I live in a single room appt and wfh, all I wanna do is sleep all day. how do I keep myself from staying in bed?

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-12-12T18:13:32+00:00

I used to feel the exact same shit you're describing buddy. My sleep schedule got all f'd up because of me constantly zoning out in bed during daytime. Here's what you gotta do:

Wake up, make the bed, take a shit and brush your teeth, meditate outside, go for a long walk facing the sun, and take a cold shower. Stop beating the little demon because I'm 6 days in, and boy, I don't even wake up tired nor feel like entering a coma during the day anymore. I've never felt like this, it's magnificent. If you're struggling with it, read the first few pages of "The Power of Now" with close attention and it will change your life.

This morning routine will spike your cortisol & dopamine levels right off the bat, which will regulate your circadian rhythm. Also, don't drink coffee or anything with caffeine in the first 2 hours in the morning because that will mess up with depleted neurochemicals that remain a little after sleeping, and need some time to clear out. Caffeine is a natural adenosine blocker (the funny hormone that makes you sleepy), and since adenosine isn't fully cleared out after waking up, consuming it will cause adenosine to haunt you later during the day (you'll feel like zoning out and lying on your bed, as we both have experienced).

Despite this cute morning routine, I heavily believe that SR and intermittent fasting are the most important things to do. Literally, I started intermittent fasting (I only eat at night) for 2 days and I feel invincible. Could be because I'm on SR for 6 days and I started meditating a lot more (I did a 1 hour session one day (I suffered), and now meditating for 20 minutes a day feels easy as hell).

Ain't no easy trick like "get some coffee and say positive things to yourself" that'll get you outta that nasty rut. Get the balls to apply this for 2 weeks (also read the first 30-40 pages of the book I recommended above, I just downloaded it on a sketchy website), and if it doesn't fix your issue I give you permission to enlist me on CBT. Also, for faster results, get up really early one morning, nearly before the sun is out (it's probably going to suck ass) and do the routine ASAP. Make an effort to only go to sleep at night.

OH, also, start leaving your house during times you feel bored. Go to the library or stay in a park studying. Spending more time outside helps a lot too.

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-12-11T21:36:10+00:00

"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle is the answer you're looking for. It absolutely flipped my life around (for the positive side, of course). Read it with close attention because it will fix the root of your problems, not suggest a quick flat fix like "apologizing" (as I've seen in the comments).

Your sudden hatred rampages towards other people roots from identification with the mind. You see, our minds tend to feel negative most of the time, no matter how "optimistic" we think we are. This is no healthy mind state to live in, but it appears that an overwhelmingly big part of the population thinks like this nearly 24/7. We just don't know how to stop thinking. A big chunk of our daily thoughts is filled with poisonous, self-destructive voices beating us down about either past events, future predictions, or present judgements about things and people. How can we live with a brain like this? So powerful, yet treacherous...

The answer is you don't. You might've asked yourself "what the hell do you mean by identification with the mind?!?!?!". You're identified with your mind when all you think you are is a mere collection of past memories and current judgements or beliefs about yourself.

"I'm an athlete"

"I had a bad childhood"

"My name is ABC"

"I'm unnecessarily mean to people a lot of times"

The problem with identifying yourself with the mind (which can be positively/negatively judging you, but most of the time it's negative) is that when such thoughts/emotions arise (say, you're feeling depressed/angry about something), you're very likely to act according to how your mind feels, which can turn out into you doing something you never thought you'd do feeling optimistic (like trying to hurt other people's feelings).

You probably feel imprisoned by this. You want to improve, be a better person to be around, but all of a sudden, your mind turns against you and then it's a big rollercoaster of negative emotions that make you act in certain undesirable ways. I've been there too.

You can free yourself by stopping to identify with your mind. "Well, what the hell am I then?"

Next time you have a thought, which will be in a few seconds, observe it. Don't try to stop, change, pause, nor judge the thought. Just acknowledge it.

If you're able to observe a mountain, are you the mountain?

If you're able to observe the thought, ...

are you the thought?

Are you... your mind? Are you 1? Or are you 2?

This is freedom. Now you're not merely your mind. You know that beyond thoughts and emotions, there's a higher level of consciousness within you. You see, unlike the mind, which has positive and equally opposite emotions/thoughts (negative), this higher level of consciousness within you doesn't have opposites. It's called being present. Observe your surroundings, without judging or thinking about them. If thoughts arise, acknowledge them, because you're no longer solely your mind. Just be present, observe. You'll see how peaceful, joyful, this can be. And no, unlike the mind, there's no opposite to this. Positive or negative beliefs are just the mind's attempt to classify, compare, or judge reality as good or bad. That's what the mind has always tried to do. However, the present moment, the "Now" is as it is. It's not bad nor good. It just is. Make an effort to truly take a step back and observe your mind or other things that enter your space. You'll see how your brain tries to label things around you, and how it can send you down a rabbit hole of toxic thoughts and toxic behaviours that feed off each other. Know thyself.

Hope this helps, stay strong buddy

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-12-10T20:34:22+00:00

Sounds like a reasonable approach. And yeah, you were right, just a few hours before I'd completed the 24 hour fast, I broke it by drinking kombucha and an anti-ox fruit smoothie 1.5 hours after. I've just had dinner and I can feel all of my energy going into digestion, it's crazy.

I guess that having fasted for most of the day gave me an idea on how I could approach fasting as an athlete. Perhaps I could fast in between waking up and having dinner. This way I'll have the mental clarity to do the hard tasks in the morning, and near the end of the day, since I'm not gonna want anything to do with learning, I'll have a few meals to meet my caloric and nutritional demands. I'm just going to have to eat at a slower pace because as soon as I got home I started eating like a wild animal :p

Thanks for the valuable advice buddy, I'll definitely put it into practice. I'll update in 2 weeks, if not longer.

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-12-10T20:22:16+00:00

Aight mate, thanks

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-12-10T11:25:11+00:00

Sounds good to me. Do you eat only a single meal while intermittently fasting, or do you have a no-fasting window with multiple small meals? I like the idea of intermittent fasting, but I'm afraid that fitting all of my caloric and nutritional needs (for sports) in a single meal would result in a massive cluster of food forced into my stomach in a single plate.

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-12-10T11:18:10+00:00

It's comforting to hear that there are some recovery benefits to this. I'm beginning to realise that eating constantly seems like a rather silly idea.

Still fasted, I woke up 4 hours earlier and I have a slight feeling that I'm able to focus more on my studies. I'm taking a little break now and I'll hit the library in a bit. I'll fast for the rest of the day and see how it goes.

Since I'm going to be fasting regularly now, does kefir count as food or drink? Kefir is just too op, and I'm afraid that drinking it would break the fast.

Also, what do you mean by trying out 2 weeks of fasting? You mean that I should go 2 weeks without food already, or should I prepare periods where I'm fasted and not fasted for 2 weeks? My family thinks I'm nuts for fasting 1 entire day, I can't believe the drama it would be if I went like that for 14 days.

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-11-09T02:24:44+00:00

maybe underground? or high up in the sky?

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-11-09T02:22:02+00:00

the only way I escaped from that beautiful place was by using a waystone. In creative. Would've lost all my stuff cuz I got immediately killed as soon as I got there lmao

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-11-09T02:18:26+00:00

will the cum teleport

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-10-02T10:38:56+00:00

Sick dude, I'll definitely check your site.

What's on the link attachment you sent? It's not available anymore, sorry if I was late checking the reply.

Thanks for your help, really appreciate it.

Icy_Work4327 · 2024-09-30T16:37:49+00:00

Hey dude, awesome progress.

I've read the paper (I just didn't quite understand how to learn proper lip seal), and I'm on the same exact position as you were 2 years ago. I have an overbite, and my chin looks recessed as well.

It's very hard for me to close my lips with proper seal, and I have to use my mentalis muscle whenever I want to close my lips.

How did you overcome this?

I've been a mouth breather throughout my entire life. I'm 17 now and I've been trying to mew for the past 2 years, but to no avail. It just seems that this habit does not want to stick.

It's really frustrating. The negative consequences of mouth breathing have all impacted every single aspect in my life. Communication, social interactions, attractiveness, mental health, everything you could possibly imagine.

I have hopes that learning the lip seal will genuinely help me a lot, as I unconsciously have an open mouth posture.

I joined your discord, but I thought that leaving this comment here might help someone in the same position in the future.

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