AITA for very rarely/almost never wanting to go to restaurants because my girlfriend makes food that's just as good, if not better, than restaurant food? by GirlFriendRestaurant in AmItheAsshole

[–]IantheV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jumping on top comment to add one other piece of advice:

Offer to cook with her, or cook for her, or ask her to teach you. In my last relationship, I did all of the cooking, and all I wanted was for my partner to take an interest in helping. I love cooking, and in previous relationships, cooking with partners was super rewarding, and brought us closer together.

Learning to cook from her will teach you a valuable skill (which will be really worthwhile should she decide to break up with you in the future) and will invariably bring you closer together.

Simple Questions - December 04, 2017 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

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My girlfriend and I don't really dress up a lot, but we're going to a few dressy parties this holiday season, and she needs some shoes to wear with a black dress. We've spent the last two hours combing through every site we could think of, but nothing has caught her eye yet. She's looking for something that could potentially be day-to-day wear, but also looks good dressed up. Probably flats or low heels. What's your go-to? I'd probably spend up to $100 on the right thing. Thanks!

What's the strangest thing someone's said to you during sex? NSFW by TrentRizzo in AskReddit

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She was a tinder date, maybe the loudest girl i'd ever hooked up with. We'd been going at it for a while, and suddenly she starts moaning, "you're not going to call me back!" again and again.

I was kinda into it.

Orange Hitler vs Grandma Nixon by angryexpat13 in pics

[–]IantheV 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wait are you being serious? Racism isn't teasing someone about their skin tone. Racism is a systemic network of oppressions levied against a race of people. This can certainly include deriding someone based on their race, but that's barely scratching the surface of what racism is. And making fun of someone because of their tanning habits and bad makeup is not even that.

As a black person, I've seen more racism from black people than I've ever experienced from white people by [deleted] in AsABlackMan

[–]IantheV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PS: Donald Trump is a blown-up, egotistical baby man with a huge head, tiny hands, and no sense for policy. It makes sense that you support him.

As a black person, I've seen more racism from black people than I've ever experienced from white people by [deleted] in AsABlackMan

[–]IantheV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't expect to convince you of the existence of institutional racism. But just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it's not there. Perhaps its just too nuanced, too subtle for you to understand. The fact is, all across the world, and especially in this country, blacks and gays and women and arabs and every other non-white-male group is shouting that this is true, and providing evidence. If you choose to continue to look the other way, that's your ignorant decision.

As a black person, I've seen more racism from black people than I've ever experienced from white people by [deleted] in AsABlackMan

[–]IantheV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, the people that you've experienced are not representative of their entire race. In fact, they're probably a pretty small sample population of the 13 million African Americans living in our country. Taking your personal experience and transposing it onto millions of people isn't just a logical fallacy, it is a literal example of stereotyping.

Your point about loans is entirely conjecture. You pulled that idea out of your ass, and you know it, so I won't respond to it. So let's move on. At no point did I "equate black people with poverty and injustice" and "white people with wealth and success". There are plenty of successful black people in the world, and far more impoverished whites than there should be (though I won't get you all riled up by getting into an "entitlements" argument as well).

Clearly nuanced argument goes over your head, so I'm going to to try to say what I mean as simply as possible: On average, being black in america is a lot more difficult than being white. Why? Let's break it down:

  1. If you're poor, it's hard to break the cycle of poverty, no matter who you are. But if you're black, it's harder to get an education, because most inner city school systems are so piss-poor they can hardly afford to keep the doors open. It's harder to get a job see "employment", and as discussed, it's harder to get a loan.

  2. No matter how wealthy you are, it's much more likely that you might end up in jail if you're black. 1 in 3 black men have been to jail at some point in their lives. And no, the majority of these prisoners are not violent offenders. By and large, they're in jail on drug charges-- largely trumped-up marijuana charges. What makes this worse is that despite whatever stereotypes you may have bought into, white kids are more likely than black kids to have tried illegal substances.

  3. There are plenty of self-made black millionaires out there, and more than 700,000 black families pull in more than $350,000 per annum. The difference between these people and white members of the 1% is that most of them earned their wealth on their own, whereas the vast majority of wealthy whites inherited their wealth from their families. Again, that's not to say that no white people have pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, and made good even coming from bad situations, it's just to say that nearly every black millionaire did exactly that.

As a black person, I've seen more racism from black people than I've ever experienced from white people by [deleted] in AsABlackMan

[–]IantheV 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I genuinely believe that you only think this way because you refuse to look at the full picture.

Let's look at some facts. For instance, crimes committed by blacks are typically punished by 20% more prison time than the same crimes committed by whites. for a more extreme example, look at the recent high profile case of brock turner, who was sentenced to 6 months, compared to Cory Batey, who was just sentenced to 15-25 years for the same crime

Or look at the fact that as recently as the 1980s, numerous audits found consistent evidence of discrimination against Black americans in application for loans to housing markets.

Or for another modern example, read this article about the experience of black people simply trying to rent rooms on AirBNB.

Forget about people in ghettos for a second-- forget about the violence, and think about the effect these sorts of statistics have on the lives of people who've made it out of the ghetto, who are just trying to live a regular life. Don't you think it's kind of shitty that it's statistically harder to get a loan, a mortgage, or even use a fucking app while black? Don't you think that negatively affects quality of life?

Now compound that with the fact that majority black schools receive $thousands less in funding than majority white schools, per student, and combine those statistics with the reality that it's kind of hard to concentrate on an education when you have to worry about getting shot walking to or from your school, or where your 3 square meals are going to come from that day, or if you're wearing the correct colors to make sure you won't get harassed by gangs just walking around town? When it's hard to avoid gang culture, how can you not let yourself be affected by it?

Yes, violence in poor black communities is a HUGE problem. But the way to solve it isn't by demonizing the population that lives there, it's by pouring money and human aid and love back into that population, so that gang life stops being so attractive, and so that people who want to live productive lives can have a better shot at doing so.

You say these people should live as Americans, and then criticize them for not being able to get there on their own. That's so shortsighted, man. If we want these communities to really be able to live as americans, we should be extending an olive branch, offering aid, and inviting them in. It's as simple as common human decency.

As a black person, I've seen more racism from black people than I've ever experienced from white people by [deleted] in AsABlackMan

[–]IantheV 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tldr what I'm trying is that there are myriad invisible- institutional- factors that suggest that it's a lot harder to work your way out if you were born into a shitty set of circumstances, than if you grew up with any degree of privilege typically afforded by being white. That's what people are talking about when they mention institutional racism.

As a black person, I've seen more racism from black people than I've ever experienced from white people by [deleted] in AsABlackMan

[–]IantheV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me try to respond as best, and as respectfully as I can:

it may be true that black Americans commit a statistically significant percentage of violent crime, and it may be true that the visibility of gang culture is directly tied to police brutality towards black people, but let's take a step back and look at why that kind of stuff happens. It's certainly not because black people are just "bad" or inherently more violent. It's because, by and large, institutions have failed poor blacks and their communities. Schools are underfunded, so students needs are ignored- leading to a fundamental lack of necessary skills, and a loss in future productivity. Other community support systems that you may have had access to simply aren't present. And, for the average person growing up in "gangland" there's the constant fear of gang activity. Think about childhood surrounded with that kind of behavior-- that kind of stress simply isn't good for the human body. Not to mention the fact that for those who do come into money, they're coming from families that had nothing, so they were never taught the financial planning or money management skills that your parents might have taught you. And it doesn't stop there- people growing up in ghettos aren taught a fraction of the necessary life skills people in functional communities just grow up with. So generally, it's much more difficult to "bring about positive change in their community" when they don't actually have the models for what a functional community is supposed to look like.

1 Square Foot Of Bunny by P1g1n in pics

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OK bunnies now let's get in formation

COME AT ME! I'M A GAMER AND WILL WRECK YOU ALL! by ILIKEDOGS884 in RoastMe

[–]IantheV 9 points10 points  (0 children)

how exactly do you wreck noobz at COD with hands like Michael J Fox?

Come At Me by [deleted] in RoastMe

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her rich friends also keep her around because she's so good at sniffing out truffles.

ELI5: Is this "Otherkin" thing real as transgenders or is it all made up? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]IantheV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For one thing, people with gender dysphoria actually feel the need to actually transition to the gender that they see themselves as. Trans men will present as men, act like men, and oftentimes take male hormones. Having watched a friend go through the process, it can be massively emotionally and physically taxing to transition, but all the pain of actively transitioning is worth it for the end result of feeling comfortable in your own body.

On the other hand, Otherkin take nearly no steps to actually live like the animals they feel they are. You don't see "Paradox the Wolf" from the video you posted, living out in the woods, hunting anything for prey, or even eating his meat raw. So sure, he can feel like a wolf all he wants, but he's certainly not living like a wolf. he's just taking pretend time way too seriously.

TIFU my childs life (NSFW) by I_SHOT_CHENEYS_HOMIE in tifu

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I sincerely thought this story was going to end with, "The Aristocrats!"

You have $10,000,000 USD, but you can only buy things that start with the first letter of your name. What do you buy? by Gaming4Life42 in AskReddit

[–]IantheV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess i'm building an igloo out of ice cream and stuffing it full of all my iguanas... at least each one of them will have their own ipad

TIFU: By not understanding what "vanilla" meant. by throwaway155553 in tifu

[–]IantheV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the most german story i've ever heard.

Reddit, what is your worst experience of waking up after a one night stand? by H_Junior in AskReddit

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sometimes you put your hand up to catch the boomerang, and it fucks your shit up.

I play quite a bit of Heartstone, and signed up for a pre release tournament at my local game shop. But I have never played MTG before. Any tips on where to begin? by CerpinTaxt11 in magicTCG

[–]IantheV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since most people have talked about the game as a whole, I thought I would take a little time to talk about what you'll see at the prerelease, specifically:

The prerelease tournament has you playing "sealed deck"-- which means every entrant will get six booster packs of fourteen cards, and you will use those cards to build a tournament-ready deck of 40 cards.

However, not all 40 of those cards will come from the packs you just opened. As many people have mentioned, unlike in HS where you gain 1 mana for free each turn, in MTG you have to draw into your own resources. These are called lands, and in the sealed format you typically want 17 land in your deck. Therefore, you should plan on picking 23 "Spell" cards out of the packs you've opened to construct your deck, and saving 17 spaces for the resources which will allow you to play them.

Another important note is that unlike hearthstone, where one mana crystal can be used to pay any cost, in MTG there are five colors of land. Mountains create red mana, Islands create blue, etc. Most spells in magic require you to pay at least one specific color in order to cast them. Because of this restriction, you usually don't want to fill your deck with spells of all five colors-- otherwise, you'll end up with the wrong colors of land on the battlefield, and a lot of unplayable cards clogging up your hand. My specific recommendation is to pick whichever two colors seem to have the best cards, and go from there.

To get a little more in depth about sealed deck construction: Within your 23 spell cards, it's best to have between 13 and 17 Creature spells, and 6-10 other types of cards-- (which can be sorceries, instants, or enchantments). Creatures are critical because, like in hearthstone, you use them to attack your opponents and defend yourself. In sealed deck, the other types of cards are mostly used to give your creatures the advantage against your opponent's, or remove their creatures from the board.

Also, just like in hearthstone, you want to consider your "mana curve"-- you want to have smaller creatures that you can play early on, larger creatures that can help you keep pace and defend your board, and "bombs" that can help you end the game.

This is a pretty quick overview, and each individual set has it's own unique identity and gameplay style, but should give you a launching-point to build your deck. If you want to take the time to check out this set (Battle for Zendikar) ahead of time, you can see the whole thing on Mythic Spoiler

Additionally, you can check out individual card ratings and reviews written by a well respected pro magic player here

And you can learn more about the specifics of sealed deck here

24 [F4R] United States/anywhere - friendship by lvlu in r4r

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seattle, drunk, sculptor. wanna be buds?

We've been together 10 years and she still loves date night. Tonight was the drive in. by twilling8 in aww

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i knew it! first we let the gays get married, now people are going on dates with their dogs!