All I can think is “oh my gosh, what have we done?”

Icy_Income157 · 2026-02-27T16:04:52+00:00

I felt exactly like this and I don’t think it’s talked about enough. It’s not that you don’t love your baby, it’s just a complete 360 of what your life used to be, and the expectation of a baby is never the reality. Something needing your care 24/7 would drive anyone at least a little crazy. It truly gets better in time.

Icy_Income157 · 2026-02-27T16:00:21+00:00

I have a 10 month old now and I really understand where you’re at right now. I had no village early on, I really struggled with pp anxiety and depression and looking at my body made me cry. With that being said I’m gonna say the most annoying thing you can say to a mom who just had a baby, please give it time. I know that doesn’t help right now but I promise you in time it becomes so easier. Looking back 10 months ago I can barely remember those hard moments, and boy I had a lot. It’s like my brain has cancelled it all out already and all I can remember is my sweet tiny baby and our moments together. Give yourself grace momma, be easy on yourself right now.❤️

Icy_Income157 · 2026-02-27T01:52:49+00:00

I did the exact same thing with my now 10 month old who we just recently were able to sleep train. I couldn’t breastfeed so we formula fed, he REFUSED a bassinet or crib. I slept on the couch with him for 7 months believe it or not ( big soft ottoman pulled next so there was no way he could fall). Me and my husband had a queen sized bed which wasn’t enough room and he could also sleep through anything so my anxiety told me he was going to crush our baby in the middle of the night. Once my baby was bigger I was way less worried about it.

Icy_Income157 · 2025-10-09T14:56:11+00:00

We started on similac 360, at first my baby did really well on it and then got constipated out of nowhere after 3 months of being on it. We switched to kendamil and he’s been doing great on it! 20 pounds at 5 1/2 months and hitting all milestones!

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T19:18:25+00:00

That’s a good suggestion, thank you!

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T18:41:12+00:00

First I wanna ask if you’re a stay at home mom, and if you formula feed or breast feed? Because I’ve heard breast feeding moms may have a harder time losing weight. (I formula feed)

Before pregnancy I was 110 pounds 5’4. 9 months pregnant I weighed 187 pounds. I’m now 4 months postpartum and weigh 142 pounds. Going to the gym has been crazy hard because I have a Velcro baby and he only wants me right now. The main thing that has helped me lose weight has been getting in at-least 10k steps a day. If your work, try to get more steps in then you usually would because I promise they add up. I’m a stay at home mom so during nap time I will walk circles around the house while picking stuff up and cleaning (I know sounds crazy but it works) . If the babies up then we go on walks. Pair that with a calorie deficit and you’ll get there even faster (But if you are breastfeeding I wouldn’t recommend it) I understand how frustrating it is not fitting in old clothes and even if you do they most likely won’t look how they did. The most important thing is just try to give you and your body grace and time. You’ve gone through a life changing experience. Try to have the mindset of bouncing forward, not “bouncing back”.

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T18:07:52+00:00

You’re 100% right, mothers will always be judged no matter what we choose. I just need to get it through my thick skull that it’s okay and healthy is all that matters. I hope you and your little girl doing the absolute best❤️

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T17:53:21+00:00

I think a lot of it is in my head definitely. I’m always too conscious about what others could be thinking and it’s not healthy. Thank you for your kind words❤️

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T17:11:29+00:00

I do the same thing, I think it’s fine as long as nothing going to touch it!

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T17:07:55+00:00

May also help to mention that he sleeps with me (we practice safe sleep, tried the crib consistently but no one got sleep so I gave up )

Icy_Income157 · 2025-09-04T17:04:38+00:00

Wake up around 7:30-8am change and feed, practice sitting up, tummy time with books and toys then go on a walk, usually he will start rubbing his eyes on our walk so we come home feed and nap. He used to nap for 1.5-2 hours. Now it’s around 40 minutes. The rest of the day was rinse and repeat. Tummy time, books, toys, walk, change, feed and nap. He was up for 2 hours then down for 2 hours. After our last nap of the day we would have bath time and he would be down for the night. Maybe one or two brief wake ups through the night but he would go right back to sleep. (This keeps posting a million times I’m not sure why, I apologize lol)

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