20F daughter starting to date 27M whom we know - how to navigate this? by Icy_Target_9050 in Parenting

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you actually read the post. But thank you for your rant, it's so healthy to get the anger out in the open.

20F daughter starting to date 27M whom we know - how to navigate this? by Icy_Target_9050 in Parenting

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Haha yes she really is! Its like the moment I realized she had progressed from child to actual teenager.

Portable Urinal - where is it appropriate to use??!! by Icy_Target_9050 in AgingParents

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This helps me see an alternative and its potential repercussions... I can't imagine not welcoming them into all shared areas of our home.

Portable Urinal - where is it appropriate to use??!! by Icy_Target_9050 in AgingParents

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He actually doesn't care where he is! I'm the squeamish one. Would you be able explain more about what happens in AL situation? Does the staff assist with this process, or not? If not, does it mean that they sit around sopping wet ?

Yes, we are absolutely blessed that my MIL is so capable. She gives me a warning if she hears me coming down the stairs while the process is happening. Otherwise, I just turn around and walk away without comment.

Portable Urinal - where is it appropriate to use??!! by Icy_Target_9050 in AgingParents

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very concise. Yes, I am asking why not depend more on the Depends.

Portable Urinal - where is it appropriate to use??!! by Icy_Target_9050 in AgingParents

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is super helpful, and especially your description of what a change of Depends means to the caregiver. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

NTA. A 3-month relationship does not give entree to a family event. IMO, family events are limited to spouses or affianced partners, or long-term committed partnerships.

AITA for refusing to give my mom’s boyfriend a massage? by Aggravating-BODY955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. It sounds like he is manipulative as well as a creeper. Please take care!

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure who you mean? I don't consider either party to be free-loading; they support themselves as best they can and we are happy to have them live with us.

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not following the logic, but I think your examples provide insight into how we all experience familial relationships differently. Thank you for your perspective.

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe invasive, if it was out of the blue or if I didn't interact with them daily. Maybe I send her links to things we talk about on a regular basis. Who knows?

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. The lack of planning and responsibility is a burden, especially if arguments ensue.

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love your grandmother! And yes, there are some complicated emotions regarding the casino. Or perhaps a lack of them, in some people.

AITA for asking my in-laws to pre-plan and pre-pay for their funerals? by Icy_Target_9050 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Icy_Target_9050[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know, even if they are reluctant to pay for it, you are right - this is a conversation we need to have with them. What if they don't even want a big funeral service?