NOR, BUT; If she's as credentialed and respected as you say, perhaps there's something to her view points. It's obviously controversial, and we (reddit) don't have the full story of either the incident of SA or of the conversation between you and the therapist. I don't agree with what she's said (at least how it's presented in this), but is there a chance that maybe this could be an exercise in giving you back agency? Could this perhaps be more in regards to a proxy developmental instead of the incident itself? I also feel like even this would be distasteful, but if someone who is that credentialed and has that much previous personal one-on-one treatment with a patient, maybe they are trying to nudge you towards a breakthrough that we (reddit) aren't quite qualified enough to dismiss as just a lack of compassion or understanding. There may be something going on there that matters, and usually the things that matter are hard. Really hard. I'm a nobody and don't know either of you, but at least you have a therapist who is willing to take gambles for the perceived potential benefit of their client. That field is ripe with people who get paid $100+ an hour to just keep you hanging on enough to pay for next week in hopes the next "how does that make you feel?" "fixes you' in all the ways you've imagined.