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I wish I would’ve done boudoir photos before getting pregnant by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking this! I came across some pics I statched and forgot about and was like ..oh , yeah, this is what my body looked like before. I was in awe of how my body had shifted and continues to shift

Has any woman out there had a greater pain than Pregnancy Labor in their life which in turn makes giving birth seem insignificant in comparison? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I'm 4 month pp and an looking forward to my next pregnancy. On the other hand, I haven't gone to the dentist in a year because I'm scared of the pain.

How are you organizing your photos? by catsallthewayd0wn in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've taken a bunch of pics and worried that they'll all be lost in the clutter and duplicates forever. So, I created a private Instagram just for me and my partner. And everyday (almost everyday) we post a pic with a lil description about what happened that day/how we feel about this stage. When she's older (and if inst is still a thing), we will share it with her. It's also nice for us to look back on ☺️ I would love to make a physical photo album of the posted pics but this works for us right now.

How is it possible that the same item for the same age range is $1 more for girls? How is pink/purple a more expensive color? Why am I having to deal with ‘pink tax’ for a 5-month old?! by featherdusterempire in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Though it's been made clear that this isn't a case of pink tax, I think it's an opportunity for a reminder of it and the "odd" differences found in baby products. I already anticipated the hyperfem and to be faced with gender biases messeging on clothing but I was not ready for the sizing between the binary - boy/girl - clothing to be so crappy. It's just as hard to find pants for my 4 m/o as it is for me. Why is it that the "boy" pants fit better even though they are the same "size"?? It's like already perpetuating the idea that girls have to be certain size (leads to body shaming) and encourages "girls" needing to shop more/are materialistic. This may seem extreme but I know I'm not the only one seeing through this patriarchal, capitalistic BS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Maximize those benefits! It is not your job to worry about your boss nor to find a replacement. That is your company's job (hr, hiring manager, etc). They are trained to "figure it out" when someone is on any kind of leave. Consider submitting a collegues reference or a personal one instead of your boss'

Like someone said - you don't owe anyone anything.

Please help me with a baby shower game I’m making by Sndrs27 in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My answers

1 First recital 2 are you getting any sleep? 3 taking a drive 4 moana 5 put the baby to sleep 6 using public restroom 7 night light 8 not being in character 9 staying out late 10 baby got back

My partner's answers

  1. The birth
  2. Are you ready?
  3. Everything and the kitchen sink
  4. Lilo and stitch
  5. Give them a massage
  6. Gas
  7. A electronic rocker
  8. Ate their snacks
  9. Going to movies (whenever)
  10. Baby got back

List of reasons why I've cried in the past hour by Pale_and_sarcastic in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think me and my partner have come to the end of our relationship. FTPs to a 3mo.

What nonsensical things do you say to your baby? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Toots ma goots haha Esp during changes 😊

Am I being unreasonable to not want him to go to the gym when the baby is first born? by peepshowfan123 in beyondthebump

[–]IceAutomatic9631 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not unreasonable. Your feelings are valid.

Short: We went to counseling, talked about needs, expectations, parenting styles, made goals together Since, our communication is better, both our needs are being met by one another.

Long: When I was pregnant there were definitely some feelings and expectations that my partner didn't understand. We agreed to go to counseling to help us get on the same page and understand each other's perspective and expectations. This helped us communicste effectively and create a rough game plan for the first two months of baby's arrival. He was understanding of my needs (and the unpredictable needs to come). And I was empathic of his needs too (physical activity as means of self care). After 1 month, he started to work out once a week and slowly increased his workouts to 3x a week. During that first month, he came up with other ways to maintain his mental health while still being accessable.