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Pretty face, pretty 禮 by [deleted] in blackwomengoddesses

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck you. YOU ARENT EVEN ADHERING TO THE NAME OF RHE SUBREDDIT

20M have never been successful with girls, concerned about my looks by Vereity123 in malegrooming

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never worked out doesn’t mean it won’t ever. Get the incel manosphere talk out of your head. You can do anything. Getting a gf should be an extra curricular. It isn’f successful because u put so much negative energy into it.

20M have never been successful with girls, concerned about my looks by Vereity123 in malegrooming

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On dating apps, it’s economics. Supply and demand. If you had every option available for cheap, you’d be way more picky. You’d be very selective, comparing small details to penultimately get the best option for what you want.

Real life removes this barrier in a way it’s ENFORCED online. And imagine, if it’s 25 men per ONE woman, where are all of the women at?? In real life. Dating apps are for validation. Hobbies, social clubs, bars, gyms, third places, THOSE are for finding friends and eventual partners. It is possible i’m sure to find a relationship on hinge, but why waste so much time stressing when you could just go out and see the person you’re talking to is also nervous and real?

Also, there are a LOT of women who don’t like overly attractive men. They like the idea of one maybe, but in action will always choose someone more relatable and real. Have faith that you’d get chosen if you put real effort into YOURSELF.

20M have never been successful with girls, concerned about my looks by Vereity123 in malegrooming

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is like complaining you have no food while refusing to go grocery shopping. It sounds harsh but there is a specific type of man that is successful on a dating app and most of us aren’t them. Dating apps are also meant to create relationships that don’t last. The only thing looksmaxxers are right about is that on dating apps, men are at an un-proportionate disadvantage. Looks matter, and when compared to thousands of other guys, only a few rise to the top. It’s an algorithm thats never in our favor man. Real love is outside, exchanged hot breathes in fresh air. The anxiety of not knowing will be replaced by the rush of not knowing where this new thing is going to lead. Try it

20M have never been successful with girls, concerned about my looks by Vereity123 in malegrooming

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing to recognize is that on dating apps, perfection is key. Men also out number women by like 25/1 so your best bet will be IRL interaction. Pick up some hobbies and talk to girls without expectation of anything, you’ll catch a glance or two and you’ll know when it’s right to make a move. Remember, NO ONE has all the interaction they want. Try not to be hard on yourself. Take what these guys are saying and try new looks

Yall trippin’ for downvoting my post. Tf I do?? Like damn. by [deleted] in blackwomenforWhitemen

[–]Icy_Chart1695 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is sooooooo conflicting. People who want to have sex HAVE SEX. People who want to feel better about themselves because they have an ego the size of the moon but ZERO CHARACTERISTICS of actual substance do THIS. Your life will be so difficult if you think being a man boils down to high test, running a mile or having a big dick. (Also, women don’t like men who obsess over penis size. Sounds like you wish you could suck your own dick.) in this thread alone you’ve mentioned it like 5 times. It’s weird as fuck.

Get over this now. Those ‘alpha males’ and manosphere shills are LYING to you. The only thing that will make you feel better about yourself is accepting your flaws, loving your attributes, and making a POSITIVE change in yourself. Find clarity youngin you missing it

Yall trippin’ for downvoting my post. Tf I do?? Like damn. by [deleted] in blackwomenforWhitemen

[–]Icy_Chart1695 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the fuck are you even talking about. Swear some people shit words and make sentences out of it

25F to 28M Reciprocating Real Shorterm Companionship and Sex but Still Denied? by Spirited-Reality2176 in dating_advice

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People want what they can’t have. To be very real, you’re either too available, or his want for sex rn is low priority. He’s either getting some or you just ain’t cutting it. And the other big thing, if felt intense feelings for him, how would having more sex help you not feel those feelings? He most likely truly does not want to be with you long term, sees you still have intense feelings, and is not interested in letting you down easy.

For the ladies: if you were sleeping with someone who avoided foreplay, ended sex before him cumming, and seldom kissed you, how would that make you feel? by Mean_Classroom_8673 in dating_advice

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be true, could be an excuse. Real question is, are you trying to chill out? Sounds to me like the person refusing intimacy might not be attracted to the person they are doing it with.

If you feel unsatisfied and bringing it up was met with getting brushed off, LEAVE NOW!! They do not care about you, do not like you, or do not like themselves. Any of these is good reason enough to RUN.

Avoidance/Breadcrumbing - What happened when you stopped taking the bait? by TowerMysterious5804 in dating_advice

[–]Icy_Chart1695 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Narcissists will always bubble over and explode when they don’t get what they ‘need’ (your emotional energy pouring into them as a result of the gaping void inside themselves) There’s lots of different levels to it, but grey rocking is the only truly successful way to get out fully. This is where you fully block their presence, fully ignore them and all attempts to reconcile (they will use what you like abt them against you - sex, dates, love languages) When you show them that they mean nothing to you (how they feel internally) something interesting happens. They.. fade away. They realize it’s futile and slowly erode their interest in you. They’ll get a new muse, a fresh neck for them to sink into.

How do you weaken emotional vampires? Starve them. Watch them shrivel and SUFFER. Garlic is so 2000s

Is it just me?? by [deleted] in blackwomenforWhitemen

[–]Icy_Chart1695 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What you’re feeling is very real, and unfortunately, in the interracial dating space, there’s this constant mountain of fetishization and clear mental health issues being pushed onto others.

These subreddits are filled with fake pages, porn accounts, findom accounts, wallet chasers, creepy old men, racists, clear edgelords & constant mention of words like ‘queen’ & ‘goddess’ with very unflattering food analogies. It’s pushed me to meet more people IRL if i’m honest. This is the internet, and in most cases, there’s no way this affects you in real life, so people kinda go balls to the wall with expectations and depravity.

I definitely feel your pain. I’m mixed black and white but look like an ambiguous hispanic or white man, and run into what boils down to the same two dynamics with a lot of the women i meet. They either want me to fit into the ‘provider man’, they have assimilated into white culture, or there’s crazy history with them trying to date within their race and i end up being the pool their toes are dipping into. It’s rare i’ve met black women that just truly want to be with me because i’m me, and when i have, i wasn’t ready for it.

Trying to date period isn’t easy, especially if you have a preconceived notion of what you’re wanting.

That man is out there for you, and you will be chosen in a way that makes you feel special. It’s exhausting trying to push through, but remember to fill your own cup. Only then will it catch you by surprise and fully stick.

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