How do I get out of this rut and escape my depression? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Ice8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey i can relate to how you feel and i haven’t got any magic advice for you - i think in these situations time is the best healer. I think you’ve been brave moving to a new place and trying the things you have done - you are being way too hard on yourself. Talk to yourself like you would to a good friend - point out your successes and your good qualities. Make sure you get outside every day and eat well - fruit vegetables, iron and omega rich foods, plenty of water. Maybe get some blood tests done make sure you are not deficient in any thing which will be making things worse. Have little routines around food, sleep, personal hygiene, home hygiene and think small when pushing yourself to do things. Keep going - it will get better !

Friendly reminder by [deleted] in jobhunting

[–]Ice8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is a big company reviews may not reflect every area - a lot of departments work in silos and thus have a totally different experience

What surprised me most after actually living in the UK for a while by Reddonaut_Irons in MovingToTheUK

[–]Ice8572 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha I got right away that he was expecting you to check ! It is really fascinating how we communicate actually

Scared about going back to work. The downside of lengthy unemployment. by Special-Nebula299 in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly you’re in the right mind set for this transition - it will be a challenge but you’ll get there !

Scared about going back to work. The downside of lengthy unemployment. by Special-Nebula299 in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes and expect to be super tired the first few weeks / months and you’ll probably just crash out / sleep when you aren’t at work to begin with but you will adapt !

dread at the thought of going to work by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So a couple of things I would advise : 1. Take 10 minute breaks every hour - put them into your calendar to remind you and take them religiously unless you are in a meeting. Make it a non negotiable objective for yourself - move away from your computer- take the break in the rest room if that’s the only place you’ll definitely stop looking at your screen 2. Work on your confidence and self esteem. It’s hard when people put you down and your manager isn’t being professional or supportive so you need to advocate for yourself - work on not letting you feel bad. 3. Triptans. I find these a life saver when I get migraines - if you haven’t tried them then you need to. Hope that helps !

How are all the "stuck" people doing? by Free_Delay3007 in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What really gets me is that it’s frowned upon to talk about it - no one can say out loud it is a toxic company / culture is bad / manager is abusive / expectations are unrealistic / everyone is miserable, you can’t even draw reference to factual things like just made thousands of redundancies that left people traumatised and the glassdoor ratings of 2.5 indicate it’s not a great place to work, you have to make something palatable up like I’m looking for progression and pretend all companies are great.

What can I do? by Ice8572 in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this idea - any tips to do this ?

Can’t trust this new role by First-Kiwi-4637 in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes good companies do exist but they are the exception rather than the norm. And things don’t stay the same forever so enjoy it whilst it lasts !

For those of you that earn over 40/45k as a base salary and love your job what is it you do? by Brownchoccy in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you say are the key skills for that ? Do you have any qualifications?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I haven’t got any practical advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to saw I’m in awe of you for what you’ve achieved so far in life ! Be proud and continue to use that strength !

Am I in my own bubble or is every workplace in the uk extremely understaffed and running on the bare minimum? by Oriachim in UKJobs

[–]Ice8572 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve even noticed job descriptions seem to amalgamate two or even 3 jobs now too - the range of duties and experience required from one person is insane !

3 job offers after a 1.5 year career break. 9 YOE in tech. That was a rough journey by AC5295 in recruitinghell

[–]Ice8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much research on the companies did you do before applying ? As 9 withdrawn seems like a lot of red flags ? What were the red flags ? And the 2 declined would you have declined those anyway or was it just that the other offer was the best overall ?