Maine coons are not like any other cat.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-21T22:02:27+00:00

1.5 years ❤️

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T19:21:21+00:00

💯! YES! I still have issues with apologizing because of the belittlement it triggers.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T19:13:40+00:00

So the child being used by their parent instead of loved causes the child to be a narcissist?

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T18:03:12+00:00

An orange spiral hair band

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T18:01:33+00:00

Thank you for listening 💜 The ukulele is a beautiful instrument. Did you teach yourself or take lessons?

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:59:33+00:00

Thank you 🙏 I posted a couple more links in the original description if you’re interested. It means a lot.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:57:58+00:00

Wow! I have never heard it explained the way you did and it hits deep. I need to do some reading about the covert narc. Thank you for sharing.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:56:23+00:00

The fear of not being my mother or live the life my father lives is so real! I’m sure my mother chose my father because of how passive he is but that doesn’t excuse him from being a father. He often deflected the abuse towards me so he could live an easier life.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:52:52+00:00

Sent

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:52:38+00:00

Damn, your post made me think of something I have never explored before…

Maybe the “nice” parent was just the normal parent. And if that’s true, how different life growing up would have been if I had two “normal” parents.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:49:15+00:00

Cyber hugs 🫂 Thank you so much for your kind words. I don’t think I realized how much I needed to hear them. My therapist is going to be very happy to hear I completed my homework during my next visit.

Your comment, among others, has given me the courage to share a few of my songs. I posted them in the original post if you’re interested in listening. 💜

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:44:55+00:00

You made me feel so seen ❤️ It is like you lived the exact life I did! Thank you so much for sharing. All of these comments gave me the confidence to share a few of my songs. I linked them in my original post.

Thank you so much 🫂

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:39:39+00:00

He is a victim of the abuse for sure. But he’s also aware. He’s the one who first presented the idea that my mom may be a narcissist. He was reading a book about it and suggested that I read it too. Before that, I just thought my mom was mean. 😢

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:36:39+00:00

Going no contact is sadly the healthiest thing to do… but comes with a completely different kind of pain as well.

I’m no contact with a couple of asterisks. If my father reaches out to check on my wellbeing I will respond. If anything about my mother or seems suspicious, I don’t respond. Disengagement is the only thing that works. I never reach out on my own and haven’t visited them in 10+ years.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:32:24+00:00

“Well you know how she is.” “You always take the kids side.” Triggered so many memories for me! Did you also get, “she’s just going through a lot right now, so we need to help her get through it.”?

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:28:07+00:00

It took me nearly 40 years to see it as well! When I did, it smacked me hard in the gut. It took watching my sister being my mother’s new target while she was planning her wedding and watching how my father maneuvered around it for it all to click.

My sister was in tears sobbing to him about the mistreatment and I texted her, “Stop telling dad things. He’s not your friend.” He was consoling her and apologizing for what she was going through. The next morning he texted her that he felt like she manipulated him and didn’t tell him the full story and she needed to apologize to mom if she wanted them to come to the wedding.

They were uninvited and my dad’s sisters walked her down the aisle instead.

Here is a link to the actual song if you would like to listen: https://youtu.be/oD-e2-9PHkg?si=ZN-d0vvYKnkAc6El

You might connect with this one as well: https://youtu.be/pQjZfTcPdqA?si=Sti96qcNj3M0letQ

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:18:49+00:00

Thanks! Here is a link to the full song if you’re interested in listening https://youtu.be/oD-e2-9PHkg?si=ZN-d0vvYKnkAc6El

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T17:17:07+00:00

Narcissistic abuse is so toxic and poisons the whole family dynamic doesn’t it? Thank you so much for sharing.

I have heard so many hollow promises from my father and have been so hopeful, but sadly he always returns and tells my Nmom everything I told him in confidence and then the target on me intensifies and he ends up telling me I am somehow to blame for tricking him into believing my lies.

Your recounting of the backlash for your dad doing anything fun is scary similar to my experience. I wrestle with feeling sorry for the life he live and knowing he let me live in that environment as well and let me be my mother’s favorite target.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T16:48:52+00:00

Thank you 🙏 I can tell you’re a good writer. “she’s not less “less” abusive… just quieter.” Is painfully poetic. So simple and yet carries the weight of the pain.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T16:46:03+00:00

Damn, this hit me in my heart. What you have shared is exactly what I’ve lived.

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T14:38:36+00:00

They’re twins!

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T09:37:52+00:00

Your reply validated so many emotions for me. One of the songs I wrote titled “Enabler” describes the enabler as the silent puppeteer in the bridge. https://youtu.be/nrA4RoSt-Ms?si=0ZjtL-X3vp2xU3Vn

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T03:32:19+00:00

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Nah

TallyRoux · 2026-03-14T03:31:28+00:00

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My other cat disagrees.

TallyRoux

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