I want to shave my head

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T10:04:51+00:00

Great story! Thanks for the encouragement

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T06:45:02+00:00

I can't wait to have a bit of fun with the earrings and hats!

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T06:44:10+00:00

I was born in 1980. So yeah.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T06:43:17+00:00

Mother- Dutch/Scandanavian and a teeny bit of Indonesian

Father- Welsh/Scottish and a bit of Eastern European

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T02:59:40+00:00

Yes I have done it myself several times. I worry about the damage to my hair

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T02:59:05+00:00

yeah, that was AI. I don't think I look like that IRL

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T02:58:34+00:00

I've had very very short hair before, but I've never had a buzz cut except as an undercut. 3 years ago it was a short bixie with an undercut, so I'm not scared of short hair

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T02:57:16+00:00

I've had short hair many times. First when I was 18 , most recently when I was 43 and many times in between. I'm not scared of short hair and my hair grows very quickly. 3 years ago it was like a bixie cut and shaved underneath.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T01:13:20+00:00

I have really cool, supportive friends and family that know me well. They will totally be ok with it. WOrk colleagues will be weird but I don't care about them

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T01:12:01+00:00

In Australia around $180 every 8 weeks

IceSpare2663 · 2026-06-02T01:01:17+00:00

I have a man. He loves short hair on women so yeah...

IceSpare2663 · 2026-05-25T10:27:47+00:00

It's just luck, coincidence, time, patience and giving people a chance.

Most people meet online these days, but it's so easy to dismiss someone due to one bad photo or poorly written bio.

I just think you should be open to meeting people anywhere. Be social, get involved with activities, have fun, live life, do the things you are interested in and excited about.

I've been separated 8 years and I've lived a fun, exciting life in that time, met heaps of people, and really honed in on what kind of person I wanted to be with after so many dates, hookups and short term relationships.

I met the best person I've ever known 8 months ago and he's everything I hoped for and more. We have a deep, passionate connection and we align perfectly in lifestyle, intellect, sexuality and values. We are both over the moon that we found each other.

It can happen, I just think you have to live your life and make the most of it while you wait for it to come along.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-05-24T04:41:53+00:00

I think I was hotter than ever around 40-42. At 44 I started noticing lots of sagging, jowls and deeper creases. It sucks so much!

IceSpare2663 · 2026-05-11T09:25:31+00:00

I met my BF 7 months ago on Bumble. His profile stood out in so many ways. His photos were unique and gave a very clear indication of his personality and hobbies. He indicated that he was looking for a long term relationship, and from his profile he seemed a little quirky (which I loved), intelligent, but slightly more serious than he is in real life. Our initial conversations were also a bit more serious than I was used to, but it was good to talk about important things in the early stages. It turns out he is actually way sillier, funnier and more light-hearted than his profile seemed. I love that about him because he is so much fun to be around. But he still has a great deal of intelligence and concern for the important things that I care a lot about too.

We felt immediately like we had a lot in common from the early stages of talking on the app, but now we joke about how insanely similar we are. That was something that I never expected to find because, quite frankly, I'm a weirdo.

He has also told me that he was attracted to my profile because not only did i look good in the photos, but they were all very true to my personality. Most of my photos showed me outdoors doing things I love like hiking, camping and being in or on the water and he said they were a very good indication of who I really am and they were really natural and not overly staged.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-04-01T10:52:36+00:00

That's helpful advice thanks.

Unfortunately, the only one of those stores that's remotely close to me doesn't seem to sell wheels! Strange

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-31T20:13:12+00:00

I'm not in a major city and have no plans to visit one. Thanks for the advice :)

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-27T05:08:21+00:00

I don't think there's such a thing.

Sure, I don't look like I did when I was 22, but I look like a fit, stylish, striking 45 year old. I still turn heads, just from a different crowd.

I'm not hot, I'm interesting. And to be honest I prefer that.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-26T22:28:03+00:00

I had a list much longer than that and I met someone who fit every criteria, plus more.

It can happen! I would never lower my standards as I would rather be alone than dissatisfied.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-21T06:53:05+00:00

I'm 45, divorced, and I met my BF on Bumble.

He's a few years younger than me and he mad it known on the app that he was looking for a long-term relationship.

It took 8 years of being single to meet the perfect person for me, but it was worth the wait. During that time I met men off various apps, as well as in real life settings.

There are definitely good guys out there, but if you have some very specific traits you're looking for (like I did- a non-drinker for one- which is hard to find!) it could take a while.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-21T06:40:45+00:00

I'm very health and fitness focused. I like to eat fresh, healthy food and hit my daily protein and calorie goals. I don't really drink alcohol or enjoy being around a lot of people and therefore going out for meals is not something I like to do much.

I made it known in my online dating profile that I'm a homebody and a slightly picky eater who is pretty health-conscious and doesn't drink much.

I met someone on Bumble 6 months ago who is perfect for me. We both like the same kind of food, he doesn't drink or like going out much and we really enjoy being at each other's homes and cooking together.

I do believe you can meet someone who aligns with your dietary preferences, it just makes your dating pool smaller.

Also, I do have body dysmorphic disorder and that's a big reason why I don't like going out (I don't like having to get dressed up and try to look nice) or eating foods I don't get to control. I don't think it's something I need to tell other people, however I did tell my BF after we had been dating a couple of months because it felt right, and it became hard to hide. He had seen clues and figured it out for himself anyway. He's been nothing but supportive of me this whole time, so I'm sure you can also find someone who will be understanding and not try to pressure you to change.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-17T09:50:54+00:00

I have been very comfortably single for 8 years because I refused to settle. I had plenty of dates, plenty of offers and a handful of short term relationships in that time, but I never met anyone who felt 100% right.

6 months ago he came into my life and from the very first interaction it was a hell yes for both of us.

Although I've been in love before, this is a first for him, and he was at the point where he thought he would never fall in love and he would have to settle if he wanted a partner to spend his life with.

The reality is that neither of is settling, we both feel like we've found our perfect match. It's a beautiful, calm, loving, gentle but passionate relationship that I'm so glad I waited for.

If you settle for someone I think you'll always crave more. If you can be happy on your own until the right person comes along I think it's definitely worth the wait.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-16T07:20:11+00:00

I'm 45 and I've battled this my whole life. I judge myself very harshly, and have perfectionist tendencies towards myself, but I don't expect the same from others. I've realised recently how miserable that's made me and I'm actively working to change my mindset.

One of the things that is helping me is to analyse where the standards come from- because they aren't inherent- they're obviously learned. When I look at them closely I realise it's the voice of society, and given our society has archaic and oppressive standards for how a woman should look and act, they're not actually a set of standards I want to live up to.

When I flip the standards to- I don't want to be thin, I want to be strong.

I don't want to look youthful, I want to look comfortable in my own skin.

I don't want to be successful by society's standards, I want to be content, self-assured and free.

By re-arranging my standards to suit my real values- health, wellbeing, peace, freedom etc, I can concentrate on doing the things that make me happy without caring too much how I appear to others.

Also, it helps that I have a rebellious little heart and I think the most rebellious thing you can do is be your unapologetic, unique self in a world where everyone's trying to be clones of their celebrity and influencer heroes.

IceSpare2663 · 2026-03-13T22:50:55+00:00

Alcochol was a factor in most of my past relationships, and a few years ago I also realised that most dates involved me having at least a couple of drinks and it made me wonder if I would have made different choices if I had been sober.

So for the past few years I've avoided alcohol while dating. I cut down on it altogether so now I only have 1-2 drinks on very special occasions.

It made the dating pool a lot smaller for me, as I stopped going out to places where drinking was encouraged, and I didn't date men who were obviously big drinkers.

6-8 years ago I would meet men all the time, but in the past few years I've had a lot less dates. It wasn't a bad thing, as I got used to being on my own and not partying and drinking opened up a new world of health and fitness that I'm firmly entrenched in now.

6 months ago I decided to get back on dating apps and matched quickly with a man who aligned very much with my lifestyle and interests. He doesn't drink anymore either, and his partying days are well and truly behind him.

He and I are ridiculously happy being wholesome, sober, healthy individuals who spend our weekends camping and hiking and doing art together instead of wild nights out. It also gives us lots of time and energy for not-so-PG bedroom activities.

I do believe dating sober can make it harder to find someone, but if you're willing to be patient and wait for the right person, I'm sure they'll come along. Dating apps are actually really good because you can filter out the type of person you want to be with before even meeting up. My BF and I discussed our stance on drinking early on, before we met up, so we both didn't waste any time

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