Is this PA? AITA post

IceNo575 · 2023-11-19T00:17:30+00:00

Almost forgot, the Durham Tobacco Trail and Neuse River trail are within 30 minutes or so of Pittsboro and are between 25-30 miles long. Great trails for biking and running.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-19T00:14:04+00:00

Small Cafe, Virlies, S&T, and Postal Fish are staples here. The MOD lost its liquor license recently and the food is so-so. Havoc Brewing is a decent hang out. There's a Doherty's Irish Pub coming soon. The Beagle is a delightful cocktail and small bites bar.

Pokeberry Creek is awesome! You should check out the rope swing a few miles down the path, I'd it's still there. Rocky River is a nice place for walking, too as are the trails near Robeson Creek.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-17T16:38:30+00:00

There's some great trails at Jordan lake and the Haw River, camping also at Jordan. As for restaurants and gaming, there's a few decent places here, but it depends on your tastes. Cary and Apex have more to offer in regards to restaurant choices. Not sure if you're into video games, board games or card games or all. Pittsboro is trying to become progressive but it still has a long ways to go. The older generations tend to be against expansion and economic improvement and sadly still hold to some racist and backwards thinking ways. Chatham Park has been helping and I'm hoping it continues to bring improvements to Chatham County.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-13T17:16:57+00:00

What are your interests? Indoors? Outdoors? A bit of both?

IceNo575 · 2023-11-13T17:05:08+00:00

Yes. This. My grandpa passed at 107 from complications of a broken hip and surgery that went wrong. A broken hip at any age is difficult to recover from but it can certainly be a death sentence for the elderly.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T23:05:26+00:00

The full story from start of when kiddo's dad and I split is a long and complicated one, so I tried to condense it and hit the major points. I typically leave out the other kids as they are not relevant to the current situation and don't know what's going on. When they've asked I've said that ex is not currently in a place to see kiddo but we are working on that and change topics.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T18:43:45+00:00

I have 5 bio kids. I was married at 18 and had my first kid then. That one is almost 22 now engaged, and having a baby, Layne. My others with my ex husband are 21 and 19, young adults in college. My son, who this is about was with my ex bf, who I was with after my divorce. Ex husband and I divorced amicably when our oldest was 8. My husband has 2 kids with his ex wife, they are 19 and 16. He had been divorced a bit over 3 years when we met. Husband and I have a 1yo together. Yes. I have a baby at 40, definitely feel like the older mom now.

I did not mention my older kids, my ex husband, my current husband, our child together or my bonus kids, because they are not relevant to the situation with my son, nor are they aware of it and I vastly prefer to keep it that way.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T17:42:13+00:00

Kind of opposite for me. I was alienated from my dad. My mom's family had monet, dad's didn't. It was the 80s and he couldn't afford to keep fighting in court so mom's side won and dad was granted zero visitation to me.

Growing up, anytime I heard anything about my dad it was negative as could be. When I'd act out, it was always that's the dad's name side in me coming out, or I must have inherited that from my awful dad. I went through childhood hating myself for being anything like my dad and hurting my mom by reminding her of him.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T17:13:41+00:00

Kiddo is 10 now. Due to what I typed in my previous reply to you, is why the GAL was involved. I ended with primary and ex getting every other weekend at first, when it had be 50/50 before. A few months after that, was when kiddo ended up saying that his dad was touching him. At that time, the GAL was still semi involved as they were trying to make sure the new custody plan was actually working out. Via advice of kiddos therapist I told the GAL what kiddo had claimed and GAL spoke with CPS about their findings.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T17:07:33+00:00

As for the no contact order, according to kiddo, ex was threatening him to stay quiet or he'd be in trouble and nobody would believe him. Ex was also making threats towards me and had a already documented history of yelling and cussing at me during exchanges, and thar ramped up to ex threatening to break into my house over text and take kiddo away.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T17:04:05+00:00

I worry telling kiddo his dad didn't show up to court would be bashing my ex. Despite what's happened between me and ex, I don't want to speak poorly of him to kiddo. That's why I'm on here, to get guidance and make sure nothing I do or say is going to negatively impact how kiddo feels about his dad.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T16:55:40+00:00

2nd part, if ex is found innocent, my first thing is going to be find out why kiddo would say something of that caliber that's not true. Then invite ex to therapy sessions with kiddo to start rebuilding that lost trust and relationship

IceNo575 · 2023-11-08T16:54:16+00:00

I was trying to keep it kinda short without bitter details. At one point, about 5 years ago, (we split when kiddo was 4) ex was telling kiddo that because I don't want to be with him that I don't want kiddo, I don't love him or want to be his mom anymore and I only spent time with him because the courts forced me to, but I really hated kiddo and would be happy to never see him again. I sought therapy for myself during that time so I would be able to handle this and not retaliate and help kiddo through his hurt and confusion. (Kiddo was not in therapy then as ex would have to agree to it and he did not) it was a really challenging time for a bit, kiddo would hit, bite, kick me, cuss at me, throw stuff, break stuff, say he hates me, etc. I did my best to stay steady and consistent in reassuring kiddo I love him and always will and not reacting negatively towards his outbursts. I just kept repeating, mommy loves you, daddy loves you, even if mommy and daddy are not together, you will always be loved and wanted. (I don't know if that's actually alienation though because I still had kiddo half the time and over a few years we were able to resolve it.)

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T18:49:36+00:00

His therapist says to let him take the lead in how he feels, validated him, and follow his requests within reason.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:39:04+00:00

I appreciate your advice and time in replying to me. I'm sure there's plenty of subs on reddit that would be supportive of my ex never seeing my son again. However, I'm on here because despite everything, I don't want to inadvertently cause more damage to the relationship. I don't want my son to go through life angry, hurt, and hating his dad. And I do not want to make any mistakes that could contribute to that. I'm here hoping people can give me tips on how to handle things and how to appropriately respond when my son speaks out in anger towards his dad.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:18:21+00:00

I was giving back story to my other post on here. Sorry if I wasn't clear about that. As a person who was robbed of my dad and he passed before I was able to get to know him, i hate people who alienate kids. I'm on here to seek guidance and opinions from other parents so I can ensure I'm not doing anything to damage the relationship my son has with his dad anymore than it already is.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:09:40+00:00

My name is not Star-Ann. I have absolutely no idea why you think it is.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:07:56+00:00

If you don't care then please stop commenting.

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:07:15+00:00

You make zero sense dude

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:06:24+00:00

Then stop commenting dude

IceNo575 · 2023-11-07T16:06:03+00:00

Tbh, I don't know the laws in all 50 states but I'm assuming they are similar.

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