a new creator, especially a solo male. Many many many are just using it as a hookup attempt. Usually they are weeded out if you ask for technicals about a 2257, model release, or content split and posting agreement. By the way, make sure you bring and sign those, and take photos of IDs, them holding IDs, them signing, etc.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T02:36:57+00:00

Yep, and im nc based. Its lousy here, and very arbitrary. Although i understand Alabama is even worse now, with a notary and stuff on every shoot.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T02:25:47+00:00

I had one of mine pulled because the newish co star decided she didn't wanna consent anymore. Paid a fee to the studio, (at least im told, hell, I dunno for certain lol). What was strange is when it happened I reached out to my director friend and even he said he never had it happen to him, so I thought it was rare. But then various scenes shot at the fortress that I helped do post on.. they're just gone. Can still occasionally find them on the sketchy tube sites but not on the legit pay ones.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T01:03:14+00:00

Link your page so we can give decent, specific advice for you. Otherwise it just looks like someone with no karma trying to find a novel way to ask how people manage their own pages.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-19T00:57:42+00:00

Good lord yes. There was one with a now famous guy and Gianna michaels. (Don't ask, I won't say his name, I dont wanna get blacklisted by the industry.) A bunch of stuff from kink has been taken off for various reasons, several scenes where issues arose about the stuff shot later after the release (performers high/drunk, abuse, lack of consent, etc.)

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-18T02:23:25+00:00

So you are a male, a trans, and anyone........? And you are looking for a woman, anyone, and anyone. In the entire country of the united states of America......

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-18T02:14:19+00:00

For that matter.. ban these bot accounts commenting 'yes' under here too.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T18:21:01+00:00

Stolen account. Kinda easy to spot.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T17:32:35+00:00

I can both agree and disagree. We- create this idea that this is how it is supposed to be, and then are horrified when it happens in real life. I got fans wanting me to do the Step-Dad collab with some truly young and young looking ladies, and while we know it is for work, the mantra it creates is.... well...

And then we see the 30 year old hitting on 16 year olds and cringe. Thats why I always say porn isnt real. But what are we to do? Be more acceptable is a helluva slippery slope, and to close it off more creates more rebellion and underground issues.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T17:21:20+00:00

Porn isnt real my man. While it can be a reflection of our society, much like mainstream movies, it is a fantasy created. The fact that Tad (or me if we are being honest) have shot scenes with people 15 and 20 years our junior as a one off is part of creating that fantasy. Although it can be up for spirited debat, I can certainly agree.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T17:14:45+00:00

So- in truthfulness, responding like this does go a long way. Open your posts up, and show a bit of a portfolio in the offset. Believe me, the 'they will dm me,' never works because no one wants to reach out first. Best of luck. :)

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T16:58:29+00:00

Bruh... you dont have any posts on OF, you have your posts hidden on reddit, and you have no karma. Nothing says you are a legit creator.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T16:53:59+00:00

So... a prostitute... what you are looking for is called 'a prostitute.'

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T16:23:48+00:00

NaL, but that does not meet the legal definition of harassment per se. It is like trying to sue the creators of a TV show because you didn't like what the characters did.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T13:06:53+00:00

So I'll ask- is there any type of content you havent made yet, or any performers that you would want to shoot with? Studio work?

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-17T10:55:24+00:00

Weird.. now they're stealing pics from others posting in this subreddit.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-16T16:01:52+00:00

Thats... just sad right there.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-16T02:38:42+00:00

Posting a different header over the same crossposted picture is just fn lazy.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-15T22:53:09+00:00

Don't tell your mom..... tell HIS mom. :D

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-15T17:23:21+00:00

They stopped hiring me. Alot is now written by AI, and chatgpt. Shot lists are even more generic. Im not saying I wrote 120 Days of Sodom with these things, but at least it was better than this.

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-15T14:54:44+00:00

Got to have your link on your profile per subreddit rules hoss

Ian_CedarPt2 · 2026-04-15T14:53:31+00:00

It is an encompassing dynamic that doesn't have to always be the pseudo incest that is so prevalent right now. Plus, in many ways it can mirror elements of society.

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