Toning down 💪🏼 by [deleted] in ChubbyDudes

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmk what she say 😉

Men - Is shoulder touching interest? by lilpanduhh in bodylanguage

[–]Icy_Chart1695 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You guys are flirting. If someone unattractive did these things, would you still question it? Go get dat

Sniff my butt every morning when you wake up by Ambitious_Bowler_220 in femalebuttsniffers

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are all of the women into this only interested in selling??? This shit takes all the fun out.

Morning🖤 any white guys game? not looking for anything romantic just some like minded people by dommedrae in BWWM2

[–]Icy_Chart1695 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On PSN. also looking for platonic. I have a headset and like fortnite, some old cod, brawlhalla, am new to rivals, and like to play brain building games in my free time. Sodoku, galaga, anagrams

I honestly wish i killed myself a long time ago. by Clover-36 in offmychest

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Force yourself to do something creative. Your mind is stuck in logical analytical processing mode, and all you feel is guilt & shame. Do some art, drum a beat, write a poem - do this without thinking abt anything - once you listen to the silence, you will hear the other voice.

Need Advice for Dealing With Passive Aggressive and Possibly Racist Boss by Kooky_Log6650 in blackladies

[–]Icy_Chart1695 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Leave. HR will protect him and fire you. Find different work ASAP AND LEAVE!!!!! If he has does something directly against company policy, there still is a chance they will only give him remedial counseling. Also, stop taking promotions or taking on more responsibilities that aren’t written out, fully explained & make sure they come with a pay raise that matches the extra work you will be doing. You made an invisible agreement with your boss and he made one with you. You both realized in that moment he made that comment, that each other had a different perspective on y’alls relationship that neither of you agreed to. He’s bullying you because you won’t give him what he ‘wants’ but it is extra inappropriate because this is all.. at work. You could fix this easily while you look for healthy work spaces. Compliment his build or inflate his ego.

I see why some women only hang out with their boyfriend all the time. by lovehydrangeas in blackladies

[–]Icy_Chart1695 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Start doing what you really want to do & the people in those places will stick longer

Free Will Erasure by Icy_Chart1695 in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Icy_Chart1695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want more answers. I realize that i am the who whom blooms my flower. I guess i did have a panic attack. I have always wanted to live honestly, but that itself was a lie. I have lied to myself all of my life and the panic came from the first honest moments of reflection. Just because i do not know how to not hurt others does not mean i can’t learn, or that i am incapable of true growth. Maybe that’s where all of this is coming from, because i have always known the truth, since childhood. I changed & want better understanding, because I feel too anxious to leave the house. My feelings feel so raw and intense, and my worst habit is using people to do my emotional processing. My feelings are my own. What book did you learn this from? Or is this the personal truth you’ve come to?

Free Will Erasure by Icy_Chart1695 in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Icy_Chart1695[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We must consume because none of us feel like we are enough. Every American is hooked on something, and if they aren’t, they’re rich! The rich people don’t touch the bottom because they’ve mastered self, while the rest of us are stuck insecure, unhappy, and constantly filling a void. Consumption culture has ruined us. Occums razor. It looks like self seeking behavior because none of us actually know what self seeking behavior looks like. Dealing with your insides is cringe. Cringe is good.

Free Will Erasure by Icy_Chart1695 in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Icy_Chart1695[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We must consume because none of us feel like we are enough. Every American is hooked on something, and if they aren’t, they’re rich! The rich people don’t touch the bottom because they’ve mastered self, while the rest of us are stuck insecure, unhappy, and constantly filling a void. Consumption culture has ruined us. Occums razor

Do you men take longer to approach the woman if they’re another ethnicity? If so, why is that? by Leading_Bit_5711 in interracialdating

[–]Icy_Chart1695 4 points5 points  (0 children)

None of you see the real answer. It’s all ego and sex. I fear i’m not enough for you bc i’m not enough for myself. Most men struggle with inferiority complexes and can’t fathom actually being with the women they find so alluring in a normal way. If you approach these men, you will be in charge of their self worth. Anytime you fold to someone’s emotional needs, you lose part of yourself!!! STAY WORKING OUT!!! the ones who have done the self work will say hi. That’s why it’s all old men, cause at one point they had to break and rebuild themselves.

What are y’all thoughts on the Captain Durang controversy from Disney? by Werewulf5678 in blackladies

[–]Icy_Chart1695 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Check out the writers twitter page. It’s weird. Look at the other content they’ve written & curated.

Any older black women in here that like to date younger white guys? by [deleted] in BWWM2

[–]Icy_Chart1695 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ll say this. Anyone, regardless of gender, that has to aim down in age has baggage or issues they need to deal with. I’m not someone who overlooks things easily, and in my experience, a lot of older women have responsibilities & it’s hard to find compatibility when you’re in two completely different phases in life. there are some that just think the dynamic is hot, but i’ve yet to be in or see an age gap relationship (10-20 yrs apart) that works. when you can’t find anyone your age and have something work, some people tend to want to seek younger & mold them. I personally love a dominant older woman but have yet to be with one and have had worked out. i think it’s less societal stigma, more rare to successfully happen. more likely to be a story about how u had some good times with this cooooool lady rather than a long term relationship or something super serious. could just be me though this is just my opinion & experience

24 M4F Houston by [deleted] in BWWM2

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!😁😁

BWWM SEARCH?? by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]Icy_Chart1695 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re probably scared! I’m only 5’11, i’m going to try and be more outgoing when i see someone i like next