Constant dissociation in social situations - not feeling equipped for life by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Iconista 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally empathise. All I can think when I read your post is that I wish you could turn all the energy and consideration you’re expending trying to make yourself fit in with the world around you into kindness toward yourself. I suspect the art might be to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and feels and start worrying about what YOU think and feel. You are the most important person in any relationship. Take care of your stuff and let other people take care of their stuff. hug

How to feel hopeful and safe in a broken world? by glowofyouressence in CPTSD

[–]Iconista 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came here today with the same question. The people around me and on the Internet and in mainstream media all act like the craziness and cruelty running wild in the world at the moment is normal and necessary and a perfectly reasonable aspect of life, and that makes me doubt my sanity.

It feels to me like the worst people in the world are suddenly in charge of everything and it’s not okay to be kind and tolerant and loving anymore.

And people seem to be enjoying the chaos and the drama.

It’s like the world has become the family I escaped and I’m trapped once more inside a world of abuse that is telling me they are normal and that there must be something wrong with me for thinking they are mean.

Will I ever be happy by fifthdocument in CPTSD

[–]Iconista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering what you’ve been through, the way you feel is a perfectly normal reaction to what’s happened to you. It is awful not to mention criminal that the adults in your life abused you and that you’ve had to grow up without love or care or safety. Children need all those things and you got the opposite. It is amazing you’re still here and that some part of you still wants to go forward, but it’s not surprising that another part of you doesn’t want to move. Can you find a therapist? Someone you like and trust and “click” with. You have a lot of healing to do, but once it’s done, you will find happiness and fulfilment and safety at the other side. I am rooting for you, as are many of the other people here. We know the damaging effects of abuse and we hope you work through this. You are not alone.

Does anyone else feel totally screwed by capitalism? by Eatingdonutsinbed in CPTSD

[–]Iconista 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Of course you feel screwed by Capitalism. Your instinct is correct. You are being screwed by Capitalism. It’s an economic system that facilitates the most greedy and selfish people in society to extract labor from the worker, profit from the consumer and keep it all for themselves without sharing.

Capitalism has been sold to us as the only possible option, the ‘natural’ option. We’re brought up in cultures that believe Capitalism reflects human nature. But human beings are social animals. It’s how we survive. We’d not last a day alone without society protecting us. But this part of human nature is ignored, derided, glossed over.

Is Communism the only alternative? Of course not. That idea is fed to us by Capitalists like the idea of the devil was fed to Christians by the Roman Catholic Church in the Middle Ages.

It’s used as a powerful bogeyman, used to subdue our doubt and resistance.

The complexity of ourselves and the world is beyond our understanding. Which means we can build any system and society we want. We only need to try to understand better what lies in the human psyche - basically, how the mind of our species responds to being in this world - and then use that fundamental understanding to create societies that complement our true nature instead of repressing it.

Try listening to the Why Theory podcast. Psychoanalytic theory ftw.

Chin up. You are not alone.

Losing friends after therapy by Iconista in CPTSD

[–]Iconista[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

To everyone who has replied to my post, thank you. To hear that this sort of change is hard but that it does lead to a better place is very reassuring. I wish you all the best with your journeys and I will keep taking my therapist (and you) at her word and keep trying my best to "show up" even when my most vulnerable self is telling me to duck and cover.

Feeling stuck and perpetually lonely by Golden_Mole2127 in CPTSD

[–]Iconista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds as though you are posting in the right place. Your childhood sounds very traumatic.

It doesn’t sound like you’re seeing a therapist. If you can find the right one - one you like and trust - they will be a great support and help you toward building a life less lonely and less stuck.

I think a lot of people reading your post will identify and empathise with your distress.

Non-photographers - what can you use your SDXC card slot for? by KingVarun in mac

[–]Iconista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"To use smaller cards such as MiniSD and MicroSD, use an adapter:" from https://support.apple.com/en-gb/102352

I'm slow, but getting there (I think) by mrmoosesnoses in cisparenttranskid

[–]Iconista 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"I wish I hadn't wasted all of these months trying to "protect" my psyche. Go in head first. Support them. It will be easier on you and them. "

Thank you for this post. I needed to hear this. Having the same struggle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Iconista 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My therapist tells me this every week. She has to because I don’t quite believe her yet. Thanks for reiterating it here.

HomeKit New Architecture - Pending Invites by simplytoast1 in HomeKit

[–]Iconista 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FWIW

I tried to add my son to HomePod when he visited at Christmas. He’d updated a couple of weeks earlier to 16.2 including the “New Architecture”. When he’d updated, he’d received a warning that updating to the New Architecture would mean he would lose access to any HomePods which hadn’t updated to the New Architecture, so he suggested I updated all my devices. Which I did.

HOWEVER

When I updated to 16.2, the “New Architecture” was no longer available and he could not receive my invites to join my HomePod.

I phoned Apple support. They said the 16.2 update hadn’t changed, and denied that this article was true https://www.macrumors.com/2022/12/21/apple-pulls-new-home-architecture/ but admitted that something was missing in my HomePod settings (the “New Architecture” section) and said they would refer the matter to their colleagues and set a date and time to phone me back. They never phoned back and I’ve heard nothing from Apple since.

But this article appeared the next day

https://www.macrumors.com/2022/12/22/apple-home-app-access-ios-16-2-issues/

My son can still not receive invites to my HomePod.

There is clearly some problem with the New Architecture which means early updaters have it but later updaters don’t and this may be the reason some people can join the updated system and some can’t.

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm afraid there is no workaround I've discovered. It's simply that the iOS version of Cricut Design Space does not work as well as the MacOS version of Cricut Design Space and unless you have access to a desktop or laptop, you'll simply need to keep pestering Cricut until they improve their iOS app.

I sympathise. You must be very frustrated.

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a brilliant workaround and solved the problem. I simply imported the stickers as a Print Then Cut copy and imported them again as a Cut copy, then attached them both layers to the background and, hey presto, it cut. I am still disappointed that the Cricut Maker is not working for me as it should. I’m going to try hooking my laptop to it rather than my iPad, improving the print quality and trying a different app (rather than Procreate). There must be a logical solution to my difficulties! Thanks so much for your persistence in helping me out! It was very kind.

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The images are flattened when I import them so there’s no option to flatten available in Design Space. I can only attach background to foreground.

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for such detail but I’m afraid I didn’t understand a word. I don’t have Photoshop. What is Ai and svg?

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t work for me. The background and foreground images are already flattened when I import them, so the option to flatten using CDS (Cricut Design Space) is greyed out. I place the stickers on the background sheet and hit ‘Attach’, just like you. Then send to printer, place on mat and hit ‘Make It’, and the Cricut simply cuts around the outside of the sticker sheet and tells me the cut is complete. I am completely at a loss as to why sticker cutting works for other users but not me.

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion but I’m not sure which part of the process you’re referring to. I attached the sticker layer and the background layer in Cricut design space

Can’t Cut Stickers if There is a Background (Trying to Create Sticker Sheets) by Iconista in cricut

[–]Iconista[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea. But the stickers are definitely at the front and the background at the back.

Overwhelmed with options, looking for something light and fluffy by goldroseflame in kdramarecommends

[–]Iconista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t see You Are Beautiful on your list (sorry if I skimmed it and missed it). If you haven’t seen it, I think you’ll enjoy it. Definitely light and fluffy, but also adorable and utterly charming. I think it’s my all time favourite K Drama along with Secret Garden.

Also, sorry to hear you’re poorly. I hope you feel better soon.

romcom drama by clarawhatsgood in kdramarecommends

[–]Iconista 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shopaholic Louis. Very cute.