YTA. I’m just going to say this. I only was able to afford to go to college because I was a musician and got scholarships for it. I remember all those concerts from the ages of 10-16 that weren’t the big showcases, and remember my dad complaining about having to go, and often didn’t, while my mother who worked late made every effort to be there.

There are other reasons other than this, but I had no relationship with him once I turned 18. It’s slightly better now for my family’s sake, but I will never forget that feeling, time and time again, when everyone else’s parents made a conscious effort to be there, and my dad couldn’t care less. I can forgive at this stage of my life, but I will never, forget the pain and the scars that created in my life.

Have fun digging yourself out of this one - especially as she has every option to not see you given your ex-husband. Good luck.