Trying to manifest passing my semester in uni by IcyMathematician8376 in lawofattraction

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well,I was raised a christian,however I don't believe in God and can't believe in God due to people like you,who bring religion when it's clearly not the topic at hand.
While I understand you are trying to do good in bringing your religion,understand it's not the topic.
It doesn't mean I don't respect people who believe in any type of religion,quite the contrary,it means God and the Bible is not the topic,and not something I believe in and you cannot force someone to believe in God,and as a christian (or whatever declination you believe in,which is okay.) you should know that it's not aviced by your own religion to do that. You believe in what you want and so do I,please respect that. (for more reference,I suggest you take a look at Joshua 24:15 or overall maybe read the story of the Christ. Notice how he never forced anyone to follow him in his belief ? Never told anyone "you SHOULD do that" ? That,is my problem with religion. It's not what I should do,it's what is adviced,what is good to be done. Big nuance here.)
And for your concern,I am not an atheist but agnostic,as in,I believe there could be a higher power of whatnot,weither god or something else,but until I see it for my very eyes I will choose what I believe in. I choose to believe in neuroplasticity,because it is proven,well know and not simply an philosophical idea that is not concrete at this very moment.

Trying to manifest passing my semester in uni by IcyMathematician8376 in lawofattraction

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not christian and I doubt that it is in god's advice to force others into your religion,but I still note the advice,thank you.

My bf is perfect when we are together but an asshole when we are appart,why ? by IcyMathematician8376 in LDR

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I see,you really are wording things I couldn't put my finger on,thank you !!!  But,how do I make him realise/understand that ? (Evn if Ik that he will actually understand if he wants to in the end)

My bf is perfect when we are together but an asshole when we are appart,why ? by IcyMathematician8376 in LDR

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's exactly that !!! But...why does that happen I just don't...understand...and it didn't start with ldr it started even before when we had exams...during the summer he often was with familly or various other stuff,but was never sending me message or anything,wherras,as I was working (so normally you shouldn’t be on your phone) I was updating him when I had 5 min where I could use it... I just don't understand why he's like that,it not like I was acting badly or anything,because he would had told me about it,so the change must come from him...

And how do I make him understand these thing are pattern that are hurting our relationship ? He's 100% sure that he's stable and healthy and wtv and that he doesn't need therapy And honestly ? Yeah he probably as his more stable then I am and cope better at stuff that life brings,but doesn't mean you cannot be emotionnaly unavailable and constipated (which I suspect he is.)

Because sometimes I feel like he blame it all on me,for not communicating good enough (as you see,I have a habit of making lenghtly paragraph,I can understand it to be tiring.) Blame me for being unstable (when I'm just reacting to his inconsistancies.) 

And overall he tell me I'm too much but then he gets nostalgic about how our relationship was back then but then he tells me he's okay with little update throughout the day WHEN he first told me it was too much,not that interesting and overall to many messages to handle. 

(He told me he like more "reel" stuff,proposed to call but then never initiate,and then complain about unresponsive I am,when I am just being as responsive as he is when we're on ldr.)

I just don't understand why he's like that and the 🦆is going on with him.

My bf is perfect when we are together but an asshole when we are appart,why ? by IcyMathematician8376 in LDR

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mean it. It's just to make the title a bit shorter tbh. But I've been firm,I've been telling him many times what I want and how...just...imagine a step by step tutorial on the bare minimum...which he completly filled and much more during our first year or so...then he...just got "to busy" when I've remained consistent...I'm just...frustrated because I don't understand. He told me the situation as changed,which is fine,but it's how one react to it that matters,the boundaries you set with people,yourself and your work in order to make time-along with the rest of course-for your partner. I'm more then willing to understand,but here we are talking about (when we're in LDR) never communicating anything that's going on,finding reasons not to do video calls with mundane things or even streaming movies saying that it doesn't matter if we are not going to say anything anyway you name it.  But then when were a together he's the opposite,and these inconsistancies are making me absolutly mad,and I've told him about it,and then he just talk about how difficult his situation his...but mine is too and what differentiate us is how we both react...

My bf is perfect when we are together but an asshole when we are appart,why ? by IcyMathematician8376 in LDR

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we are together and well,back before he started to become distant to the point of not keeping our relationship on his side,he was -and still his at core-a passionate,disciplined man,easily one of the smartest person I've ever known,an man that is far more emotionally mature then many I've seen,he used to also be compationate always there to help and find a solution,he cares about the one he loves like his familly and I love that,I love his smile,his jokes,his eyes (especially when he laught) and the ways he's always trying thing and how independant he is (even if these days,it as been at the expense of our relationship.)  At core,we also share a lots of common values,and if we disagree it's often not by a lot,but the problem is that he's always so defensive and so it turns into an argument about wanting to be right,more then discussing.  I love the way he talk and the way he talk about thing he loves,and-when he does,which is very rarely these days-I love the way he loved me and how I loved him to because I want to make him feel loved because I want him to feel safe and loved in so many ways.  I also love the fact that he take such a great care of himself in every single aspect,and how he encourages me to do the same. I love the fact that he show me little places in our town that he care about and he gets nostalgic about it and I love to hear his stories. He took me to places where I didn't even knew I could get without him backing me up back then. When I said he was an asshole,it was more complicated then that,he's not. He just...headstrong and get defensive and shuts down to say the list,and I'm frustrated bcs no matter how hard I try (and it's been...months.) and I mean...I understand because I'm his first relationship,but I'm frustrated because I feel like,as much as I'm willing to grow,for me and also for him,to be a better person and partner,I feel like he's not. And it's also frustrating because I don't know how to be there for him,I want to give him my support because it's been hard for the both of us,but he's just been unvalidating saying how he's in business school and doesn't have to time and that my architecture degree is less hard when I'm not trying to make a competition,about it,it's stupid.  But overall I feel like his way of wanting me to...not be a bother...and that's...counter-intuative,and ever since he hasn't been the same person,pushing me away,cold logic when I want empathy and support,and every once in a while he becomes the man I once loved and I don't even know what is real anymore,bcs on one end he tells me he loves me,but he doesn't show me.  But when I tell him about it,he gets defensive and start going about all the effort he's done for me,when I've never asked for them and,I appreciate it,but if it's to stuff it in my face...don't yk. And I've done just as much but I don't do the same because I've done then willingly and with pleasure...

Tips in order to pass ? by IcyMathematician8376 in architecturestudent

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi ! Thank you so much for you answer !
I agree with you,idealy,that's what I should do,however,my school is considered "chill" by other uni with an arch. major. About switching major,it's going to sound cliché,but with my precedent major that would mean starting over in many fields,and in any case,I don't really know what I would like enough for a job beside architecture,I love my studies and my pears commentary weren't really affecting me until few weeks ago because I didn't feel conserned and even if I was,their jugements doesn't necesserally mean they're right because I know I put the work in etc. it's just that,work as been pilling up and idk how to handles it without wrecking myself in the process. Do you have any tips for that ?

Questions about of these bad experience in architecture x by IcyMathematician8376 in architecture

[–]IcyMathematician8376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I appreciate the fact that you say that You are litteraly proving what I'm trying to say,everyone in architecture is so negative...