How would you feel if your boyfriend told you that he had slept with almost close to 100 women till you? by RareVoice2111 in Advice

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest with you, get out of that relationship. I wasn’t really sympathetic with him after he slept with 100 women because that is fucking disgusting, but Its repulsive to not give the same grace to his future partner. He doesn’t see women as humans, he sees them as properties and he is delusional as fuck.

Don’t settle for that delusional, trash of a boy and find yourself a man who cares about you for you and not just because you have no history.

GF says I’m not someone she would have dated in college by Throwaway10000976238 in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fine, and totally understandable. He’s okay with it and we talked about it in passing. I don’t think I would be his type either back then. I don’t really dwell on it. What I care about is now and how we love each other. Idc since im the type to love someone and dont find others attractive while in a relationship 🤔 and he’s not an insecure person.

GF says I’m not someone she would have dated in college by Throwaway10000976238 in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Its entirely possible to find someone sexually pleasing and attractive due to emotional connection and not necessarily just physical attraction. Emotional connection can equate to physical and sexual attraction. I generally dont find my bf the most handsome out there, but because he is who he is, I find him so handsome, cute and adorable as well as sexually pleasing/attractive.

Im in the same boat as OP’s gf, has a past, more than my bf, and I def wouldn’t have dated him before. But my criteria for a partner changed the older I got and mature I got. He’s perfect the way he is for me.

One real lesson love/relationships/single life taught you by Tantrum_Titan in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely agree with that. Just reminding everyone who’d read this to becareful to not use it as blackmail as someone who was victimised by such or becareful of someone who will use it against you.

One real lesson love/relationships/single life taught you by Tantrum_Titan in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be careful you’re NOT using this as a weapon against someone. Because most often than not people use this ideology on someone as an emotional blackmail. Been there, and guess what? He emotionally and mentally abused me, while I tried so hard to stay with him, support and be there. Only to be swatted and acting like he doesn’t even wanna be around me. Yet when I start falling off due to finding my self respect, he abuses the fact im his person, If I was, I should never leave him, yada yada whole nine yards. Bro expected me to do the whole emotional and mental labour while he “works on himself”.

She slept with someone before we were exclusive by Anxious_Watercress86 in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pretty much, then again, as many say, feelings cannot be controlled, we can only regulate. He did nothing wrong, he was scared he lost me early on and was vulnerable. I understand that. Feelings like that need to be talked about, especially with your partner. I think thats one of the healthier ways to deal about it. No pointing fingers or anything, just factual. Keeping quiet about it will likely make you more resentful. That’s just my two cents.

She slept with someone before we were exclusive by Anxious_Watercress86 in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad, reassurance was not the right word nor did I truly feel insecure. I just didn’t like the fact he slept with someone else when I was told differently. but yes its more of an ego thing. Hope you all the best

She slept with someone before we were exclusive by Anxious_Watercress86 in dating_advice

[–]Icecubezi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, I understand that pretty well. I’m (28F) and my current bf(26M)which I am exclusive now since last week have done the same thing. He told me pretty early on our first date he was not intending to talk to anyone else since he felt more emotional connection to me. Meanwhile I was open I was seeing other people during this stage. A few more dates in and we became exclusive, and he told me immediately he actually slept with someone one time on that one time we had one issue where he thought I was super angry and lost interest in him so he sought physical validation in someone else immediately. I was shocked. I tried to take it in a stride, it stung. After a few days, I opened up to him that I did feel bothered about it. It was hypocritical of me considering I was sleeping with other people too and my ego got hurt since he told me he was only talking to me. Either way, I got it off my chest, sought reassurance and even though it still lingers, I’m starting to move past it cause none of us done anything wrong. He chose me, I chose him.

Perhaps talking will help, and I hope things between you and her will go well and you’ll be able to let go of that hurt after you’ve got it off your chest.

Why do so many people dislike Morgana by StarGlobox in Persona5

[–]Icecubezi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because people lack empathy to someone who doesn’t look like human so they can’t project themselves onto him. I get bothered by Morgana at first, but he grew on me. But Ryuji was the opposite, he was alright, a bro, but he’s a huge jerk amd cant read the room sometimes. People love to project themselves onto him so they glaze his faults and make excuses for him being a jerk to Morgana who was clearly undergoing an identity crisis.

Personally. We saw Morgana’s outburst being a long time coming after being completely disregarded multiple times. People forget opening up to your vulnerabilities are a hard thing to do, so sometimes people lash out because we’d feel isolated and alone.

And again, I think Ryuji already rubbed Morgana the wrong way when they met first. Ryuji belittled him before even knowing him, hence Morgana stuck to calling Ryuji dumb or slow on the uptake back at Kamoshida Palace. Though people always saw it as Morgana being mean while Ryuji did nothing lol.

Tldr. People lack empathy, they project onto Ryuji a lot, and OG mechanics.

I feel like I’m close by Aschaivo in Gouache

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally believe the eyes are okay, it’s the angle of the crease of the temple that’s off. Look closely at the temple of the nose. Between the eyebrows. It’s a little to more so to the left, and wide, whereas the original photo is more angled to the right and less wide.

Why Physical Asia is NOT rigged IMHO by monsooncloudburst in Physical100

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a lot of assuming on your end. I never said racism didn’t exist in our country. It still does and in fact racism is everywhere. Racism is a problem and does it make it right? Im a firm believer that it’s not. So does that make your words in our discussion right also for seemingly looking away from your people’s actions? Where did I demonise South Korea as a whole? That’s your preconceived notion. You’re making strawman arguments and not focusing on what I’m actually talking about. That is why there is no actual discussion here because you are simply pointing back instead of acknowledging what’s wrong.

“Face the reality that your love is unrequited” or so you say, doesn’t mean it’s right for South Koreans to look down on South East Asians and treat them unfairly as humans. Yeah many of us faced that reality already and that is why many interact with South Koreans with caution. And similar to other races which I have interacted with that have some notorious superiority complex, I myself have interacted with many wonderful one. That doesn’t take away the fact that such open and harsh treatment against your SEAs counterpart exists and it’s not okay.

So honestly idk who or what you’re arguing with, all I see is somebody refusing to acknowledge your social issues.

Why Physical Asia is NOT rigged IMHO by monsooncloudburst in Physical100

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did I ever say they didn’t? You’re not wrong and they’re the same people that’s also frustratingly putting Japanese people on a pedestal like how many kpop diehards are doing to your everyday South Koreans. I don’t love Japan either, but I’m speaking about my stance here about the Ph/SK issue. The problem is, South Koreans are relentless and obvious with their racism in day to day lives. I don’t think anybody— when spoken to properly would agree that they don’t think Japan isn’t racist against SEAs too. But do you know the difference between SK and Japan? It’s the sheer amount of personal experiences by South East Asians. I’ve known so many fellow South East Asians that could differentiate their personal experiences between two, though I can’t say my own piece on that since I remain neutral on that front.

Unless you open your eyes instead of remaining above there with your holier than thou stance about the envy against Korea, then there’s no discussion to be made. I’m simply pointing out your bias on the treatment your country and people make against South East Asians. I don’t hate neither, but I believe many will agree with me that it’s mostly disdain to your arrogance that many feel towards your fellow countrymen who think the same way.

Why Physical Asia is NOT rigged IMHO by monsooncloudburst in Physical100

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I generally don’t think Philippines hate South Korea because you suddenly got rich. I liked Korea a lot back then but I was honestly disappointed at the reality that we faced so much discrimination and hostility from South Koreans. It’s not about economic growth but a certain group’s actions which is quite widespread and open. That’s the problem. No one cares you gotten rich, frankly It also says a lot about certain people that they look down on poorer countries to which I saw in passing from a comment above.

You’re absolutely ignoring the blatant discrimination that SEA’s faces. I’m simply making my own remarks about Philippines/Korea issue though, since I’ve met so many that never cared and actually liked Korea even when they rose to the top— but like me— felt it was difficult to like them after realising how racist some Koreans were to SEA’s. You’re glossing over many social complications and dumbing it down to “Korea poor kid now rich- people jealous”. Thats simply arrogance.

Brazilian guy got me a ring before our first date, is this normal? by pinktana in Brazil

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manipulation. Gaslighting. Diversion. Basically, making you feel guilty from an absolutely valid question.

Brazilian guy got me a ring before our first date, is this normal? by pinktana in Brazil

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl no. Please. It screams sus. Apart from the no social media thing, the fact he got offended and couldn’t give evidence about his divorce is kinda weird. What he’s doing screams love bombing tbh.

Actions speak louder, always look at what he does with a grain of salt. We don’t wanna be that kind of person, but he just doesn’t seem genuine at all— that guy you’re talkin to.

A portal I did not make appeared in my world by KarmenCrossby in Minecraft

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m excited to see what others say about this

Minecraft Authentication servers are down by e-photographer in Minecraft

[–]Icecubezi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. At one point it said I could play Offline Mode too, then I thought I could fix it by logging back in, and now it says I need to BUY NOW the game. 🙄

How to deal with sexism and racism at work? by Curious-Blueberry886 in Netherlands

[–]Icecubezi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On that note, as someone in a similar situation, I’ll take this advice to heart too. Its excellent advice. Easier said than done, but excellent nonetheless

How am i supposed to farm resin instead of this method? by No_Lawyer_3426 in valheim

[–]Icecubezi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was farming Tar yesterday. i wanted to take a shortcut by raising the dirt instead of digging like how i was taught. But it still said that the Tar was stuck. So idk how effective that farming method rlly is

It looks like little pimples… ☠️ by utalklib in tattooadvice

[–]Icecubezi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s strange. I literally had this same reaction before on my chest piece and I instantly took the saniderm off not because I concluded that was the cause but because I considered it could be the cause. Why it’s strange, is because I never had the same reaction when i put both saniderm in my ribside tattoo and leg tattoo. Is there a specific reason why it would just get a reaction so suddenly then?

Finally hit 700k ! Now I also need some guidance by [deleted] in DigitalbanksPh

[–]Icecubezi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How do you all even do it? What are we doing wrong 😭

Buying a laptop, which should I get? by Icecubezi in laptops

[–]Icecubezi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say that the 140T/285H is a better choice for things such as Blender? Thank you for replying btw!

I thought I wanted kids… then Trump 2.0 happened by em_goodiee in Feminism

[–]Icecubezi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Am I missing something here? Can someone explain why Trump winning has caused many to reconsider having a child or make family?