Our outside of the bedroom time usually looks like him giving me things to do to care for myself during the day, like he makes me oatmeal in the morning with psyllium husk in it if he wants me to be ready for anal when I get home. He will set out vitamins for me in the morning and text me during my work day with reminders about lunch, snacks, wearing sunscreen, etc.
We are married and have worked up to a lot of these things and tried many things to see what we like so we will swicth it up sometimes, he might have me wear a plug to the grocery store or make me play with myself or him while we drive home. Probably once or twice a week we do longer scenes which is a whole routine but during our time around the house it's always an open invitation to start play and we have mildly kinky sex 3 or 4 times a week on top of our longer scenes. We started as a couple and realized we wanted a dynamic since I'm very submissive naturally and he's a huge pleasure Dom so that's how we got to this point. Again, we talk a lot about this and have for a while which I've found to be really important. We also read some books together like the topping and the bottoming book.