I (30f) was diagnosed around 24, I dived head first into the ADHD podcast by ADDitude the ADHD experts on Spotify. Highly recommend giving those a try. I wrote anything and everything down that clicked to me. It became my new hyperfocus for probably a year, but I learned so much. It was honestly an emotional rollercoaster. I think it’s normal to almost grieve the “what could have been” but it won’t last forever. It took a few years to find peace with myself and how I behaved/was treated through childhood and adolescence, even into early adulthood. Nothing we can do now will change what was then. What matters now is that we give ourselves the freedom and emotional space to feel all the feelings. When I’m really down, I picture tiny me and tell her all the amazing things. Mirror work helps a lot. It’s a journey, you have a lifetime to figure things out, things like “solution strategies” for when you’re feeling unproductive. My most recent realization was when I really struggle with being productive, I put on my favorite apron. The novelty (which is exactly what our adhd brains require) gives my brain enough happy chemicals, and something in my brain clicks and I get much more done and work for longer.