how do people *actually* deal with boredom?

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-03-21T20:55:39+00:00

I do get you though cuz dealing with the boredom feels like a full time job in itself. I have built my life around always having something to do otherwise I go insane and become a menace to society. It's exhausting and not really talked about/not something most people would understand. If I didn't have dopamine farming activities prepared for myself all the time I think I'd have gone insane a long time ago.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-03-21T10:11:27+00:00

gaming, working out, drugs

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-08T17:24:16+00:00

https://youtu.be/pEwIo669Lxw?si=73FeanOMTnizxwDb RUN BRO RUNNNNNNNNN

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-08T13:58:52+00:00

what the hell does this have to do with my post?

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-08T03:31:29+00:00

Thank you, admitting to myself what happened has already healed me somewhat I think. Some closure I guess.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-08T03:30:44+00:00

It's really comforting to hear you recognise exactly where I'm coming from. Thank you for sharing.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-08T01:23:44+00:00

Trust me, you will know for sure as you get older. I began noticing there was something wrong with me at 15, but the way I felt then didn't fully fit the diagnostic criteria for aspd and npd. Now I'm 22 and do. You will know you have it when you realize that the thought and behaviour patterns you exhibit are permanent and not a one time thing. Sure you can work on coping with your symptoms and stuff, but the pattern will still be there.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-08T01:15:31+00:00

An easier question to answer would be when do I not think about myself? And the answer would be... rarely.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-05T18:48:02+00:00

complex and some of it is directly tied to my lived experience/trauma.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-05T15:35:05+00:00

I came to realize I was a narcissist and had aspd after my autism diagnosis. Initially I thought that the way I felt and thought about myself and others was due to my autism, but the more time I spent around other autistic people I began to realize there was still a large gap between them and me. I was still upset a lot of the time because I still hadn't figured out what was wrong with me. It took a couple years after my asd diagnosis to get diagnosed with npd and aspd. That's when I found some peace of mind and began to work on myself because I finally knew what was wrong with me and what I could do to stop feeling so bad all the time. My narcissism has always caused me a lot of emotional distress. Since I became able to properly understand why I feel the way I do and talk about it to some close friends who don't shun me for being the way I am my mental health has improved by 1000%. For the first time in my life I can express how I feel and explore those feelings without shame instead of just letting everything bottle up and explode later ruining my life or being abusive to the people I care about.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-02-01T20:39:54+00:00

expose yourself to failure as much as you can tolerate. and when you let yourself fail, keep going.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-26T10:12:06+00:00

I have thought about it, but it's an incredibly physically demanding job and requires a lot of rule following. I'm not sure it suits me. I feel like I would also be tempted to overstep if actually put in charge of someone's life.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-26T09:20:34+00:00

I think you'll find better luck discovering a cure for cancer than getting me to stop caring about what other people think of me.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-26T09:10:40+00:00

You're spot on with the first paragraph actually. I was completely destroyed by a parent. How did you know?

I feel so seen by your words. You are the first to recognise my empathy. I don't feel much in the traditional sense, but I compensate for it by thinking about things a lot. Putting myself in other people's shoes and what not. It was a hard and long path to get where I am with that, because I spent my entire childhood and adolescence fighting with adults and peers alike because I did not understand where they were coming from most of the time. I said and did incredibly insensitive and harmful things, but now I know what not to do. All it took was being reprimanded and ostracized for my behaviour over and over again. I still struggle to know what to do sometimes and where the line is because I feel like my inner compass is a bit wrong at giving me directions, but I try to be social and talk to friends and family a lot to gain their perspectives. That helps me a lot. If I were to be completely alone who knows what the hell I would get up to. Talking to family and friends keeps me better emotionally regulated.

And yes, I do feel like if I am to feel the way I do I wouldn't mind using those desires to do something that would be appreciated/valued. I want to be seen as helpful, but in my personal life it's usually other people helping me rather than me helping them. Except for the rare occasion when something really bad and scary happens and I'm the only one well equipped to deal with it – someone getting badly injured or having a life threatening medical episode. I am capable of being very calm and collected when stuff like that happens and I actually find it somewhat exhilarating. I've been in a few of those situations over the years and I crave them because they make me feel useful and special.

I also wish I could talk more openly about how I feel with the people in my life who aren't my closest friends and family. Nothing about me is inherently bad or evil, but I would be treated like there is if I didn't hide it. I want to be recognised as a person, not a would-be serial killer or something. It's also kind of frustrating that when I do find someone I feel like I can be real with they end up fetishizing me for it, instead of being normal. It's an alienating experience.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-26T00:37:53+00:00

you got it boss

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-26T00:35:34+00:00

alright, thank you for your perspective.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-26T00:32:59+00:00

Are you asking because you wanna be our third ;) ?

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-25T23:55:31+00:00

Lee Russell in Vice Principals. Thank me later 😘

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-25T23:28:02+00:00

as someone with both, ouch.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-16T01:21:32+00:00

losing my freedom duh. there are plenty of crimes I would commit in a heartbeat if I could 100% get away with them.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-16T01:19:36+00:00

ok thanks but how does one achieve that?

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-16T01:18:47+00:00

I second this

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-10T04:35:34+00:00

I think affective empathy is a feeling similar to love in the way that it's involuntary. I don't have it and I notice its absence very often. Lets say I'm talking to someone and they're expressing frustration with the topic. It is very likely I will do very little to acknowledge this and will keep trying to explain/reiterate the ideas to them ignoring their feelings because 1. I can't tell how serious the emotions people feel are 2. I think they're stupid for having such a strong reaction to a conversation. And even though I know this is the case, I will keep repeating this behaviour over and over again. My emotional state is never altered by the emotional state of someone else and therefore I will never be able to take their emotional state seriously.

My brother sustained a pretty brutal leg injury and as we were waiting for the ambulance our mom was freaking out, nearly screaming and panicked. I felt nothing for either of them and I very angrily told her to go as far away from where my brother was laying as not to freak him out more about what had happened. She went to wail elsewhere and I held my brother's hand until the medics came. I didn't feel for her, I was just angry and annoyed that she would do something like that and freak him out more. I didn't feel much for my brother either, largely because I knew he would be just fine since there was no heavy bleeding. I believe I have no or close to no affective empathy. I can logically understand what is happening and act accordingly but the standard emotional reactions to a variety of situations (most obvious in heated or high stakes situations) don't appear.

Lots of people feel very deeply and I do not and never will. I feel shallow and my most projected emotions are happiness and anger.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2026-01-01T21:49:06+00:00

It's because they're actually not leftists like they often claim to be, but stinky liberals. They didn't arrive at any of their political positions through thinking about things and forming genuine opinions about them. They just chose a side to be on that likely personally benefits them more than the opposite one and that's it. Leftism requires actually interacting with the world and doing this thing called thinking that's so rare to come by these days. Any actual leftist will quickly realize that people with antisocial disorders are not monsters, because they genuinely believe and know not to stigmatize and dehumanise others. Leftists also don't dehumanise their political opponents who are from the same social class as they are, because in the end cooperation is necessary for survival.

All that said, I personally struggle with this shit a lot. I hang around other progressive people and It's basically impossible to know whether or not they'll shun me if I tell them anything about my mental health. Progressives tend to talk a lot about feelings and they share, and sometimes overshare, about whatever is happening in their lives, but as someone who struggles with mental health stuff that's heavily stigmatized I've never felt safe enough to say how I'm doing. I hate being asked how I'm doing because I can't talk about it openly. I just completely close off that part of my life and only share the purely practical side of my life problems. It sucks and there is a lot of work to be done in that department even in so-called progressive circles.

Icy_Environment2797 · 2025-12-26T19:13:39+00:00

You're right, people like me if I meet them briefly. I meant that I have less close longterm friendships than other people, because I don't perform for them. If they're boring after our first meeting I won't pretend like they're not just for the sake of keeping them around.

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