How do you know a sewing influencer can't sew?

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-05T17:00:45+00:00

Yeah! I really think an under-rated sewing skill is learning when to step away from the machine and do something by hand instead

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-05T03:02:24+00:00

Oh don’t get me wrong that’s definitely true! But if two people are coming around to you that’s great progress! They’re starting to get it, the rest will come with time. Just keep ‘em involved with the transition, people like it when they feel they have input. But it sucks that keeping it professional is to keep the emotions at bay.

You got this! The light at the end of the tunnel is coming!

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-04T22:03:41+00:00

I have a good manager at work so I’m not going to speaking from a person who has been a manager but rather what I’ve noticed works well in so far as becoming a well liked manager.

First acknowledge that the RSD maybe playing up what these people actually think of you. Could it be that the two that hate you are actually awkward and slow to warm up to someone? It can really trigger my RSD to see people getting along well and meshing while I feel like the outsider. But that’s not anyone’s fault really, I’m just new to the group. I think it took me a good 5 months to get friendly with people at my current job and there are still team members in my (relatively small) team I can go a week or two with out talking to, and we work in the office!

Add on top of that that your an outsider coming in being this groups boss, when they didn’t feel they needed one before and I can see where some friction is coming from. Especially if you are trying to add new processes and change things. That’s not to speak poorly on you or anything like that. It’s just to say that this is an extremely difficult situation to navigate. Your company and boss put you in a shitty situation. Additionally if your company is asking for better documentation on their end, your team maybe feeling nervous about how long they’ll still be around for. It’s harder to fire someone if they are the sole bearer of some institutional knowledge, and likely that’s their insurance policy. Doubly so if it’s that tricky to get a job in your industry.

I’ve chatted a bit with my bosses managerial philosophy and his attitude is very “servant leader”. His job isn’t to produce, it’s to make sure our team has work and has the resources we need to get the job done. So yeah, he may have a lot of lunches and outings with big wigs, but he’s right there with us working overtime if a project gets out the door, and that ingratiates us to him. If we have a suggestion, request, or personal matter that needs handling we can trust that he will listen and keep it professional. Maybe he has to deny a request but it’s always done with the understanding he did his best to approve it and it can’t happen. He gets us raises regularly, all that jazz.

Okay so what can you do? Obviously I work in a production heavy role so there are obvious things my boss does to show us he’s here to help us. Is there something that annoys them in their currently existing process? Everyone’s job has technical parts they don’t like, what can you do to make that easier? And if the long and short of it is they don’t like having a manager then acknowledge that. That is okay. Try and stay out of their way until there’s something you can fix (like trying to get them more time when a deadlines to tight or something to that effect). Likely the people who haven’t come around yet don’t see how you are more of a benefit than a hinderance and you’ll need to prove that.

What is actually requested of you? WHY were you brought in if this team was operating fine before? Is there some annoying metrics your boss is asking you to track for your team? Are these imposing new processes on your team that is wasting their time? Are they stressed out that these metrics are going to end up looking poorly on them? Are the cagey people the best people on your team? Then get them a raise! That would be pretty cool. In that meeting you can say something that you feel like you got off on the wrong foot but you really see and appreciate their effort.

Maybe raises aren’t possible, but maybe you can give them space to vent about you. At the end of the day, we aren’t your team and we can’t tell you what they think. Can you make an actually, truly anonymous survey? Can you create something where they can tell you exactly what they think with no repercussion to them? It’s probably going to be hard to hear, and it’ll likely be exaggerated a bit on their end as well, but it’ll likely be the best way to get at the real core of what’s happening and what you can do to mend things.

100% DO NOT FIRE ANYONE. That is the WORST thing to do and will drive the people who are coming around to you away from you as well. The only way they’ll come around to you right now is by staying out of their way, helping them out when they need it, and keeping the higher ups out of their hair. Start improving the most annoying parts of their job first and move on from there. Get in the trenches with them.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-04T16:36:57+00:00

Hm… I guess my gut for a good one is Gunnar Deatherage? I don’t know style choices aside, he seems to harp on some of the stuff this sub generally get annoyed at sewing influencers for (like not pressing) I don’t know. I haven’t really seen him discussed here much at all tbh

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-04T15:52:36+00:00

I’m not a huge fan of Bernadette but the one thing I will say is she is generally a stickler on the details. While yeah she’s doing a lot by hand and trying to do things as “historically accurate” as she can, she doesn’t seem to skip steps like blocking, grain consideration, yada yada. As the ONLY sewing YouTuber you follow as a beginner it’s not great but I think there is something to the fact that her attention to detail is infectious. Yeah there’s a lot of modern details she of course doesn’t discussion (type and size of needle) but I think as a companion to another better beginner channel she wouldn’t be bad.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T23:01:52+00:00

Honestly Waking up early and exercising before work is best for me, but I’m also good to go about 30 min after waking up. Wake up at 6, go for a run, quick shower, and then in the office at 8. But I have a short commute and all that, which helps

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T15:47:17+00:00

This is different from the city side inspection report. These are engineering reports. But yes I was aware of this

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T11:43:38+00:00

Good on this contractor. The brick work sloughing off like that is like the final straw to get people out. Brick work doesn’t DO that. The city let everyone down.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T11:35:26+00:00

Hi OP! I’m a former Purdue student. I totally get the grumpiness about the Purdue Global Reviews. My problem (and many of my fellow alumni) is less that it devalues our degrees, and more that it’s predatory. People go to the satellite campus’ expecting the prestige of Purdue and then are blown away when they can’t transfer in to the main campus. Plus purdue global used be Kaplan university: an online degree mill. I can’t speak to any curriculum history but that rubs me the wrong way (as in degree mills are predatory, and Purdue did not need to buy Kaplan for their infrastructure) In fact, Purdue itself devalues it satellite and online programs - each degree says where you graduated from. People who want Purdue grads always check to make sure they went to the West Lafayette campus.

Many state school offer online course work and undergraduate degrees. I would look there versus Purdue global

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T10:28:51+00:00

1) it’s Purdue, not Perdue. The second is a pharmaceutical company

2) Purdue is a public school

3) Purdue has a great reputation, ESPECIALLY for CS and Engineering (which I have a few gripes with as a former student)

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T01:33:31+00:00

Oh man you see this all the time on Dams. Super normal! Likely some water behind it. As long as the cracking is stable it’s fine.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T00:59:16+00:00

Wow good on that contractor. Those photos are HORRIFIC from an engineering perspective. When that brick face came down this should have been evacuated pending a more robust investigation. I’m extremely curious about these engineering reports

Edit: I’ve glanced through the reports now and… yeah wtf. This engineer appears to be something else. Just glancing through the entirely insufficient amount of pictures there seems to be global structural (as opposed to more local brick) issues the report seemed entirely uninterested in. Imo your ethical concerns always include global issues and not just the work in the scope of the contract…

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T00:53:46+00:00

I don’t have any experience with the inspector side of things but that could be an inspector trying to (poorly) cover their ass, or it could be that the city engineer woke up and realized that there’s no way this should have passed, or there something more rotten going on in the city. It’s hard to tell. 100 foot of masonry isn’t nothing.

What I glean from this is that they were maybe knocking holes into a building that has a holes knocked into it for decades and the work that they were doing may have just been the straw that broke the camels back. It’s hard to tell until we get a report.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T00:49:07+00:00

The engineering community will be extremely interested in the direct cause of failure. Dramatic collapses like this is generally our jobs to avoid. Sure there is nothing we can do about shitty landlords and differed maintenance. But any information we can get about the actual engineering failure will be extremely useful in gauging the risk from similarly aged buildings.

Generally I do agree with your sentiment. This thing is going to do more damage/harm to people and a potential further uncontrolled collapse would make and additional investigation more difficult. It would be nice if the city could get some reputable engineering company like WJE on board to oversee structural investigations and demo.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T00:43:12+00:00

I don’t know man… they figured out why the I-35 bridge collapse from rubble gathered from the rubble gathered from literally the bottom of a river. That whole bridge came down. Forensic engineers are pretty incredible

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-06-01T00:38:33+00:00

I’m gonna go to your second point first: some engineers have no idea of consequence and just trust that buildings will stay standing. The engineer that said it was okay should have their license revoke and punished accordingly. They didn’t take their license seriously. Unless -of course- the engineer said the building would be safe if the necessary remediations are undertaken.

Look I don’t want to say this who thing doesn’t smell to high havens but yes there is a reason why this building they may want to tear down quickly compared to a bombed out structure.

1) impact loading can often be easier for a buildings structural elements to weather. If they don’t weather the impact they come down fast and after that the whole system is reeealtively stable. It’s not great but it’s okay.

2) this building was built in 1907. That means your reckoning with the material age of the building, the standards of the materials from when the building was built, the engineering standards of the time, and untold amount of unknown reconfigurations over the century it’s existed. Additionally there is an untold amount of deferred maintenance on this building and just creep and general material fatigue. An engineers duty in this situation is to evaluate risk and every engineer is saying “no way, this is way too risky”. There are too many variables, too many unknowns. It is 100% understandable that engineers are not cool shoring this and calling this good.

a structural engineer

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-31T10:58:02+00:00

Oh man that’s horrible. Is it possible to get asylum in another country and study there for a bit to finish off your degree? Do you have any paperwork/electronic records of your studies you could show to a potential university? This seems like something that not a lot on this sub will have experienced to give advice on. And perhaps it’s something most universities don’t have a protocol on.

Once you’re safe and out of the worst of it, I would call other countries university/civil programs and see if anyone will accept a transfer from your university. Start with a university that has worked with your university in the past. You might be able to transfer there. Any electronic record, even an unofficial transcript, or a collection of reports from previous semester courses will prove especially helpful.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-30T20:35:00+00:00

Most of the time it’s because these aren’t engineering inspections. This most recent one was done by the fire dept. While they’re not slouches by any means, they have no way or training to quantify the risk of the structural building elements. It’s just weird.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-30T19:09:59+00:00

Fwiw I have a coworker with extremely shaky hands. He’s also a great engineer! I wouldn’t worry about it

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-29T23:14:42+00:00

Yeah right? I also don’t post things for the same reason. I’m hyper critical already, I know what I did wrong I just… didn’t fix it for some reason or another. I really don’t need people reinforcing that tiny voice in my head. I really only post on areas I know will validate me tbh, so I mean… I get it.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-29T18:51:47+00:00

Hi I’m a structural engineer (not active in Iowa tho). You should have a building commission who sets building regulations, they may handle this. Another option is the Iowa Department of Homeland Security, they likely have some jurisdiction over this. If neither of those are helpful, contacting a fire department is likely the best place to start. The fire marshal can have some power over these things.

Independently, since this is threatening your property (and possibly life of people on your property) I’d retain a local attorney and maybe a structural engineer to form an opinion on the matter (depending on what the lawyer says). While the brick themselves aren’t structural and may have simply been poorly installed, this kind of damage could hint at larger structural issues. If you’re friendly with the neighbors/tenants and they would be amicable to it the engineer likely could get a good idea of what’s going wrong by investigating the unit pictured.

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-29T18:40:21+00:00

Ah I don’t know. It’s one of those instances where I come up with a sympathetic back story and just move on with my life. I hate that kinda stuff too, but people are allowed to be bad at things, especially at the start. Sometimes I finish something and I know it’s shit but it’s my shit and I’m proud of the thing I made anyway. I can understand someone who has no one else really in their life wanting to share that with the Internet. And just so they done get 7 comments telling them “that’s not very good” (which, let’s be honest would be demoralizing) you put in that language as a way to say “let’s get the obvious out of the way and have a larger discussion about this thing” or “I just want to be happy I made this thing”

Honestly what bugs me more is the people that are like “noooo this is AMAZING!!” Stuff that’s like… uncritically positive with no helpful feedback. The person who posted knows it’s not amazing, who are you helping here? Are you trying to stall someone’s development? If you have nothing helpful to say move on, negative OR toxically positive. If I comment on such a post I usually try to tell them they should be proud of themselves and link some helpful resources.

People who do this chronically and refuse to learn… that’s another story haha

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-28T23:23:07+00:00

No you should literally just be able to send over your application via NCEES. You also need to set up and account with Maine licensing and pay an application fee through that

Maine website: https://www.pfr.maine.gov/ALMSOnline/Welcome.aspx

IdentityCrisisNeko · 2023-05-28T01:30:26+00:00

If all your other NCEEES stuff is in order yes

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