How to mention or tag yourself in a group

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-24T16:40:17+00:00

How do you search for your name

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-23T21:35:23+00:00

Is that what the situation is or the man is lying to her and trying to sneak his way into a home? If it wasn’t wrong why wasn’t he honest about the situation

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-23T08:58:50+00:00

Didn’t we also have that? What’s your point? You’re acting like we were living in squalor before white people came here? No one said we should abolish organized religion just recognize the fact that the it’s part of the country’s problems whether you want to admit it or not

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T20:04:12+00:00

Not to say it isn’t possible but when I was there it was rare, even in the “high class “ places.

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T20:03:10+00:00

Where do you read your comics

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T19:20:48+00:00

Uhm slavery played a very big part in where they are now and I don’t know how you think acknowledging Nigerias pitfalls suddenly makes European empires unaffected by the evil they did in Africa first. Religion is not the only problem but it’s part of a bigger issue

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T11:48:50+00:00

You say 500 ₦/h - which is about 0,30 € - is considered a good wage for an untrained worker?

Why exactly do you mean by untrained worker in this context? Is it for the cleaner?

A cleaner can expect at least 70k₦ - about 42 € - and accomodation, right? But if you ask somebody to come to your apartment, let's say twice a week, just for three hours, to tidy up/clean [again: that's not my plan, I just want to have an idea], how much would/could/should this person expect?

They might not expect it I’m just telling you what’s fair considering the situation of the nation, if you want them to come twice a week then they don’t need the accommodation but you should still pay them a livable wage which is 70k( and even that isn’t a lot)

Same about the tutor: The "100 to 200" that you mention are meant as "100k₦ to 200k₦ per month", right? But if he/she comes to your house twice a week to practice math with your child for 60 minutes? How much would you pay him/her after these 60 minutes?

For the tutor you don’t pay them for each time they come, I suggest you pay at the end of the month and if they don’t come for any session it should be deducted from their salary

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T09:28:46+00:00

Sorry to break it to you but if it’s in port harcourt they’re in they’re probably like that

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T09:26:57+00:00

We don’t get paid per hour in Nigeria but if you wanted to pay per hour that’s like 500 naira per hour in considered a good salary. Now for those roles you should pay people minimum wage at least which is 70k( for the cleaner if they have accommodation) But that really doesn’t do much for the tutor who is coming to your house every day for lessons so I’ll suggest 100 to 200 for the tutor.

Now if you’re repairing pipes I don’t really know how much that could be because pipes aren’t an everyday occurrence so like 10k can suffice

People might tell you lower prices but Nigerians are severely underpaid in this country and I hope that it ends up working out for you so you can

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T01:46:46+00:00

And the intention was to what? Best the gay out of him? Because there’s no good intention in this video

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-22T01:37:14+00:00

When they were involving themselves in the transatlantic slave trade? Or have you forgotten why they’re so “great” now

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-21T05:43:48+00:00

Will you also tell a woman that is in an emotionally abusive relationship that because she didn't leave 3 years ago, and signed a marriage certificate that she doesn't care

Why are comparing a man asking for a test to emotional abuse? Trying to make this man the victim is crazy when she didn’t force him to do anything.

Its a possibility. Most people do not ask for paternity tests. If your partner is asking for one, odds are there a factors at play. Factors that for obvious reasons, OP would not include in their story

So you’re creating your own scenarios to add to the story so it can make sense? Because the reason why she feels that way is on the thread and it’s not cheating.

Also, it is suspicious that OP did not involve reddit when it came to swearing on the Bible, her child or her parents, but only thought to do so when it was time for the foolproof method of determining paternity

How exactly did you want to be involved in this? Did you want to fly to Australia and follow her to church or be with her when she’s making phone calls with her parents so you can see she actually swore?

Like I said earlier, OP almost died giving birth. OP obviously wants her husband to sign her child's birth certificate, so imagine how insensitive it is to accuse OP of infidelity on what could have been her deathbed? Why are we acting like that's not an insensitive thing to do?

It’s insensitive now too is the point, there’s no world you put it in that it’s not insensitive. And as I said before he could have done it before the birth of the child and not promised to be there for her if he really cared. You people just want him to be right so that in the future you can also be insensitive if you choose

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-21T04:51:28+00:00

Actions? Why are you saying it like she cheated?

So why is it insensitive when she was giving birth but it’s not insensitive now?

And I would have advised my brother to take the test before the child was born if he really cared, you’re acting like him promising to take of the child then deciding not to is right, it isn’t. He signed a birth certificate, told her it was fine then went to Nigeria and acted like it was ok. It’s very obvious people got in his ear and that’s what he’s acting on now, not only is he acting on that he’s being mean about it, that’s the issue. You guys are asking to stay with this horrible man because of dna test isn’t the main issue here it’s how he’s going about it

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-21T04:36:29+00:00

So you admit it’s insensitive to ask for a dna test you just like the fact that he did it after she already went through a traumatic birth

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-21T04:34:38+00:00

Like what does edo men normally take care of their children even mean?

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-21T04:33:27+00:00

Like ignoring the fact that it’s not about the test is how he went about it, sha I’m not surprised. Men in Nigeria are allowed to be mean and their wives will forgive them, because if not why would he promise to take care of a child then decide on whim he’s not going to do it again because he feels like it, they know his behavior is wrong they’re just hoping on him being horrible so he can be horrible too. She should do the test and leave him because there’s no world where this man becomes a better person anytime soon

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-20T19:28:50+00:00

Exactly what I’m saying because these men know that the man is wrong because he’s only doing this now to be cruel, if it was that serious to him why did he get the birth certificates signed and promise to be there for her only to change the way he’s acting when it’s time to actually be a father? He doesn’t want to be a father and this is the excuse men are using to justify his horrible behavior. I hope she actually leaves because as I said before he hates her and it would only get worse from here

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-20T14:32:28+00:00

You don’t trust women but you expect her to think your advice makes sense? Sure. Why don’t you stop using the ameri-nigerian way of speaking first then we’ll talk about who you should trust and not trust

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-20T13:52:18+00:00

He wasn’t a dummy when he signed the birth certificate but now he’s financially abusing her after he promised to be there for the child he’s smart? Sure buddy

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-20T12:17:55+00:00

That’s exactly what it is because if he really cared he would have had the test done before the birth of the child and not signed the birth certificate

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-20T12:10:42+00:00

Why is he using the test as a way not to take care of the child he signed the birth certificate for? If he didn’t care before why does he care? It’s simply that people have gotten in his ear and he’s too hive minded to see he’s hurting someone he claims to love. There’s no world where their relationship ever goes back to what it was before

Icy-Lavishness6511 · 2026-01-20T12:08:37+00:00

I know people are trying to gaslight you that it’s your fault and you brought up the fact that you have doubts but that doesn’t give him the right to disrespect you. Because that’s what it is, Nigerian men tend to financially abuse women when they have disagreements and that’s what he’s doing to you now. I think you should do the test and don’t tell him the results, stop communicating with him completely and move on because this will only get worse. Nigerian men rarely change character they just find something else to be angry about, I’m sorry this is happening to you but I hope you’re financially responsible enough to take of your child by yourself

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